My brother has a mental inbalance
Assalamu Alaykum my beloved brothers & sisters
My brother suffers from paranoia. He prays his obligatory salat. He follows the sunnah, but his ahlak & his adab is not consistent with that of our Prophets peace be upon them.
He has been a steady muslim for many years alhamdulillah, but his paranoia & his shubuhat towards people makes it easy for evil to prosper subhanallah.
He tries everything to control it. I cant seem to figure it out SubhanAllah & every salat I do I beg Allah to guide me as I want to help him. He suffers & I suffer with him. Sometimes he curses because he thinks the kafiroon where we live are against him. He believes they have technology to hurt him through apparature by way of satellite.
He is so well acquainted with Quran & sunnah subhanAllah, yet he still believes this illogic. He has it very hard to put trust in others. Everytime I tell him Allah is the only one who can do everything. I will not move the tip of my finger, if Allah doesnt allow me. A couple if days ago I was visiting him & I cried telling him, yawma la yanfau malun walabanoon, illa man ata Allaha bi Qalbin saleem ((26:88-89) The Day when there will not benefit [anyone] wealth or children, but only one who comes to Allah with a sound heart).
His heart is diseased & I want to help him. But he keeps believing it's the kafiroon with their technology, computers & satellite. He believed before, that our family was the reason for everything & that we had a relationship with the government, haunting him through satellites. My father is not with us. He complains about yawning in salat, feeling pokes in his body, but its all his imagination la ḥawla wa la quwwata illa billahil aliyeel adheem, thinking they're doing it. Its irrational. I just want to help him open his eyes subhanallah with Allahs leave.
I want to live with him, study Qur'an with him. He has a lock on his understanding, I am very aware that Allah mentions this in Quran. Everytime I tell him something he gives me a contrastatement, wanting to justify his actions & beliefs. Yesterday I mentioned the story of Ibrahim a.s. where he was threatened by his father to leave or be stoned, in sura maryam from 41st ayah. I want to amplify the adab, the behavior of prophets, because in the 47th ayah Ibrahim a.s. answers after being threatened he wishes peace on his father & that he will pray to Allah for his forgiveness.
But the essential thing I wanted to explain to him, was the last, where it says "Peace will be upon you. I will ask forgiveness for you of my Lord. Indeed, He is ever gracious to me.". I think the reason why this last statement is there is because Ibrahim a.s has this way of conduct, and Allah azza wa jall is gracious because of this ofcourse. He is my big brother & he was desperately trying to impose islam on me when I was younger, but I was very ghafiloon (among the careless) then.
Alhamdullilah I am not any more. SubhanAllah. Last time I visited him he tells me, the day I visited him and cried & told him the Qalbun saleem (sound heart) ayah, he slept 3 hours only & he blames the kafiroon. My response was, maybe he needs peace in his heart, or purification. My brother has a belief that is abnormal & imaginative. How do i rationalize his thoughts & clear the shubuhat in his head?
I want to share this story of mine. Maybe some of you have experienced something similar to this.
I will continue to discuss Quran with him, despite his bigheaded attitude.
May Allah bless you all & guide us all, ameen.
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