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Written by wael on January 20th, 2008 with no comments.
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Alslam Alaikum
I married less than a month ago, my husband is Turkish, I am a Converted Muslimah Alhamdullilah and Guatemalan, and we are having some issues I think, and I would like to find the best way to solve and deal with them Inshallah.
so here are some Issues:
1. No one in his family knows that we are married, nor his friends ( i know friends is not a requirement because they are male and I am female, but he has not told anyone that he is married). I asked him why and he said he was going to do it when he was ready, He wanted to marry previously but his mother according to what he said did not approve, then again he asked and this girl is from somalia and his mother again did not approve. As far as my family they all know. I have been previously married before, have two children from that marriage. and I don’t to what extent might be affecting me.
2. He came one day and told me that he wanted to see how things where in one year, and I read that you cannot condition marriage, it is our duty to commit to each other, respect and love each other, and put things, actions and thoughts in Allah’s hands, then he said that his contract was going to be finished in one year, and I told him that I would go with him.
3. He is very moody and I am very sensitive, he is extremely quiet and sometimes way to serious, I’m a chatter box ( as he calls me) and childish sometimes.
4. I do my duties as a wife, as well as I have a small business in translation, to be honest I take care of my expenses and the kids, he still has the apartment where he used to live and Inshallah he will end the contract by the end of july.
5. He can sleep 4 hours and function perfectly, I am trying, and I am so exausted, I am not a night person at all, but is the only time I have to spend with him, but during the day I have the kids, the business and the house and I need to figure out a way to make sure everything is ok.
6. Language and cultural Issues is very hard
7. Love he says he loves me in between meaning not that he doesn’t love me but he doesn’t love me very much either. then I found an email from the somali gril and they where seeing each other at Isha in the masjid where he used to live and sometimes he goes there and I don’t know if they are seing each other and I am praying to Allah to take those thoughts of my head and heart
Can you advice me please? Inshallah I will be able to find answers for all of my questions
Ma Salama
Written by noor2704 on January 20th, 2008 with 4 comments.
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Your response will be highly appreciated. Thank you in advance and JazakAllah khair.
I am a 30 yr old woman. I understand my marriage age is way past due..due to various circumstances I didn’t get married though my family tried hard. It is time now and things are working in favor of my marriage, but I have lost complete interest in living a married life..what adds more to my opinion is the real life stories.. I see most people are soo unhappy with their marriage. I witness soo many divorces, personal problems and unhappy social lives.. My brother is Imam and he tells me about the horrible family issues he has to deal with.. I mean sorry to say, but our ummah has soo many crooked people. Allah says he puts Rahma between wife and husband but I dont see it, at least not among the people I know..
Alhamduillah I live a very comfortable and peaceful life, but my parent want me to get married, I am at the stage of life where I make my own decisions and I don’t want to get married, not at least for next few years or until I feel marriage is a good thing. Please tell me about the consequences of delaying my marriage and some benefits of getting married?
Written by Sultan on January 20th, 2008 with 1 comment.
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