Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Breaking an unwanted engagement

Love triangle, two women and one man

Good afternoon, everyone.

I am non-muslim lady (No religion) and was dating a muslim guy. Suddenly he got engaged, which his family had arranged for him without his wants. He didn't want to get engaged with his fiancé, but he did it since everything was arranged and he was forced by his family.

However, we still love each other. It has been one month since he got engaged. He cannot take any action, since he is worried about his family and his fiancé. Is there any way for him to break the engagement without hurting his family and fiancé? I have been thinking for long time, but I have no clue. I am ready to convert to be Muslim.

Hope someone can give me some advice.

Thank you,

-tatihashi


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5 Responses »

  1. He just wants to use you for sexual gratification as long as he can. What he tells you may not be the whole truth? He probably will use you after he gets married as long as you will let him.

    Many men make up stories to get a girl in bed and after they get what they need all of sudden their family forces them to engage/marry a cousin.

    He could have left you even if you had converted.

  2. Sister,

    What SVS says happens every single day. This guy is a liar of the worst kind and yes...he will use you as long as you let him. A real man can not be forced into anything...ever. If this man really wants to be with you...he can and will be.

    The best advise I can offer you is, leave him alone. If you don't, he will continue to use you while he is engaged and even after he is married. That isn't love.

    If you sincerely want to accept Islam, don't do it for this guy in order to marry him, do it for yourself.

    Salam

  3. My dear sister,

    Convert to Islam because you love Allah and will do that wether to marry him or not but dont convert for this man to make him happy if Islam is not in your heart.

    Also, he is playing with you. You tell him right away that you will not be in contact with him ever again untill he is ready for you to meet his parents. IF he loved you, he would have stood up for you to his family and introduced and said this is the woman i love- and I am going to marry her.

    But you see, he has no courage, bravery or guts- and is a little man baby who is hiding behind all kinds of excuses and doesnt want stand up to his family or he is using his family as an excuse to break up with you. Either way, he is being a child, and I am sure you want to marry a good strong man.

    Leave him my dear, find peace with your own self. IF you want to become a muslim there are lots of sources- if you are doing it for him- dont.

    Good luck and hope you realize that this man is playing you for a fool. No one can force you to marry anyone against your own will, he is just too chicken to stand up for you and therefore does not deserve your love.

  4. There is a way sister he should be honest and u should accept islam for allah's sake

  5. A.a I want to break my ingajment with my cousins because I don't like home plzzz tell me some wazifa for this perpouse I want he break this relation himself without any parents make angry plzzz tell me some wazifa for this

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