Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Book 62:
Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah), Hadiths
101 to 177
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 101:
Narrated Safiyya bint Shaiba:
The Prophet gave a banquet with two Mudds of barley on marrying
some of his wives. (1 Mudd= 1 3/4 of a kilogram) .
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 102:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar:
Allah's Apostle said, "If anyone of you is invites to
a wedding banquet, he must go for it (accept the invitation)
."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 103:
Narrated Abu Musa:
The Prophet said, "Set the captives free, accept the
invitation (to a wedding banquet), and visit the patients."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 104:
Narrated Al-Bara' bin 'Azib:
The Prophet ordered us to do seven (things) and forbade us
from seven. He ordered us to visit the patients, to follow the
funeral procession, to reply to the sneezer (i.e., say to him,
'Yarhamuka-l-lah (May Allah bestow His Mercy upon you), if he
says 'Al-hamdulillah' (Praise be to Allah), to help others to
fulfill their oaths, to help the oppressed, to greet (whomever
one should meet), and to accept the invitation (to a wedding
banquet). He forbade us to wear golden rings, to use silver utensils,
to use Mayathir (cushions of silk stuffed with cotton and placed
under the rider on the saddle), the Qasiyya (linen clothes containing
silk brought from an Egyptian town), the Istibraq (thick silk)
and the Dibaj (another kind of silk). (See Hadith No. 539 and
753).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 105:
Narrated Sahl bin Sad:
Abu Usaid As-Sa'di invited Allah's Apostle to his wedding
party and his wife who was the bride, served them on that day.
Do you know what drink she gave Allah's Apostle? She had soaked
some dates for him (in water) overnight, and when he had finished
his meal she gave him that drink (of soaked dates).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 106:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The worst food is that of a wedding banquet to which only
the rich are invited while the poor are not invited. And he who
refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Apostle
.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 107:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "If I am invited to a meal of trotters
I will accept it; and if I am given a trotter as a present I
will accept it."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 108:
Narrated Nafi':
Abdullah bin 'Umar said, "Allah's Apostle said, 'Accept
the marriage invitation if you are invited to it.' " Ibn
'Umar used to accept the invitation whether to a wedding banquet
or to any other party, even when he was fasting.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 109:
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
Once the Prophet saw some women and children coming from a
wedding party. He got up energetically and happily and said,
"By Allah! You (i.e., the Ansar) are the most beloved of
all people to me."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 110:
Narrated Aisha:
(the wife of the Prophet) I bought a cushion having on it
pictures (of animals). When Allah's Apostle saw it, he stood
at the door and did not enter. I noticed the sign of disapproval
on his face and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I repent to Allah
and His Apostle. What sin have I committed?' Allah's Apostle
said. "What is this cushion?" I said, "I have
bought it for you so that you may sit on it and recline on it."
Allah's Apostle said, "The makers of these pictures will
be punished on the Day of Resurrection, and it will be said to
them, 'Give life to what you have created (i.e., these pictures).'
" The Prophet added, "The Angels of (Mercy) do not
enter a house in which there are pictures (of animals)."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 111:
Narrated Sahl:
When Abu Usaid As-Sa'idi got married, he invited the Prophet
and his companions. None prepared the food for them and brought
it to them but his wife. She soaked some dates in water in a
stone pot overnight, and when the Prophet had finished his food,
she provided him with that drink (of soaked dates).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 112:
Narrated Sahl bin Sad:
Abu Usaid As-Sa'idi invited the Prophet to his wedding party
and his wife served him on that day, and she was the bride. She
said (or Sahl said), "Do you know what she soaked for Allah's
Apostle? She soaked some dates for him (in water) in a drinking
bowl overnight."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 113:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "The woman is like a rib; if you
try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get
benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 114:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the
Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise
you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib
and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if
you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it,
it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 115:
Narrated Ibn 'Umar:
During the lifetime of the Prophet we used to avoid chatting
leisurely and freely with our wives lest some Divine inspiration
might be revealed concerning us. But when the Prophet had died,
we started chatting leisurely and freely (with them).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 116:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar:
The Prophet said, "Everyone of you is a guardian and
everyone of you is responsible (for his wards). A ruler is a
guardian and is responsible(for his subjects); a man is a guardian
of his family and responsible (for them); a wife is a guardian
of her husband's house and she is responsible (for it), a slave
is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible (for
that). Beware! All of you are guardians and are responsible (for
your wards)."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 117:
Narrated 'Aisha:
Eleven women sat (at a place) and promised and contracted
that they would not conceal anything of the news of their husbands.
The first one said, "My husband is like the meat of a lean
weak camel which is kept on the top of a mountain which is neither
easy to climb, nor is the meat fat, so that one might put up
with the trouble of fetching it." The second one said, "I
shall not relate my husband's news, for I fear that I may not
be able to finish his story, for if I describe him, I will mention
all his defects and bad traits." The third one said, "My
husband is a tall man; if I describe him (and he hears of that)
he will divorce me, and if I keep quiet, he will neither divorce
me nor treat me as a wife." The fourth one said, "My
husband is a moderate person like the night of Tihama which is
neither hot nor cold. I am neither afraid of him, nor am I discontented
with him." The fifth one said, "My husband, when entering
(the house) is a leopard, and when going out, is a lion. He does
not ask about whatever is in the house." The sixth one said,
"If my husband eats. he eats too much (leaving the dishes
empty), and if he drinks he leaves nothing, and if he sleeps
he sleeps alone (away from me) covered in garments and does not
stretch his hands here and there so as to know how I fare (get
along)." The seventh one said, "My husband is a wrong-doer
or weak and foolish. All the defects are present in him. He may
injure your head or your body or may do both." The eighth
one said, "My husband is soft to touch like a rabbit and
smells like a Zarnab (a kind of good smelling grass)." The
ninth one said, "My husband is a tall generous man wearing
a long strap for carrying his sword. His ashes are abundant and
his house is near to the people who would easily consult him."
The tenth one said, "My husband is Malik, and what is Malik?
Malik is greater than whatever I say about him. (He is beyond
and above all praises which can come to my mind). Most of his
camels are kept at home (ready to be slaughtered for the guests)
and only a few are taken to the pastures. When the camels hear
the sound of the lute (or the tambourine) they realize that they
are going to be slaughtered for the guests." The eleventh
one said, "My husband is Abu Zar and what is Abu Zar (i.e.,
what should I say about him)? He has given me many ornaments
and my ears are heavily loaded with them and my arms have become
fat (i.e., I have become fat). And he has pleased me, and I have
become so happy that I feel proud of myself. He found me with
my family who were mere owners of sheep and living in poverty,
and brought me to a respected family having horses and camels
and threshing and purifying grain . Whatever I say, he does not
rebuke or insult me. When I sleep, I sleep till late in the morning,
and when I drink water (or milk), I drink my fill. The mother
of Abu Zar and what may one say in praise of the mother of Abu
Zar? Her saddle bags were always full of provision and her house
was spacious. As for the son of Abu Zar, what may one say of
the son of Abu Zar? His bed is as narrow as an unsheathed sword
and an arm of a kid (of four months) satisfies his hunger. As
for the daughter of Abu Zar, she is obedient to her father and
to her mother. She has a fat well-built body and that arouses
the jealousy of her husband's other wife. As for the (maid) slave
girl of Abu Zar, what may one say of the (maid) slavegirl of
Abu Zar? She does not uncover our secrets but keeps them, and
does not waste our provisions and does not leave the rubbish
scattered everywhere in our house." The eleventh lady added,
"One day it so happened that Abu Zar went out at the time
when the milk was being milked from the animals, and he saw a
woman who had two sons like two leopards playing with her two
breasts. (On seeing her) he divorced me and married her. Thereafter
I married a noble man who used to ride a fast tireless horse
and keep a spear in his hand. He gave me many things, and also
a pair of every kind of livestock and said, 'Eat (of this), O
Um Zar, and give provision to your relatives." She added,
"Yet, all those things which my second husband gave me could
not fill the smallest utensil of Abu Zar's." 'Aisha then
said: Allah's Apostle said to me, "I am to you as Abu Zar
was to his wife Um Zar."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 118:
Narrated 'Ursa:
Aisha said, "While the Ethiopians were playing with their
small spears, Allah's Apostle screened me behind him and I watched
(that display) and kept on watching till I left on my own."
So you may estimate of what age a little girl may listen to amusement.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 119:
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas :
I had been eager to ask 'Umar bin Al-Khattab about the two
ladies from among the wives of the Prophet regarding whom Allah
said 'If you two (wives of the Prophet namely Aisha and Hafsa)
turn in repentance to Allah, your hearts are indeed so inclined
(to oppose what the Prophet likes). (66.4) till 'Umar performed
the Hajj and I too, performed the Hajj along with him. (On the
way) 'Umar went aside to answer the call of nature, and I also
went aside along with him carrying a tumbler full of water, and
when 'Umar had finished answering the call of nature, I poured
water over his hands and he performed the ablution. Then I said
to him, "O chief of the Believers! Who were the two ladies
from among the wives of the Prophet regarding whom Allah said:
'If you two (wives of the Prophet) turn in repentance to Allah
your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet
likes)?" (66.4) He said, "I am astonished at your question,
O Ibn Abbas. They were 'Aisha and Hafsa." Then 'Umar went
on narrating the Hadith and said, "I and an Ansari neighbor
of mine from Bani Umaiyya bin Zaid who used to live in Awali-al-Medina,
used to visit the Prophet in turn. He used to go one day and
I another day. When I went, I would bring him the news of what
had happened that day regarding the Divine Inspiration and other
things, and when he went, he used to do the same for me. We,
the people of Quraish used to have the upper hand over our wives,
but when we came to the Ansar, we found that their women had
the upper hand over their men, so our women also started learning
the ways of the Ansari women. I shouted at my wife and she retorted
against me and I disliked that she should answer me back. She
said to me, 'Why are you so surprised at my answering you back?
By Allah, the wives of the Prophet answer him back and some of
them may leave (does not speak to) him throughout the day till
the night.' The (talk) scared me and I said to her, 'Whoever
has done so will be ruined!' Then I proceeded after dressing
myself, and entered upon Hafsa and said to her, 'Does anyone
of you keep the Prophet angry till night?' She said, 'Yes.' I
said, 'You are a ruined losing person! Don't you fear that Allah
may get angry for the anger of Allah's Apostle and thus you will
be ruined? So do not ask more from the Prophet and do not answer
him back and do not give up talking to him. Ask me whatever you
need and do not be tempted to imitate your neighbor (i.e., 'Aisha)
in her manners for she is more charming than you and more beloved
to the Prophet ." Umar added,"At that time a talk was
circulating among us that (the tribe of) Ghassan were preparing
their horses to invade us. My Ansari companion, on the day of
his turn, went (to the town) and returned to us at night and
knocked at my door violently and asked if I was there. I became
horrified and came out to him. He said, 'Today a great thing
has happened.' I asked, 'What is it? Have (the people of) Ghassan
come?' He said, 'No, but (What has happened) is greater and more
horrifying than that: Allah's Apostle; has divorced his wives.
'Umar added, "The Prophet kept away from his wives and I
said "Hafsa is a ruined loser.' I had already thought that
most probably this (divorce) would happen in the near future.
So I dressed myself and offered the morning prayer with the Prophet
and then the Prophet; entered an upper room and stayed there
in seclusion. I entered upon Hafsa and saw her weeping. I asked,
'What makes you weep? Did I not warn you about that? Did the
Prophet divorce you all?' She said, 'I do not know. There he
is retired alone in the upper room.' I came out and sat near
the pulpit and saw a group of people sitting around it and some
of them were weeping. I sat with them for a while but could not
endure the situation, so I went to the upper room where the Prophet;
was and said to a black slave of his, 'Will you get the permission
(of the Prophet ) for 'Umar (to enter)?' The slave went in, talked
to the Prophet about it and then returned saying, 'I have spoken
to the Prophet and mentioned you but he kept quiet.' Then I returned
and sat with the group of people sitting near the pulpit. but
I could not bear the situation and once again I said to the slave,
'Will you get the permission for 'Umar?' He went in and returned
saying, 'I mentioned you to him but he kept quiet.' So I returned
again and sat with the group of people sitting near the pulpit,
but I could not bear the situation, and so I went to the slave
and said, 'Will you get the permission for 'Umar?' He went in
and returned to me saying, 'I mentioned you to him but he kept
quiet.' When I was leaving, behold! The slave called me, saying,
'The Prophet has given you permission.' Then I entered upon Allah's
Apostle and saw him Lying on a bed made of stalks of date palm
leaves and there was no bedding between it and him. The stalks
left marks on his side and he was leaning on a leather pillow
stuffed with date-palm fires. I greeted him and while still standing
I said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Have you divorced your wives?' He
looked at me and said, 'No.' I said, 'Allah Akbar!' And then,
while still standing, I said chatting, 'Will you heed what I
say, O Allah's Apostle? We, the people of Quraish used to have
power over our women, but when we arrived at Medina we found
that the men (here) were overpowered by their women.' The Prophet
smiled and then I said to him, 'Will you heed what I say, O Allah's
Apostle? I entered upon Hafsa and said to her, "Do not be
tempted to imitate your companion ('Aisha), for she is more charming
than you and more beloved to the Prophet.' " The Prophet
smiled for a second time. When I saw him smiling, I sat down.
Then I looked around his house, and by Allah, I could not see
anything of importance in his house except three hides, so I
said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Invoke Allah to make your followers
rich, for the Persians and the Romans have been made prosperous
and they have been given (the pleasures of the world), although
they do not worship Allah.' Thereupon the Prophet sat up as he
was reclining. and said, 'Are you of such an opinion, O the son
of Al-Khattab? These are the people who have received the rewards
for their good deeds in this world.' I said, 'O Allah's Apostle!
Ask Allah to forgive me.' Then the Prophet kept away from his
wives for twenty-nine days because of the story which Hafsa had
disclosed to 'Aisha. The Prophet had said, 'I will not enter
upon them (my wives) for one month,' because of his anger towards
them, when Allah had admonished him. So, when twenty nine days
had passed, the Prophet first entered upon 'Aisha. 'Aisha said
to him, 'O Allah's Apostle! You had sworn that you would not
enter upon us for one month, but now only twenty-nine days have
passed, for I have been counting them one by one.' The Prophet
said, 'The (present) month is of twenty nine days.' 'Aisha added,
'Then Allah revealed the Verses of the option. (2) And out of
all his-wives he asked me first, and I chose him.' Then he gave
option to his other wives and they said what 'Aisha had said
. " (1) The Prophet, ' had decided to abstain from eating
a certain kind of food because of a certain event, so Allah blamed
him for doing so. Some of his wives were the cause of him taking
that decision, therefore he deserted them for one month. See
Quran: (66.4)
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 120:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman should not fast (optional
fasts) except with her husband's permission if he is at home
(staying with her)."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 121:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "If a man Invites his wife to sleep
with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send
their curses on her till morning."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 122:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "If a woman spends the night deserting
her husband's bed (does not sleep with him), then the angels
send their curses on her till she comes back (to her husband)."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 123:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "It is not lawful for a lady to
fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he
is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house
except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on
charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get
half of the reward."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 124:
Narrated Usama:
The Prophet said, "I stood at the gate of Paradise and
saw that the majority of the people who entered it were the poor,
while the wealthy were stopped at the gate (for the accounts).
But the companions of the Fire were ordered to be taken to the
Fire. Then I stood at the gate of the Fire and saw that the majority
of those who entered it were women."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 125:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Abbas:
During the lifetime of Allah's Apostle, the sun eclipsed.
Allah's Apostle offered the prayer of (the) eclipse) and so did
the people along with him. He performed a long Qiyam (standing
posture) during which Surat-al-Baqara could have been recited;
then he performed a pro-longed bowing, then raised his head and
stood for a long time which was slightly less than that of the
first Qiyam (and recited Qur'an). Then he performed a prolonged
bowing again but the period was shorter than the period of the
first bowing, then he stood up and then prostrated. Again he
stood up, but this time the period of standing was less than
the first standing. Then he performed a prolonged bowing but
of a lesser duration than the first, then he stood up again for
a long time but for a lesser duration than the first. Then he
performed a prolonged bowing but of lesser duration than the
first, and then he again stood up, and then prostrated and then
finished his prayer. By then the sun eclipse had cleared. The
Prophet then said, "The sun and the moon are two signs among
the signs of Allah, and they do not eclipse because of the death
or birth of someone, so when you observe the eclipse, remember
Allah (offer the eclipse prayer)." They (the people) said,
"O Allah's Apostle! We saw you stretching your hand to take
something at this place of yours, then we saw you stepping backward."
He said, "I saw Paradise (or Paradise was shown to me),
and I stretched my hand to pluck a bunch (of grapes), and had
I plucked it, you would have eaten of it as long as this world
exists. Then I saw the (Hell) Fire, and I have never before,
seen such a horrible sight as that, and I saw that the majority
of its dwellers were women." The people asked, "O Allah's
Apostle! What is the reason for that?" He replied, "Because
of their ungratefulness." It was said. "Do they disbelieve
in Allah (are they ungrateful to Allah)?" He replied, "They
are not thankful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the
favors done to them. Even if you do good to one of them all your
life, when she seems some harshness from you, she will say, "I
have never seen any good from you.' "
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 126:
Narrated Imran:
The Prophet said, "I looked at Paradise and saw that
the majority of its residents were the poor; and I looked at
the (Hell) Fire and saw that the majority of its residents were
women."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 127:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-'As:
Allah's Apostle said, "O 'Abdullah! Have I not been formed
that you fast all the day and stand in prayer all night?"
I said, "Yes, O Allah's Apostle!" He said, "Do
not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave them (the
fast) at other times; stand up for the prayer at night and also
sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have
a right over you and your wife has a right over you."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 128:
Narrated Ibn 'Umar:
The Prophet said, "All of you are guardians and are responsible
for your wards. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian
of his family; the lady is a guardian and is responsible for
her husband's house and his offspring; and so all of you are
guardians and are responsible for your wards."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 129:
Narrated Anas:
Allah's Apostle took an oath that he would not visit his wives
for one month, and he sat in an upper room belonging to him.
Then, on the twenty ninth day he came down. It was said, "O
Allah's Apostle! You had taken an oath not to visit your wives
for one month." He said, "The (present) month is of
twenty-nine days."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 130:
Narrated Um Salama:
The Prophet took an oath that he would not enter upon some
of his wives for one month. But when twenty nine days had elapsed,
he went to them in the morning or evening. It was said to him,
"O Allah's Prophet! You had taken an oath that you would
not enter upon them for one month." He replied, "The
month can be of twenty nine days."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 131:
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
One morning we saw the wives of the Prophet weeping, and everyone
of them had her family with her, I went to the mosque and found
that it was crowded with people. Then 'Umar bin Al-Khattab came
and went up to the Prophet who was in his upper room. He greeted
him but nobody answered. He greeted again, but nobody answered.
Then the gatekeeper called him and he entered upon the Prophet,
and asked, "Have you divorced your wives?" The Prophet,
said, "No, but I have taken an oath not to go to them for
one month." So the Prophet stayed away (from his wives)
for twenty nine days and then entered upon them.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 132:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a:
The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as
he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in
the last part of the day."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 133:
Narrated 'Aisha:
An Ansari woman gave her daughter in marriage and the hair
of the latter started falling out. The Ansari women came to the
Prophet and mentioned that to him and said, "Her (my daughter's)
husband suggested that I should let her wear false hair."
The Prophet said, "No, (don't do that) for Allah sends His
curses upon such ladies who lengthen their hair artificially."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 134:
Narrated Aisha:
regarding the Verse: 'If a wife fears cruelty or desertion
on her husband's part ...') (4.128) It concerns the woman whose
husband does not want to keep her with him any longer, but wants
to divorce her and marry some other lady, so she says to him:
'Keep me and do not divorce me, and then marry another woman,
and you may neither spend on me, nor sleep with me.' This is
indicated by the Statement of Allah: 'There is no blame on them
if they arrange an amicable settlement between them both, and
(such) settlement is better." (4.128)
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 135:
Narrated Jabir:
We used to practice coitus interrupt us during the lifetime
of Allah's Apostle .
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 136:
Narrated Jabir:
We used to practice coitus interrupt us while the Quran was
being revealed. Jabir added: We used to practice coitus interrupt
us during the lifetime of Allah's Apostle while the Quran was
being Revealed.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 137:
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:
We got female captives in the war booty and we used to do
coitus interruptus with them. So we asked Allah's Apostle about
it and he said, "Do you really do that?" repeating
the question thrice, "There is no soul that is destined
to exist but will come into existence, till the Day of Resurrection."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 138:
Narrated al-Qasim:
Aisha said that whenever the Prophet intended to go on a journey,
he drew lots among his wives (so as to take one of them along
with him). During one of his journeys the lot fell on 'Aisha
and Hafsa. When night fell the Prophet would ride beside 'Aisha
and talk with her. One night Hafsa said to 'Aisha, "Won't
you ride my camel tonight and I ride yours, so that you may see
(me) and I see (you) (in new situation)?" 'Aisha said, "Yes,
(I agree.)" So 'Aisha rode, and then the Prophet came towards
'Aisha's camel on which Hafsa was riding. He greeted Hafsa and
then proceeded (beside her) till they dismounted (on the way).
'Aisha missed him, and so, when they dismounted, she put her
legs in the Idhkhir and said, "O Lord (Allah)! Send a scorpion
or a snake to bite me for I am not to blame him (the Prophet
).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 139:
Narrated 'Aisha:
Sada bint Zam'a gave up her turn to me ('Aisha), and so the
Prophet used to give me ('Aisha) both my day and the day of Sad;
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 140:
Narrated Anas:
The tradition, (of the Prophet) is that if someone marries
a virgin and he has already a matron wife (with him), then he
should stay with the virgin for seven days; and if someone marries
a matron (and he has already a virgin wife with him) then he
should stay with her for three days.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 141:
Narrated Anas:
It is the Prophet's tradition that if someone marries a virgin
and he has already a matron wife then he should stay for seven
days with her (the virgin) and then by turns; and if someone
marries a matron and he has already a virgin wife then he should
stay with her (the matron) for three days, and then by turns.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 142:
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
The Prophet used to pass by (have sexual relation with) all
his wives in one night, and at that time he had nine wives.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 143:
Narrated 'Aisha:
Whenever Allah's Apostle finished his 'Asr prayer, he would
enter upon his wives and stay with one of them. One day he went
to Hafsa and stayed with her longer than usual.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 144:
Narrated 'Aisha:
that during his fatal ailment, Allah's Apostle, used to ask
his wives, "Where shall I stay tomorrow? Where shall I stay
tomorrow?" He was looking forward to Aisha's turn. So all
his wives allowed him to stay where he wished, and he stayed
at 'Aisha's house till he died there. 'Aisha added: He died on
the day of my usual turn at my house. Allah took him unto Him
while his head was between my chest and my neck and his saliva
was mixed with my saliva.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 145:
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
that 'Umar entered upon Hafsa and said, "O my daughter!
Do not be misled by the manners of her who is proud of her beauty
because of the love of Allah's Apostle for her." By 'her'
he meant 'Aisha. 'Umar added, "Then I told that to Allah's
Apostle and he smiled (on hearing that)."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 146:
Narrated Asma:
Some lady said, "O Allah's Apostle! My husband has another
wife, so it is sinful of me to claim that he has given me what
he has not given me (in order to tease her)?" Allah's Apostle
said, The one who pretends that he has been given what he has
not been given, is just like the (false) one who wears two garments
of falsehood."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 147:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Masud:
The Prophet, said, "There is none having a greater sense
of Ghira than Allah. And for that He has forbidden the doing
of evil actions (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) There is none
who likes to be praised more than Allah does."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 148:
Narrated 'Aisha:
Allah's Apostle said, "O followers of Muhammad! There
is none, who has a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than
Allah, so He has forbidden that His slave commits illegal sexual
intercourse or His slave girl commits illegal sexual intercourse.
O followers of Muhammad! If you but knew what I know, you would
laugh less and weep more!"
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 149:
Narrated Asma':
I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "There is nothing (none)
having a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than Allah."
And narrated Abu Huraira that he heard the Prophet (saying the
same).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 150:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet; said, "Allah has a sense of Ghira, and Allah's
sense of Ghira is provoked when a believer does something which
Allah has prohibited."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 151:
Narrated Asma' bint Abu Bakr:
When Az-Zubair married me, he had no real property or any
slave or anything else except a camel which drew water from the
well, and his horse. I used to feed his horse with fodder and
drew water and sew the bucket for drawing it, and prepare the
dough, but I did not know how to bake bread. So our Ansari neighbors
used to bake bread for me, and they were honorable ladies. I
used to carry the date stones on my head from Zubair's land given
to him by Allah's Apostle and this land was two third Farsakh
(about two miles) from my house. One day, while I was coming
with the date stones on my head, I met Allah's Apostle along
with some Ansari people. He called me and then, (directing his
camel to kneel down) said, "Ikh! Ikh!" so as to make
me ride behind him (on his camel). I felt shy to travel with
the men and remembered Az-Zubair and his sense of Ghira, as he
was one of those people who had the greatest sense of Ghira.
Allah's Apostle noticed that I felt shy, so he proceeded. I came
to Az-Zubair and said, "I met Allah's Apostle while I was
carrying a load of date stones on my head, and he had some companions
with him. He made his camel kneel down so that I might ride,
but I felt shy in his presence and remembered your sense of Ghira
(See the glossary). On that Az-Zubair said, "By Allah, your
carrying the date stones (and you being seen by the Prophet in
such a state) is more shameful to me than your riding with him."
(I continued serving in this way) till Abu Bakr sent me a servant
to look after the horse, whereupon I felt as if he had set me
free.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 152:
Narrated Anas:
While the Prophet was in the house of one of his wives, one
of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife
at whose house the Prophet was, struck the hand of the servant,
causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet gathered the
broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them
the food which had been in the dish and said, "Your mother
(my wife) felt jealous." Then he detained the servant till
a (sound) dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was.
He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken
and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 153:
Narrated Jabir:
The Prophet, said, "I entered Paradise and saw a palace
and asked whose palace is this? They (the Angels) said, "This
palace belongs to 'Umar bin Al-Khattab.' I intended to enter
it, and nothing stopped me except my knowledge about your sense
of Ghira (self-respect (O Umar)." 'Umar said, "O Allah's
Apostle! Let my father and mother be sacrificed for you! O Allah's
Prophet! How dare I think of my Ghira (self-respect) being offended
by you?"
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 154:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
While we were sitting with Allah's Apostle, (he) Allah's Apostle
said, "While I was sleeping, I saw a woman performing ablution
beside a palace. I asked, "Whose palace is this?' It was
said, 'This palace belongs to 'Umar.' Then I remembered his sense
of Ghira and returned." On that 'Umar started weeping in
that gathering and said, "O Allah's Apostle! How dare I
think of my self-respect being offended by you?"
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 155:
Narrated Aisha:
That Allah's Apostle said to her, "I you are pleased
with me or angry with me." I said, "Whence do you know
that?" He said, "When you are pleased with me, you
say, 'No, by the Lord of Muhammad,' but when you are angry with
me, then you say, 'No, by the Lord of Abraham.' " Thereupon
I said, "Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah's Apostle,
I leave nothing but your name."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 156:
Narrated 'Aisha:
I never felt so jealous of any wife of Allah's Apostle as
I did of Khadija because Allah's Apostle used to remember and
praise her too often and because it was revealed to Allah's Apostle
that he should give her (Khadija) the glad tidings of her having
a palace of Qasab in Paradise .
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 157:
Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama:
I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, "Banu
Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry
their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission,
and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces
my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima
is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what
hurts her, hurts me."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 158:
Narrated Anas:
I will narrate to you a Habith I heard from Allah's Apostle
and none other than I will tell you of it. I heard Allah's Apostle
saying, "From among the portents of the Hour are the following:
Religious knowledge will be taken away; General ignorance (in
religious matters) will increase; illegal Sexual intercourse
will prevail: Drinking of alcoholic drinks will prevail. Men
will decrease in number, and women will increase in number, so
much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 159:
Narrated 'Uqba bin 'Amir:
Allah's Apostle said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies."
A man from the Ansar said, "Allah's Apostle! What about
Al-Hamu the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband
or his nephews etc.)?" The Prophet replied: The in-laws
of the wife are death itself.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 160:
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas :
The Prophet said, "No man should stay with a lady in
seclusion except in the presence of a Dhu-Muhram." A man
stood up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! My wife has gone
out intending to perform the Hajj and I have been enrolled (in
the army) for such-and-such campaign." The Prophet said,
"Return and perform the Hajj with your wife."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 161:
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
An Ansari woman came to the Prophet and he took her aside
and said (to her). "By Allah, you (Ansar) are the most beloved
people to me."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 162:
Narrated Um Salama:
that while the Prophet was with her, there was an effeminate
man in the house. The effeminate man said to Um Salama's brother,
'Abdullah bin Abi Umaiyya, "If Allah should make you conquer
Ta'if tomorrow, I recommend that you take the daughter of Ghailan
(in marriage) for (she is so fat) that she shows four folds of
flesh when facing you and eight when she turns her back."
Thereupon the Prophet said (to us), "This (effeminate man)
should not enter upon you (anymore)."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 163:
Narrated 'Aisha:
The Prophet was screening me with his Rida' (garment covering
the upper part of the body) while I was looking at the Ethiopians
who were playing in the courtyard of the mosque. (I continued
watching) till I was satisfied. So you may deduce from this event
how a little girl (who has not reached the age of puberty) who
is eager to enjoy amusement should be treated in this respect.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 164:
Narrated 'Aisha:
Once Sada bint Zam'a went out at night for some need, and
'Umar saw her, and recognizing her, he said (to her), "By
Allah, O Sada! You cannot hide yourself from us." So she
returned to the Prophet and mentioned that to him while he was
sitting in my dwelling taking his supper and holding a bone covered
with meat in his hand. Then the Divine Inspiration was revealed
to him and when that state was over, he (the Prophet was saying:
"O women! You have been allowed by Allah to go out for your
needs."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 165:
Narrated Salim's father:
The Prophet said, "If the wife of anyone of you asks
permission to go to the mosque, he should not forbid her."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 166:
Narrated 'Aisha:
My foster uncle came and asked permission (to enter) but I
refused to admit him till I asked Allah's Apostle about that.
He said, "He is your uncle, so allow him to come in."
I said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have been suckled by a woman
and not by a man." Allah's Apostle said, "He is your
uncle, so let him enter upon you." And that happened after
the order of Al-Hijab (compulsory veiling) was revealed. All
things which become unlawful because of blood relations are unlawful
because of the corresponding foster suckling relations.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 167:
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Mas'ud:
The Prophet said, "A woman should not look at or touch
another woman to describe her to her husband in such a way as
if he was actually looking at her."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 168:
Narrated 'Abdullah:
The Prophet said, "A woman should not look at or touch
another woman to describe her to her husband in such a way as
if he was actually looking at her."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 169:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
(The Prophet) Solomon son of (the Prophet) David said, "Tonight
I will go round (i.e. have sexual relations with) one hundred
women (my wives) everyone of whom will deliver a male child who
will fight in Allah's Cause." On that an Angel said to him,
"Say: 'If Allah will.' " But Solomon did not say it
and forgot to say it. Then he had sexual relations with them
but none of them delivered any child except one who delivered
a half person. The Prophet said, "If Solomon had said: 'If
Allah will,' Allah would have fulfilled his (above) desire and
that saying would have made him more hopeful."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 170:
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
The Prophet disliked that one should go to one's family at
night (on returning from a journey).
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 171:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
Allah's Apostle said, "When anyone of you is away from
his house for a long time, he should not return to his family
at night."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 172:
Narrated Jabir:
I was with Allah's Apostle in a Ghazwa, and when we returned,
I wanted to hurry, while riding a slow camel. A rider came behind
me. I looked back and saw that the rider was Allah's Apostle
. He said (to me), "What makes you in such a hurry?"
I replied, "I am newly married." He said, "Did
you marry a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "(Not a
virgin but) a matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry
a young girl with whom you could play and who could play with
you?" Then when we approached (Medina) and were going to
enter (it), the Prophet said, "Wait till you enter (your
homes) at night (in the first part of the night) so that the
ladies with unkempt hair may comb their hair, and those whose
husbands have been absent (for a long time) may shave their pubic
hair." (The sub-narrator, Hashim said: A reliable narrator
told me that the Prophet added in this Hadith: "(Seek to
beget) children! Children, O Jabir!")
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 173:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
The Prophet said, "If you enter (your town) at night
(after coming from a journey), do not enter upon your family
till the woman whose husband was absent (from the house) shaves
her pubic hair and the woman with unkempt hair, combs her hair"
Allah's Apostle further said, "(O Jabir!) Seek to have offspring,
seek to have offspring!"
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 174:
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
We were with the Prophet in Ghazwa, and when we returned and
approached Medina, I wanted to hurry while riding a slow camel.
A rider overtook me and pricked my camel with a spear which he
had, whereupon my camel started running as fast as any other
fast camel you may see. I looked back, and behold, the rider
was Allah's Apostle . I said, "O Allah's Apostle! I am newly
married " He asked, "Have you got married?" I
replied, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a matron?"
I replied, "(Not a virgin) but a matron" He said, "Why
didn't you marry a young girl so that you could play with her
and she with you?" When we reached (near Medina) and were
going to enter it, the Prophet said, "Wait till you enter
your home early in the night so that the lady whose hair is unkempt
may comb her hair and that the lady whose husband has been away
may shave her pubic hair."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 175:
Narrated Abu Hazim:
The people differed about the type of treatment which had
been given to Allah's Apostle on the day (of the battle) of Uhud.
So they asked Sahl bin Sad As-Sa'id who was the only surviving
Companion (of the Prophet) at Medina. He replied, "Nobody
Is left at Medina who knows it better than I. Fatima was washing
the blood off his face and 'Ali was bringing water in his shield,
and then a mat of date-palm leaves was burnt and (the ash) was
inserted into the wound."
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 176:
Narrated 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Abis:
I heard Ibn 'Abbas answering a man who asked him, "Did
you attend the prayer of 'Id al Adha or 'Id-al-Fitr with Allah's
Apostle?" Ibn 'Abbas replied, "Yes, and had it not
been for my close relationship with him, I could not have offered
it." (That was because of his young age). Ibn 'Abbas further
said, Allah's Apostle went out and offered the Id prayer and
then delivered the sermon." Ibn 'Abbas did not mention anything
about the Adhan (the call for prayer) or the Iqama. He added,
"Then the Prophet went to the women and instructed them
and gave them religious advice and ordered them to give alms
and I saw them reaching out (their hands to) their ears and necks
(to take off the earrings and necklaces, etc.) and throwing (it)
towards Bilal. Then the Prophet returned with Bilal to his house
. "
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 177:
Narrated 'Aisha:
Abu Bakr admonished me and poked me with his hands in the
flank, and nothing stopped me from moving at that time except
the position of Allah's Apostle whose head was on my thigh.
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