My 10 year old daughter is always sad and crying
A.S, Alhamdolillah I am blessed with 2 lovely daughters who are 10 and 7 mashAllah.
They are both very good girls and to date have not been cause for any concern. They are growing up to be rather traditional and cultured girls and understand their values as muslim girls very well so far Alhamdolillah.
As of late, I have noticed, (ever since we have come back from our trip back home) my 10 year old wont stop crying, she is sad all the time and finding it hard to adjust back to our normal life. She keeps saying she wants to go back to her grandparents, and this happened after she read a poem I had written for my grandparents after they passed away.
I personally had a beautiful childhood, and love telling my children stories about my grandparents. It makes them sad to think I have lost my grandparents now. My dad has been unwell lately, and dotes over my children (they are the only grandchildren they have besides a grandson who is under medical treatment and cannot visit them). He says when he sees my children it 'adds years to his life'.
I have a feeling my daughter has all of a sudden gotten scared of losing them, like I lost mine. She cries all the time saying she wants to be with them.
My husband's family is equally loving, but they have loads of other grandchildren mashAllah so the attention is obviously divided.
My parents have asked us to send my children to live with them, and that they will take responsibility for their education and upbringing. My husband is very impressed with the way my siblings and I have been brought up, and my children have lived with my parents in the past too, but I feel that due to their age they do not have the stamina to look after children all over again, neither will I be able to live without my girls anymore.
How do I cope with my child's emotional swings now? She is always sulking and crying with hiccups. I must add that she has always been a very sensible child, and very mature for her age since very young. Even though she is 2.5 years older than her sister, she is like a little loving mummy to her.
She has now started crying at everything, she cries quietly, and wants to 'snuggle' into me as much as she can. Sometimes I get frustrated as I have so much work to do at home, and I also understand she is at the cusp of puberty and it could also be due to her hormonal changes.
She is happy in school and has no problems I am assured. We have had many private chats, and there has been no reason to worry. Alhamdolillah, we all have a very stable relationship, my husband and kids all of us, and even though I was brought up with a communication screen with my mother, I have always encouraged my girls to tell me every single thing.
I need guidance in dealing with this phase of hers, I am scared of scaring her for life by taking the wrong action.
Thanks in advance.
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