Comments on: A Lavish Asian Wedding in London http://www.zawaj.com/a-lavish-asian-wedding-in-london/ Muslim Matrimonials, Muslim Wedding Photos, and Arab Singles Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:44:11 -0800 hourly 1 By: SisterZ http://www.zawaj.com/a-lavish-asian-wedding-in-london/comment-page-1/#comment-208 SisterZ Sun, 28 Feb 2010 12:51:11 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/?p=1038#comment-208 It could be for various reasons. - It could be because some people are loaded and just want to throw a big party. - For some, it is representative of their worldly status, so yes, prestige etc - Some people do not have the money and just think they have to have the best menu, best venue, best dress, alot of gold, music pumping, best photographer etc as they want to fit in. - Or simply - they just don't know any better and may not be very close to deen. - One partner may want a simple occassion, while the other may want a lavish/un-islamic occassion. I would say that in this case, they may be not right for each other. I attended a wedding where the bride to be's parents wanted a simple occassion and preferred not to have any music. However, the bride and groom wanted a lavish occassion with music. The bride's parents gave in, but wondered why their daughter would not 'listen' to them. That 'big day' can be quite representative of how close the couple are to their deen. May Allah guide us all. There are natural disasters such as Tsunamis and Earthquakes in Indonesia, Haiti, Chile and man made disasters such as in Palestine, Chechnya, Afghanistan etc. People are suffering and are lacking basic necessities in life like food, a roof over their heads, clothes to cover their bodies. Newly wed couples are putting themselves in situations where they are having to take out mortgages and deal with interest in order to buy properties. All this and more, because some people are throwing around hard earned money just to have these luxurious weddings. Its a real shame. May Allah open our minds and grant us with wisdom and eemaan and knowledge. It could be for various reasons.

- It could be because some people are loaded and just want to throw a big party.

- For some, it is representative of their worldly status, so yes, prestige etc

- Some people do not have the money and just think they have to have the best menu, best venue, best dress, alot of gold, music pumping, best photographer etc as they want to fit in.

- Or simply – they just don’t know any better and may not be very close to deen.

- One partner may want a simple occassion, while the other may want a lavish/un-islamic occassion. I would say that in this case, they may be not right for each other.

I attended a wedding where the bride to be’s parents wanted a simple occassion and preferred not to have any music. However, the bride and groom wanted a lavish occassion with music. The bride’s parents gave in, but wondered why their daughter would not ‘listen’ to them. That ‘big day’ can be quite representative of how close the couple are to their deen. May Allah guide us all.

There are natural disasters such as Tsunamis and Earthquakes in Indonesia, Haiti, Chile and man made disasters such as in Palestine, Chechnya, Afghanistan etc. People are suffering and are lacking basic necessities in life like food, a roof over their heads, clothes to cover their bodies.

Newly wed couples are putting themselves in situations where they are having to take out mortgages and deal with interest in order to buy properties.

All this and more, because some people are throwing around hard earned money just to have these luxurious weddings. Its a real shame.

May Allah open our minds and grant us with wisdom and eemaan and knowledge.

]]> By: wael http://www.zawaj.com/a-lavish-asian-wedding-in-london/comment-page-1/#comment-201 wael Sun, 28 Feb 2010 06:09:34 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/?p=1038#comment-201 Is it considered to be a matter of prestige to have an expensive wedding, or family honor, or what? Is it considered to be a matter of prestige to have an expensive wedding, or family honor, or what?

]]> By: SisterZ http://www.zawaj.com/a-lavish-asian-wedding-in-london/comment-page-1/#comment-193 SisterZ Sat, 27 Feb 2010 19:41:51 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/?p=1038#comment-193 Asalaamualaikum Wael, Unfortunately, these kind of lavish dramatic weddings have become pretty common in the Indian Subcontinent. Loads of money is spent on putting on this 'pathetic' one day show, or in most cases 3 or 4 day show. Its un-Islamic and probably void of any barakah. I agree, the money, time and effort should be spent on a much more worthy cause. May Allah give us the Wisdom to gear our efforts in the right direction - Aameen. Sister Z Asalaamualaikum Wael,

Unfortunately, these kind of lavish dramatic weddings have become pretty common in the Indian Subcontinent. Loads of money is spent on putting on this ‘pathetic’ one day show, or in most cases 3 or 4 day show. Its un-Islamic and probably void of any barakah. I agree, the money, time and effort should be spent on a much more worthy cause.

May Allah give us the Wisdom to gear our efforts in the right direction – Aameen.

Sister Z

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