I am 45 years of age. I have bandish in getting married, difficulties at work and also I am unable to make friends.

I want to marry this person but after a few weeks,  my friendship ends.

What should I do? How do you make a friend stay?

It's not my fault. We have bandish from this aunt of ours...
Miah

Salam Aleikoum

I am a convert Muslim and found a born Muslim to marry. One problem is that he is married in another country which is fine with me, except we can not obtain a marriage license thus the mosques will not marry us. This is a big problem because Islamically we are allowed to marry but legally we are not.

We found ourselves alone, well with Shaitan as a 3rd party of course and I fell pregnant. We have repented to Allah and are staying away from each other, but still desperately want to marry each other and raise our baby in a proper Muslim family. We have tried so hard to find a mosque to marry us but no one will do it without the marriage license which we can not get because he would have to divorce and not be able to bring his daughters here.

Is there a scholar in the Bay Area who is willing to marry us? We just want to live a good Islamic life and raise our baby with a Muslim family. I am now due in 2 weeks and am so so so sad and desperate to just be married under Allah's way.

Please will someone marry us? We are located in San Francisco. We just want a second chance please someone help us!

~Muslima107

Hello,

I am currently dating a Pakistani man who I am deeply in love with  and vice versa. We have been dating for four years now. We have discussed our futures together. We both want to marry each other. The only obstacles in our way are our parents and religion. He is worried that it is not accepted in Islam to marry a non-believer in the Islam faith. He told his mother about me but she is not pleased with it. I am originally from Africa (Nigeria) and my parents want me to marry someone who is from Nigeria. Everyone that is important to us are against us but we are still strong in love and still want to be together. I'm looking out for our happiness but its hard because all odds are against us. I have been taking time out to learn more about Islam so that I can be more familiar with it. What should we do?

Thanks,

Afi.

Salaam everyone, I am a muslim boy who wants to marry a Hindu girl. The time when we thought of  being with each other for life and get married. I told her that it is going to be difficult for me to marry you because there are few expectations that my parents and family would have from you and I am not too sure if you will be able to fulfil them.

I told her about all that my family would expect out of her if we get married and the first and foremost thing is that she will have to get converted into Islam and then religiously follow everything that islam religion preaches. She agreed to it and has already started  knowing about Islam, the history of Islam and other preachings of islam. Its been 5-6 months that she has started following things and few of those things she does on a regular basis is that she has learned few surah's which she recites everyday. She reads Surah e yaseen everyday. She reads dus e kumail every friday and few other surah's on daily basis. She says that since the time she has started learning about Islam she has started to develop a faith in Islam and she tries to convince me that she is not doing all this only for the sake of marrying me but she also has faith in it and would continue to do everything lifelong.

Things were going smooth until last month when i told my parents about marrying her. My mother and my sister have somehow agreed to this alliance for my happiness but my father is not at all agreeing. He is thinking about the society and family and is not able to accept it. At one time he says fine if its about your happiness then we will not say anything and at the very next moment he starts opposing it. Since I am the only child to my parents they say they have dreamed of me marrying someone of their choice ( Of course a muslim) and how can I make them unhappy and marry this girl.

I am now in a dilemma as to whether I should marry this girl or for my parents happiness if I should leave her because I am afraid that if I get married to this girl then they will be so disheartened that I went against my parent's wish and my decision should not have a severe effect on their health. I am sure that if i get married to this girl then after few years when they see her following everything the right way they will be happy but as for now I am not able to decide.

I need genuine advice because I cannot even leave this girl who has already started following Islam.

An Indonesian Muslim woman prays at a mosque in Jakarta on September 8, 2009.

I want to do istakhara for me and one of my beloved cousins because we are facing many problems due to the rejection of our marriage. . . .

plz reply to me

- shoaib_PK

Assalaamu alaykum. I just needed to ask you for advice. And inshallah you can try to guide me. My situation is very complicated and I do not know what to do! We are a muslim family of 6. I have 2 older sisters (Age: 37 and 30), a older brother (Age: 36) and me, the youngest daughter (Age:23). We always have had problems in our house as my father who is from India but moved to South Africa and married my mother, they are both under-educated and very much still live in the past...

We own a small family business, which my father worked very hard to create, and it was at the cost of my eldest sister. She was taken out of Primary School to help run the business. As my brother grew up, and so did I, I noticed my father and he didn't have a good relationship, as my father constantly beat my brother! I was still young but I remember it clearly! Well it never ended there, after my brother matriculated, he wanted to study further but my father refused! So he as well worked in the business. My other sister was daddy's favorite! She matriculated, and studied further. After studying she went to work, my dad was not too happy with that, but she was the favorite, so she started working.

Okay, let's go back a bit... My eldest sister had received 4 proposals, but my father constantly found something wrong with the men, and refused to give his daughter's hand in marriage. My eldest sister is now at the age of 37 still working in the business, has no friends, is also under-educated, and my heart breaks for her! I constantly make dua that Allah lights up her life inshallah! She now so desperately wants to be married but nothing has happened. My father had been extremely unfair with her.

My brother had a girl which he chose to marry, but my father refused and arranged a girl from India for him. They have been alhamdoelillah married for 8 years and have 2 children.

In 2006 I was in Grade 12 (Matric), and in January 2006 my other sister (30) tells my dad she has received a marriage propsal and his family wants to come and speak to my family! My father once again didn't want her to get married. So it was all drama, with his family saying my dad is discriminating against them, they are Muslim but Malay Muslim, I was so young and didn't really understand everything! Well my sister did not give up, and in the end when my dad refused to give her over, she decided to walk out of the house, my dad still till today refuses to see her. She is still happily married to that man and they have a beautiful baby girl!

Well then my story began, I'm 23 now, and met a Pakistani man, we would like to get married but my father once again has said No, he will not make nikah... Maybe you are wondering where my mother is in all this, she is here, but doesn't really have a voice as she lives in my father's shadow. My brother he lives for his family, and we all live under one roof!

I do know that the value of my parents is very important, and the sometimes just want they best for us. I know that Allah mentions in the Quran, obedience to parents in vitally Important! And I do know Allah knows best! But I do not want to be like my eldest sister, who is suffering so much alone.

My brother says to love a man before marriage is haraam love? He says love comes after marriage, I think its because he was arranged his marriage! I know this Pakistani man for 3 years now, he lives in South Africa, but his family are in Pakistan, I have spoken to his mother and sisters on the phone. I would love to spend my life with him, but my family will never agree! What should I do???

- maties786

Assalamu Alaikum.

My Name is *****.  My date of birth is ***1983.  My Qualification is M.Sc Computers.

My father's name is ******.  My mother's name is ******.

My question is: When will I get married?

We are searching for a bride but no one is set for marriage.  Is there any problem?

And please tell me: which side I will set in my career?  Which one is better?

Please give me the answer as early as possible I am waiting for your reply.

~ nasir22alone

Hi I am a 20 year old girl and I have never been courted by a man for as long as I can remember. I am alone and I have always been alone. It is hard for me to make new friends also. I have always prayed to God  to help me, to have people to like me, but it is still the same.

The few friends that I have, and with my family makes me feel bad about not having someone. I am scared that I may remain a girl who will never get married. I don't see any hope in my situation. I am desperate but I keep asking God to help me find a good husband or even to make men want to get to know me.

I am desperate of always imagining how it would be like to have somebody that love me and that I love. I am tired of wondering why no men look at me, sometimes I even think that I am cursed because I cannot understand it. When men try to ask my number they never call me back. However I do understand that if God does not answer my prayer come true it may be because deep inside me I am not ready to have a husband. In fact there was a time when I was overweight I managed to lose the weight and become "normal". But now with the loose skin and all even if I look good when dressed I know that I will not bear being intimate with anybody.

I thought of saving money and having a plastic surgery for my breast and stomach, but I heard that plastic surgery is haram. Do you think that even if I go for it, it is a sin? I am desperate.

~ Tahinak

Assalam O Alaikum,

I am a divorced  girl. One and a half year back he came in my life. He proposed me, I refused him in the beginning by telling him that no one will accept me in his family but he said that he loves me and will marry me. But, for 4 months ago, I don't know what happened? Now, he wants to leave me and is going to marry a girl of his family's choice. But its not easy now, I can't live without him, every minute is like a mountain for me without him. I want to marry him please help me. Now when ever we talk he hurts me. He doesn't attend my call; he talks happily with everyone but don't want to talk to me. I am getting weak. Please tell me what to do? Since we work at same place so its becoming more and more difficult. Tell me what to do so that he marry me?

Thanks,

Afat46.