Can I marry a non-practising convert?
Hi, I am going to marry a non- Muslim, ready to convert to Islam through Shahadatan and marry me according to Muslim laws. He has promised me that he will never do anything which is against Islam nor force me to get involve in any action against Islam, and our children will be pure Muslim. My questions are-
What if he does not offer Namaz?
Will I be charged or burned in hell for him not making prayers?
Muslim women are not allowed to marry non-Muslims because of two reasons. First is male have authority over women and he can force her for non-Islamic rituals and second is related to children, what the children religion would be. So if he is ready to give me right of being Muslim, and ready to perform Shahadatan, is there any sin in marrying him?
Would I be doing any sin in marrying him?
Please help me and give me your view,because I am very confused.
uzam
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Assalam sister
The prophet SAW has made it very clear and so have the authentic islamic scholars that if a person does not offer his Salah he is a non Muslim and has stepped out of the fold of Islam. Of he does offer his Salah then Kheyr his a Muslim alhamdulillah if not he is not so therefore you cannot marry him it's as simple as that
If something falls outside the folds of Islam it doesn't make you a kafir but it means you have committed a grave sin.
Sister, as far as I know you will not be held accountable if he does not pray but it is your duty to tell him to pray. If he truly believes in Allah swt and His prophet pbuh and adheres to the teachings of Islam then this man is a muslim and it is permissible to marry him. We all sin but that doesn't make us non-muslim.
Keep in mind however that this man will be a role model to your children. Don't rush into things, wait until he converts and watch his actions from there keeping Islamic limits inshaAllah. May Allah bless you with a happy and fruitful marriage if this man is good for you in this world and the next and make separation easy if he is not. Ameen.
He may learn about Islam after you are married and be inclined to pray.
But a lot of muslims don't pray, especially when they are young. A lot of people pray but don't give zakat. Nothing is black and white in terms of human behaviour. He will be muslim. It is hard to find kind, respectful, muslims in this world to marry.
Be very careful sister. Some people will lie to get what they want. Islam is a way of life, and if this man wants to change his way of life to Islam, then mashalla, but if he is not ready to accept any part of Islam as real truth, then tell him straight out that it's not ok. We ladies need someone to guide and help us on the right path, not confuse us.
Salams
Shereen
I agree with sister Shereen. That's the truth mashaAllah.
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Firstly, you need to find answers to the questions below:
Secondly, the main wisdom behind why a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim man is something known to Allah alone, however, what you referred to as the two reasons are actually considered part of the wisdom by some scholars, but not as the main wisdom.
Please know that you will be questioned in front of Allah if all the signs were clear to you that the guy was embracing Islam for the sake of being able to marry you, and that it was not sincerely for the sake of Allah. Allah does not like us deceiving ourselves or making mistakes knowingly, thinking we are tricking Him and other Muslims, while the truth is clear to us in our heart. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says:
Usually it is hard to make a wise decision alone when you are already deep in a relationship till you step out of it emotionally, or allow those outside of it (like your family) to assist you. Therefore I strongly advise you to allow your family participate in the decision making.
Finally, do not forget to pray istikharah too.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide you to what is best for you in dunya and akhirah. Ameen.
Asalamu alikum,
Is he ready to convert to Islam by heart not because you guys relationship? In my personal opinion, marrying non-Muslim is very challenging. I would prefer to find another Muslim. I know it is very hard for you.