6 months later I still can’t forget him
How to deal with jealousy?
Asalamalaykum everyone..
May be this goes long but plz help me the best u can..
I hav had made a post before also that i cnt move on after my break up (I broke up with my boyfriend and can’t move on; please help me)..
and that time it was 1 month v broke up.. and now it has being 6 months nothing seems to change..
I am 16 yrs.. am fuly mental.. ya Allah y is this hapening wid me.. i prayed so much after one of the brother in ths site advicd me so wel.. before sleepng no mater hw sleepy i usd to be no mater hw lazy i usd to feel bt stil i usd to get up.. cry to alah that hav mercy on me.. i dnt want to thnk abt tht guy... i prayd alot..
bt nothng is realy working.. 6 months am in d same position.. i overthnk alot.. d guy was my cousin.. bt he movd on in the vry 1st day..
y do i hav to sufr so much.. m 16 n dis kilng me.. evryone is so hapy... bt y nt me.. i rily get anoyd by evryone... the only thng tht i hav is jus a nice face.. and ths leads to me to arogance... and ths is rily crazy,,, i cnt share my thngs wid anyone so far.. y cnt i b nrmal... i hav lost evry hope.. at tht time it was just a month so i thought i wil b baq to a hapy lif...bt noo:'(:'(:'(
Am fed up of my self.. d guy is having so many afairs.. n i am fuly single tht was my 1st n last.. i was nevr in any physicl relation wid dis boy too.. bt stil m being punishd...bt nt him... y isnt alah having mercy on me :'( i want to b hapy again as i used to be 2 yrs before
Jazakalah plz help me out the best
M sorry i know the above story is confusing bt plz if u cn help me den plz do 🙁
-juweriya
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You need to wake up stop wasting your life on someone who doesn't care about you.
Sister,
At sixteen you should be focusing on your education...period. Boyfriend's are haram and I am certain that you know better. Maybe the suffering you are going through today is Allah's mercy upon you in order that you may open up your eyes to what you are doing (Allah hu Alem) and get yourself back on the right path. Boyfriends have no place in Islam. Quit rushing to grow up and enjoy your youth, friends and school. Allah has so much more in store for you...you just wait and see.
Salam
Salam Sister..I dnt know why I wanted to answer ur question..may be I can feel ur pain but not the exact way bcz m a brother n m 16 yrs old too..
It's tough for us young ppl in this age..
I know its easy to say to u to be patient but in reality its not as easy..but I have to say that plz just kick the concept of being a looser out of ur mind..You are somebody's future queen , some body's mother and a man's daughter..just bcz that Guy ignored u doesnt mean tht u have no value in this world..there will be a thousand guys out there who would die for u ..u would love u more than u can imagine..dont assume that there arent just bcz they are not on the scene..but dont go out searching for them..ur prince will find u soon in the right Islamic way..insha Allah...
and u just mentioned tht u take pride in ur beauty,,plz dont take pride in showing it to non Mahrams..u r already facing the consequence fr doing so..
Look its tough fr me too..m young , 16 , no signs of getting married..women , girls all around..I feel too sometimes that m going to go no where ..but reality is different..I beat Shitaan..insha Allah
Just believe in Allah..Just Love Him SWT..He is doing the best fr u right now..its nt a joke .. its jst that u cant see it right now..
I knw u cnt frgt that Guy ,,cuz he's ur czn..so what can u do ? Sister the only solution is to love Allah more so that there remains no place in ur innocent heart for ur czn's love .. I knw that sayng all that is easy but doing do is tough..
I know u pray regularly..masha Allah..salute u fr tht..but plz mind tht is ur prayer giving u any sense of connection with Allah..if not then u need to strengthen ur prayer..
Look sis.. Allah is not Punishing you..He is not .. I say again..He is not..believe me..It is ur czn whose being kept distant from Allah's mercy right now..NOT YOU..
If this hardship is taking u close to Allah then ur being tested..if its taking u away frm Him SWT then ur being punished..
u need to giv ur life a sense of direction..some purpose...Why are those 60 trillion cells working day n night in ur body just to keep YOU living ? Obviously not to keep u living for dying in the pain for that czn of urs..Ur life has a bigger purpose..It's not fantasy sister..its real talk..
We are created to live the Islamic way..thts our Eeman..isnt it ?
So why is this pain cmng to u ? The answer is tht Allah SWT wants to bring u back to Him..closer to Him..
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Quran says that : " You want the life of this world but the hereafter is far better and everlasting."
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I know tht quoting this ayah will not solve ur problem in a second..we have to be practical..So ur couzin is having the best time in his life..girls luv him..he luvs them ..all is going is awesome for him..
..That simply doesnt mean that Allah loves him more and hates u..NOT at all..I consider him unlucky bcz he is following the exact path tht will lead him to the opposite of Heaven..May Allah guide him.Ameen
U were also on the wrong path..so Allah bestowed his mercy on u n save u by giving u a little pain ( sister believe me the pain in hereafter is far worse than the pain ur facing )..
Just wonder if Allah didnt separate him from u..what if he commited zina with u n then left u alone..?
there ARE ppl on this website with these stories ..so u have been kinda blessed by this..
If he is havng affairs..he is one of the punished..and not every one around u is super happy..u just cant see there problems..and you are Perfectly normal..super normal..there are thousands of girls suffering more than u..
I can just repeat..You are a normal girl..you are lovely..you are beautiful..Allah SWT loves u thts y He is bringing u closer to him..You will conquer ur problem Insha Allah..you are a good Muslim..You have to focus on three things right now : ur relationship with Allah , ur studies n enjying ur teens the halal way..
Make Quran ur frnd..start reading translations..be resolute..prayer is ur oxygen..u need gud frnds..
Start listening to Br.Nouman Ali khan on Youtube if u can..he's a cool young scholar..
I know its tough to start doing all that at once..but a girl as strong as u can do it insha Allah..Shaitaan is after ur innocent soul..he's enjoyng ur pain..defeat him by getting closer to Allah day by day..
YOU CAN MOVE ON..YOU WILL MOVE ON..Insha Allah..
Keep tryng..failure again dosent mean that success wont come..The Pure Love in ur heart is only worth giving to Allah SWT and ur future husband..no more boy friends in future..u have a lesson well learnt...
What else can I say..Dnt knw..
Look we have to be patient..patient till the last breath..m also a struggling Muslim like u..I just keep repeatng but I really feel that its tougher for guys too..young guys like me..we have a hot blood..crazy hormones..but we have to be patient..
You have to be patient..and u can be..insha Allah..
Allah is with you..He is watchin u reading this comment right now ..He Has plans for u..a future for u..insha Allah..A true Muslim girl is a pearl.Just bcz ur looser czn was not capable enough to realize ur value doesnt mean that u r nt pearl..ur true love will find you sooner than later..You are not a looser..Just redefine ur life ..
Jazak Allah 🙂
Such a beautiful well said comment dear brother even helped me out (even though I am 18 😛 )
ALLAH bless you inshALLAH stick in their and be brave
Jazak Allah mini 1689 🙂
May Allah keep u strong and resolute in the deen.Ameen
Salam Sister,
It is heartbreaking to hear that you are still aching for him. I had a similar situation with a girl whom I wished to work for and get married to. Allah makes decisions that is best for you. I know everybody says this but this is in fact true. Listen to nasheeds, recite the quran, and pray Isthikhara. You are still young my dear and when you go to college, you will learn many things. Who knows? Inshallah, you will find someone better who will appreciate you and have good Iman. You have your whole life ahead of you and do not let someone who didn't see how special you are overwhelm you. Yes, just like I remember the sweet memories I had with my girlfriend, you will do the same for your boyfriend. However, do not let this make you think you won't be happy anymore. Hang out with friends, family. Enjoy with people around you so you can forget him. In addition, make Du'a for Allah to make you happy, increase your Iman, make you stronger inside and out. Allah is always here to listen to you when nobody else has an ear. I hope you can bring the confidence in yourself and say you deserve nothing but the best.
Ok first of all, your spelling gave a headache. Now for your problem, you may not be really in love with him, but deep in your sub concious u feel that you will never have what you had with him again. You are young, you will find a better man one day and laugh at yourself for this. Believe in yourself, don't think its that guy or no guy. This is from personal experience..