Canadian widow wants to marry a Muslim man from Tunisia, is it possible?
I am in my 40s and a widow I live in Canada. I lost my husband 2 years ago. About 6 months ago i met a muslim man on line. He is a kind, gentle, caring man and we fell in love and want to marry. He lives in Tunisia and i live in Canada. He is Muslim and. I am Anglican Christian. I have been thinking about converting to Islam.. I have been reading some and am wondering if we can marry under Islamic beliefs if. I am a widow.
When I married my late husband. I did take his last name. i know it says in the Quran to keep your fathers name. Should. I change my name back to my father's last name or do. I keep my late husband's or can. I take my new husband's last name? And my first name is a Canadian name should. I change it to a Muslim name? My name is Tammy.
I would like to marry my man in Tunisia in front of his parents and then again in Canada in a church in front of my Family is this possible? We are both willing to move to the other's country if need be or any were in the world so we can be together. He says Tunisia is a hard life, and because he is Muslim coming to Canada my cause a problem not sure what our options are? I hope you can help me.
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As salam sister Tammy,
i am not a scholar , but feel that there are some aspects where i can assist in your endeavor .
Coming from saudi arabia to Canada myself, i know the intensity of the culture shock as a muslim one has to face (my father to this day after arriving here 11 years ago still has problems coping). That said, i think Canada is one of the best countries for a muslim to be in; Socially, culturally and economically.
You will have to help your husband steer through alot of the stereotypes, cultural barriers and pschological adjustments one has to go through.
One step at a time.
Are you sound in your current situation (financially, mentally and socially)? I only ask cause of my concern for your overall well being if you commit to this relation without knowing issues that may arise.
Second, does he have family in Canada? This could immensely help adjusting.
I know i have not answered all your question but that is deliberate because i would not want to give you the wrong advise.
May Allah help you in your Endeavor.
Ameen
Salam and peace be with you
Hi
You do not need to convert to Islam if you want to marry a Muslim. The Muslim men are allowed to marry outside of their religion in Tunisia. I've been to Tunisia many times, have many Tunisian friends and know of many Tunisian men married to British and other European women. Its pretty common for the men to marry outside of their religion however it does not necessarily mean that they will convert. Some do, some don't.
I suggest going to visit the country first. Stay in one of the hotels and put him on the hotel reservation then you can stay together as locals are not allowed in the hotels unless they are registered guest.
There are a lot of forums you can search for that can help you. You need to prove that you are free to marry, as a widow you will probably need your husbands death certificate or a letter from the court stating you are free to marry. There are a few other rules if you want to marry, such as spending 21 days in Tunisia before your wedding...Go onto Girlfriends of Tunisian...or something like forum and read some more.
Basically you dont need to convert, its your choice and the Tunisian government is more liberal than some of the other Arab countries.
I also suggest inviting him over here for a visit, thats one way to see if he would like it here.
hope this helps
Good luck
"A-A" I am Muslim and belong to Pakistan. First of all when I read about your husband I have too much for that and I will pray for you & your family for better solution as your goodself wish. I will try to keep you happy for ever till the end of our life.
I would like to invite your kind attention that if you want to marry, I am ready to undergo for any test or interview, if, you would like it. For further information kindly contact through my email address.
With Best Complements, Salam to respectable Elders & Love to all Youngers. GOD BLESS YOU.
"Allah Taala Aap sub ka aur Hamara Hami-o-Nasir Ho (Aameen)".
Yours sincerely,
RANA M. A. ANJUM
ISLAMABAD PAKISTAN
Brother Rana, she's saying that she is in love with a man from Tunisia and wants to marry him, and your response is to offer yourself for marriage? What kind of idiocy is that? Really, I find that very annoying.
And I stripped your email address from your comment.
asalamu alaikum,
rana please read what the sister is asking, so i suggest you re-learn your english from the basics.your stupidity will get you kno where.
ma salama
Hello to all,...well i came here for information regarding marriage to a Tunisian Man...i wish to marry my love Salah . I must wait , as marriage is not accepted during the Holy Ramadon . I must say i am kind of frustrated with reading so many stories of what is required and what is or isn't accepted ...my head is spinning...except i just had to have a good laugh after reading the above comments that were sent in by Rana M.J Anjum
i myself was wondering what was being offered...LOL
i spent quite a bit of time on the internet looking for where i could get a certificate of no Impediment...just to discover that it does not exist in U.S or Canada,and apparently i have to go to the Canadian Embassy in Tunisie to get a paper which is called an Affidavit of Eligibility to marry ...proving that i am free to marry..I am wondering how long it will take to get this paper...Will i have to wait a few days or will they give me this paper right away...I will only be in Tunisie for three weeks...Now i am also worried about a comment that i read above stating that it is compulsary, that i live in Tunisie for three weeks prior to the marriage. I really need to check this out..as my fiance did not mention any of this to me...He is thrirty seven and has never been married and he does not know all the papers that are required...but apparently there are many....what a nightmare...will we ever get through it...i am hearing diffrerent stories about how long it will take before his Visa is accepted...some say three months..today i heard six months...but then i read a story about a woman whos husband was just granted his visa after eighteen months...I really don't know what to expect and it's very difficult on my moral ...I want to be with him now...and i know i can't , and i am afraid of all the red tape that we have to cut through to be together....So this is why i am here...to pick up any info that i can...Right now i need confirmation about the 21 day stay in Tunisie prior to marriage....is this accurate...I am leaving behind a house ,three cats and a 17 year old son...and hoping that when i come back the house is still standing and the cats have not ran away...i don't know how much longer i could stay away , and i do need to plan my return plane ticket date in advance..Please email me with any helpful advise that you can give me about marriage in Tunisie...My biggest fear is...can he keep me in Tunisie after i marry him...i am not muslim..and he is...i just don't know what my rights are...Also i have a home and other assets , i am told that everything i own becomes joint and if something goes wrong he is entitled to half of everything i have...can i get a prenup paper signed..one that will hold up to Tunisie law...In Canada , we leave with what we came in with....the only thing that is separated should there be divorce is what was obtained during the marriage anything owned prior to the marriage is not to be split between husband and wife should there be a divorce...I have asked him to sign a prenup stating that he has no rights to my assets should we divorce and he is not very happy about that...i really don't think he would try to take anything from me...but i have had a few winners in my life and i didn't see a few things coming..so being the naieve Canadian that i am..i feel better protecting myself and not being sorry and homeless.....LOL should i laugh ,....or cry? i'll tell you in a year or two....LOL
thanks for reading please get back with any helpful info ..especially about prenup contracts validity in Tunisie... Shara Sahara..... my pet name!
kattrina, I can't give you much advice as I know nothing about marriage law in Tunisia. Also, we have many questions in the queue waiting to be answered. Just a quick word, it doesn't sound like you trust this man very much (you think he might hold you in Tunisia, you are afraid he will take half your assets) and I suggest that you need to think this through better and ask yourself seriously if this is the right man and situation for you.
Wael
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