I was abandoned by my husband with our newborn baby HELP PLEASE
Asalum Aleykum ,
I am a sister who converted to Islam in 2007, I met my husband in 2006 , he introduced me to Islam. Our stories were similar he has a seven year old boy and I have a seven year girl, he taught me a lot of good things and we were friends for a year. He was a respectful man a loving father a great man... we got married in the mosque in August 2007 but we had a lot of differences because of our traditions and don't think was because of religion.
We separated twice, he divorced me but then I found out that he didn't do a right divorce then we back together. The problem was always that I like to listen music, or celebrate American festivities even Christmas it doesn't mean it's because Jesus was born it's just a festivity for me but he always dislikes that, and also I dont pray 5 times but I used to go for Jumah in my lunch time and read the Quran and watch the Deen show.
He divorced me in September 2008 and we got back together in May 2009. We decided to marry in court, but days before I married him, I learned from him he was in removal proceedings, I knew that but I thought I can fix that because he told me he didn't get the residence because in the interview to get the green card his wife told the officer that they are separated so the officer couldnt approve it.
But the truth was that his visa was c1 which is a transit visa so I couldn't do anything, I told him I still want to marry him, and we were happy, we decided to have a baby and we were very excited. I knew I was pregnant in the second week of Ramadan whilst I was fasting and it was our first ramadan together.
At that time he got a lot of problems with his ex wife as she wanted the sole custody of his child, I was always supporting him, also my dad moved in with us in September 2009 and it was complicated. We fought because my father made fun of Islam and I was upset and also my father made me fight with my husband many times.
I was stupid. In December 2009 he got a court order to leave the US, we tried hard to make it so that he stays here but we couldn't, and we decided that the best was to obey the decision of the court because he was planning stay. I was desvastated so I showed sometimes my anger to him saying he is gonna leave me and get a young woman in Egypt.
Also we planned to start the petition and wait for my citizenship ( I have my interview next week) and then I was going to Egypt with the baby in December (we didn't want to know the sex of the baby). So he left the US in February 28th.
The first week his behaviour was the same and in May after 2 months he was different. No phone calls no emails no answers, the baby was born on May 13 with c-section and he called me and he learned she was a baby girl. I don't know why but he changed more. He called me on may 13, 14 ,15 and then no more until May 24 then silent until June 14.
I had his home phone number,his dad's cell phone and mom's cell phone but they always says he is not a home even at midnight, 3 am 5 am never, until on June 14 he called me saying that something's happened but I cannot ask him what. He also said that everything is gonna be different, he loves me and wants Luciana our baby to know about Islam even that he is away, so I didn't ask what happened. He told me also that he is never at home because his uncle is sick ?
Well that day I sent pictures and the hat the baby wore the day she was born...but on June 24 he called me to say he is confused and he is going to stay in Egypt and start a new family!!!! Just like this.
I was devastated. How he could do this to me? I breastfeed the baby and I couldn't stop crying for one day. I don't understand how someone who was so good can become someone without a heart in two months in his country around his family.
I threw away all the phone numbers, his gifts, everything. I wrote an email saying why did you do that to me ...I never got an answer. I am by myself in the US. I am Peruvian with 2 children now and since then I don't know nothing. Please I am asking that you pray for me to find strength in Allah, because it is very hard to be alone and feel that I was used and betrayed.
Now with two kids one of them a newborn I never imagined this from him. Now the baby has his last name, how do I get permision to travel out of the US? I don't know what to do. I would like to talk with his parents but I dont speak Arabic I feel desperate with no hope but alhanduliallah, Allah gives me strengh to keep my mind clear and my heart without hate.
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