Age gap for marriage: I am 35, she is 16
Asalamalykum
I am in love with a girl. who is around 20 years younger then me.. Im now 35 years. and she is just 16.. I want to marry her.. Is this age gap will be problem for us in married life?. Please Advice
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You are 35 and she is 16! My god ..... she is like your daughter.You are weird.
I am not a scholar but according to my knowledge Islamically it is not wrong. Our rasool's (peace be upon him) wife Ayesha was very much younger to him, his first wife Khadija was much elder to him. Therefore, islamically it is correct but this world may not accept. Secondly, in the long run there may be repentance especially from the younger spouse. In my opinion though it is islamically correct you should not go ahead with this age gap.
wow....hahaha. if she loves u as much as u love her then marry the girl brother! But please man if u knw u might mess up her life later then please leave the girl now! She is young and needs ur love and she needs u 2b sincere and faithful.and please try 2b a better muslim increase ibaadah and always do wats right and make dua then ur marriage and life wil b cool.Allahu akbar!
I don't know what country you are in, but in many nations she would legally be considered a child and therefore not an appropriate person to consider for marriage. You should look for someone closer to your own age.
Secondly, I realize that in some countries this kind of age difference historically was not unusual, but in the modern age I consider it inappropriate. This young lady needs to go to school, get an education, and have the opportunity to determine the course of her own life. She needs time to develop mental and emotional maturity to be able to make these kinds of decisions.
In short, this relationship is a bad idea. Leave her alone and seek someone closer to your age.
Walaikumsalaam Brother,
Out of interest, what are your reasons for loving this girl???
Great question, SisterZ! I am curiously waiting for an answer from this brother.
hi am sammy iam in love with a girl who is almost the same age with me. my date of birth is 12th july 1987, and her date of birth is 8th july 1987.pls help me to know if the age difference will be suitable for marriage.
Samuel, please read some of the articles on this website about istikhara, as it has nothing to do with names and birth dates. For example, this one:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/istikhara-for-marriage-based-on-birth-dates-and-names/
And this one:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/when-will-she-be-married/
wael ok there is a possibility its not a good idea but why do u talk of times? islam never and will never change the prophet s.a.w married a 9 year old good lady.and o pls u making it sound like the girl is the issue here its most men who use and take advantage of such young girls not ada way around he usually later in life cheats on his young spouse and what excuse dy got? ahhh shes young and stupid and if women his age he cheat again and say she too old needed to taste something difrent.men!
i got married when i was 16! marriage is what you make out of it..... it doesnt concern the age .... meaning when you have reached puberty .....after that age dont matter islam character and personalty does matter....
well there is no wrong to marry her you dont see ages in love but yaeh you need to make her agreed if she does agrees with your love then go ahead i wish you good luck for your marriage
http://www.letmeturnthetables.com/2008/07/why-prophet-muhammad-married-aisha-when.html
Asalamualaikym,
Me and my husband is 20 years different. we are now married for 3 years and now We are parents of 8 months old daughter. Mashallah
If you both love each other and have faith and want and able to take responsibility then yeah you should get married.
May Allah bless you
Walaikumasallam
Nadia