What does Islam say about breaking someone’s heart knowingly?
Salaam to all!
I'm a Muslim and a Lecturer of a University. i love someone deeply - and my love haven't changed even when he was well off to till date when his financial state is now dangerously falling apart ! In one word - i love him in his thick and thin. And M glad that my feelings r genuine.
We have unnamed relation for almost 2 yrs from now. He performed Hajj and calls himself a God-fearing man. Personality wise we r at times very different and right from start he avoided commitment - but he is the 1 who gradually persuaded me to become intimate and after a year I had lost my virginity to him. I know its a sin but i did it with love and till date he is a husband for me in my heart and body. I love him so much that at last i cud not resist and gave in all i had !
I thought with time i will win him and our differences will minimize ! But since the start of this relation - he would come up with varying fictitious allegations - and would multiply 10 times with the actual incidents. At times he would say sorry but then again would start the row !
Often i feel - is he recreating and exaggerating stuff so that he doesn't have to give me commitments ? He slept with many women in past - but i never bothered about it ! Y does he make my trivial issues make look so humongous ? sometimes there isn't even any issue but he would recreate ! All these hurt me so immensely that m losing weight and becoming sick!
I simply can't believe that the man to whom i gave my everything can treat me so nastily - this is not how i saw my life as!
Now a days he is acting weird and staying aloof - saying that he is repenting for what he did with me besides his business is falling apart - and asking me to settle down with someone and he is gonna start seeing someone too because we would never end up in marrying !
M trying my best to move on but m finding it so difficult to concentrate in another guy - Guys do take interest in me but i can b friend at best but can't take things further. Simply cant ! i feel terrible inside ! i always wanted to make love with One Man! M so broken inside ! i was always confident of my love and dedication - Now m so shaken !
I know he never gave me any commitment but our acts we all that of husband and wife. My Q is y does he have to drag a person to this level if he never saw a wife in her ? Doesn't he know that this girl will not be able to resist at one point as she loves him beyond measure ? Y screw her ? He is gonna perform Omrah hajj - but will this clean his slate ? esp when someone is devastated inside ?
According to my age and social pressure - i MUST get married but I SIMPLY CANT say '' Yes'' ! m so screwed inside.
I was just wondering that what does Islam say about someone who breaks someone's heart knowingly ?
Is there any punishment that Allah gives to this person,if the person whose heart is broken is in constant agony ?
What do you people think?Please share your thoughts and views with reference to Hadith or verses of Allah.
Tagged as: islam and love, loving a fornicator, marrying a specific man, punishment of breaking heart !, Zina