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November 29, 2006
This question is answered by Wael Abdelgawad, the AskBilqis.com and Zawaj.com Editor and Administrator.
QUESTION:
Dear Bilqis,
Can I see my future husband before marriage?
- Nadia from Morocco
WAEL ANSWERS:
Dear Nadia, As-Salamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah,
Yes, of course you can see him. I don’t know how things are in Morocco, or if your culture is very conservative, but Islam allows the prospective bride and groom to meet one another and talk.
However, your meeting should not be in private, in other words it should not be just the two of you alone. You should meet in a public place with a chaperone, for example her parents.
You can talk about your ideas about life and your future, and your ideas about marriage, so you can find out if you are compatible for marriage and if you like each others’ character.
Both parties must observe proper rules of Islamic hayaa and etiquette. That means controlling the gaze, not touching one another, and discussing only subjects that are “ma’roof”, in other words nothing lewd or inappropriate.
If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, feel free to post your comments below.
Glory to You Allah, we praise You, we bear witness that there is no God except You, we ask Your forgivess and we repent to You.
Best regards,
- Wael Hesham Abdelgawad, Administrator
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November 29, 2006
This question is answered by Wael Abdelgawad, the AskBilqis.com and Zawaj.com Editor and Administrator.
QUESTION:
Dear Bilqis,
Aslamu elikum warehmatullah
Dear Bilqis, I have a problem, plz give me quick response. I was making a sin of Zinaa. I’m very ashamed of it. I was trapped by the guy. But now i want to marry him, because I don’t want to destroy the life of another guy. Plz tell me what can i do? I regularly do Dua to Allah to plz forgive me for this sin.
- D. from Pakistan
WAEL ANSWERS:
Dear Sister D., As-Salamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah,
It seems that you have repented and made tawbah for your actions. That is very good, alhamdulillah. It’s commendable that you are now following the correct path and trying to act as a Muslim.
You said that you were “trapped by the guy.” I don’t know what you mean by this. If you meant that he physically forced you, then this is not Zinaa, it is rape. This would be a crime that he committed against you. This is not a sin by you, because you were the victim of a crime. In this case I would urge you to report this to the authorities so they can take action against him.
Or maybe your saying you were “trapped” by him means that he pressured you emotionally in some way, and you gave in.
In either case, this man is absolutely not a good man and you should not marry him.
Don’t worry right now about marrying someone else. Just focus on living your life, being a good Muslim, and healing from this incident. Eventually, when you are ready, you will find someone good Insha’Allah, and you do not have to mention your past at that time, as it is between you and Allah.
If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, feel free to post your comments below.
Glory to You Allah, we praise You, we bear witness that there is no God except You, we ask Your forgivess and we repent to You.
Best regards,
- Wael Hesham Abdelgawad, Administrator
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Written by wael on November 29th, 2006 with 3 comments.
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November 29, 2006
This question is answered by Wael Abdelgawad, the AskBilqis.com and Zawaj.com Editor and Administrator.
QUESTION:
Dear Bilqis,
My sister has lost her Gold chain inside the home and she is very much upset and wants to find out the way in which she can find the lost chain. You are kindly requested to please tell the way of doing Istikharah we will be highly thankful to you.
- Faran from Pakistan
WAEL ANSWERS:
Dear Faran, As-Salamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah,
Istikhara is not appropriate for this situation. Istikhara is for a situation in which you must choose a course of action or make a decision, and you need Allah’s guidance and help in making a good choice.
Your sister should simply make duaa’ and ask Allah to help her retrieve her item. However, as Muslims we should not focus excessively on these material things. Your sister should also make Duaa’ for her aakhirah and her religion, asking Allah for forgiveness, mercy and blessings.
For good information and articles about Duaa’, you can see one of my sister websites, http://www.DuaShare.com
If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, feel free to post your comments below.
Glory to You Allah, we praise You, we bear witness that there is no God except You, we ask Your forgivess and we repent to You.
Best regards,
- Wael Hesham Abdelgawad, Administrator
AskBilqis.com Islamic Marriage and Family Advice
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