Can dua change what is written? Can I get my husband back?
I'm a 21 year old female.
I need to know few things...
If it is said that everything is written about what and when things will happen, then what about dua?
I had broke up with my husband, I loved the most. He cheated and is with someone else now, its been over a year almost.
Now I prayed and prayed that he comes back and loves me and that things work out, as he is all the sukoon and love I need. I prayed, I know that he is not a loyal man but thats how he is made I guess. But won't duas change things if he is not good for me, or does not have interest in me, ALLAH accepts my duas and make my wishes come true and good for me. I have this idea, whatever ALLAH Almighty does is for the better but can't duas get me what. I'm happy in and make that thing good for me?. Or whatever is written is written?
I have faith in ISLAM.
But astrology and numerology readings, what about these things??? They are true most of the times?
What should I do?. If I want something and no its not in my kismat, I don't want to make ALLAH angry by asking Him again again which HE showed me is not good for me .. I'm depressed and have attempted suicide because I couldn't take the pain.
Sister Z Answers:
Dear Sister Sasha, As-salamu alaykum wa Rahmatullah,
I think you already know the answer to your question...
I can see that you are hurting alot since your husband has cheated on you and left you. You actually deserve better sister. You brought up several issues and I will address them one by one, Insha'Allah:
DUA IS ALWAYS ANSWERED:
We ask Allah for what we want open heartedly because He knows what is best for us. Allah will most definitely answer your dua, but it may not be as you expected. Do not limit your vision my dear. Allah answers prayers in the most amazing of ways...
- - He may give you exactly what you want.
- - He may not give you exactly what you want because He wants to give you something better in this life.
- - Or He may not give you exactly what you want because He is saving you from a calamity and will give you your gift in the hereafter...
Ask Allah to give you what is good for you and then put your trust in Him. You see - Allah has given us humans the ability to make decisions. These decisions are best made when we use the experiences that Allah has put us through. Making such calculated decisions means we are using the Wisdom that Allah has blessed us with.
Alternately, if we ignore the warnings and signs that Allah has clearly placed before our eyes and we make a decision based on our whims and desires, then we are being Fools.
The facts are: . This man has cheated on you and its been over a year since he left you.. So maybe Allah is saving you from being hurt again and is now testing your patience and faith in Him
SUICIDE IS A MAJOR SIN:
You have attempted suicide - Sis this is very serious. You have attempted to cause harm to yourself for someone, this would only suggest that your feelings for him have become an extremely unhealthy obsession. Furthermore, suicide is a major sin in Islam. By committing suicide you would be displeasing Allah...why? Because you can't bear to live without a man who has cheated on you.
When your love for someone or something takes you out of the boundaries of Islam - then there is something majorly wrong with that love or your emaan has fallen extremely weak.
For this issue dear Sister, I would advise you, to seek some professional help and pray to Allah to clear your mind/heart and to give you peace.
ASTROLOGY ONLY MISLEADS PEOPLE:
Sis, Allah (SWT) has clearly stated in the Quran and through the hadith of our Prophet (saw) that astrology is haraam.
The Qur'an says, "No soul knows what it will earn tomorrow"¦" (Luqman: 34) The Prophet (saw) said, "Do not associate with the astrologers [as-hab an-nujum]." (Reported by Ahmad) and furthermore The Prophet (saw) cursed people who practice fortune-telling.
Sister, astrologers are only able to mislead those without true knowlegde. Only Allah knows what will happen; HE discloses some of this information to His angels and while they are excitedly discussing this information in the heavens, the bad jinn try to eavesdrop. The angels chase the jinn away from the heavens but by this point some of them have already heard bits and pieces of what is to come in the future. So the knowledge that the astrologers aquire is not through their ability to see the future, it is simply through their connection with bad jinn - who also mix some of this truth with falsehood. So Sis, please do not mix yourself up with thoughts of astrology and numerology - there is no place for it in Islam and will only cause you grief.
Dear Sister, if Allah brings this man back into your life - deal with it then. But for now focus on re-building your self esteem as you may not realise now, but you do deserve alot better. Count your blessings, seek comfort in the fact that Allah has saved you from a man who has cheated you, engage yourself in worship of Allah and spend time with family and good friends who love you and care for you.
- to forgive you your sins and especially for attempting suicide
- thank Him for giving you a second chance to live
- ask Him to strengthen your emaan
- to facilitate what is best for you and to make you accept it happily...
- and Sister...seek help in realising your self importance and self worth. You don't need negative, cheating people in the beautiful life that Allah has given you. Life is a gift from Allah, cherish it, don't waste it.
A beautiful dua for you to say: "Oh Allah, sustain me with Your love and the love of one who loves You, and the love of that which will draw me near to Your Love and make Your Love more dear to me than cool water." (Bukhari)
If you wish to speak to me further, just say so and I will email you inshaAllah.
May Allah help you and make you happy in the company of those who are beloved to Him.
And Allah knows best.
If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, I invite you to post your comments below.
(O Allah), Guide us to the straight path; The path of those whom you have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go astray.
Best regards,. - Sister Z, Editor
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