salaam sir i am haider, i am in very serious relation with a girl and can not live without her. she is relly very honest girl. i want to marry her but my father and my brother do not agree because my cousin liked that girl before.

so plz tell me such wazifa by which my father mother brother all get agree and want me marry that good girl.

imaam sahab plz help me and tel me any very strong wazifa.

thanx

Asalamalaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh...

I’m 18 years old. And I’m studying an alimah course and I’m currently in my second year. And I want to get married however I’m not exactly sure how to go about it.

I’m really lonely and have no one to talk to about my problems and sometimes feel quiet down and upset. I’m a teacher and an artist and Allah has given me the ability to be good at anything I put my mind to. I want to marry an Indian who's an alim who's practicing and has a decent beard lol.

I don't care what he looks like. I've been told you know be patient and stuff. And I’m not sure what to do, I want to ask my parents to actually start looking for me but I don’t know how to. I want to ask my teacher but I’m afraid of her.

I've often been told that I've got poor self esteem and people actually do walk over me that's due to my upbringing. During my jahiliya days I was in a relationship for 3 yrs. and it was very upsetting and I got physically ill and mentally hurt. And I just want to get over it.

Please I just need some advice I really just want to get married and forget about my past and lead an obedient life.

Jakhallah hu khairan may Allah accept all your dua for helping a young sister.

~Zoya2K8

I’m 17 (almost 18) and have been dating a 19 (soon to be 20) year old for just over a year now. I love him unconditionally, and feel he's the one. We realize it’s wrong to date and have always had the intention of getting married, however cause I’m still in full time education we hadn’t spoken to our parents about getting married.

A friend of mine told me we could have a nikah without our parents’ consent, but we had doubts in our mind about it and did istikhara, and it came back as a bad sign, his older sister explained that even though she had also agreed to allowing us to have a nikah she realized its wrong for so many reasons, cause our parents would be hurt if they found out we’d got married behind their back and that would also displease Allah. His sister said that when the time comes she is more than sure that her family will approve of me and her brother to get married and that she will be more than happy to know that its me as she adores me. We assumed that this was the answer to our istikhara prayer.

As I’m a friend of hers, I had attended their older sister’s wedding and met their family, with them being unaware that I and her brother were dating, only his cousins and friends were aware. I honestly felt like a part of their family, they were so loving and caring. At the time of their elder sisters’ wedding his mum suspect that me and him were dating but both his sisters quickly convinced her that we weren’t dating, despite suspecting we were dating she was still so sweet towards me. His mum still asks his sister about me and has invited me to come and visit the family again.

We’ve now decided that in seven months’ time, he will come and speak to my parents and that we could at least have an engagement then married later insha Allah, cause we feel guilty for keeping our relationship a secret. I decided to perform istikhara as he suggested we should do so, the reason being for this is because if we weren’t supposed to get married it would be wrong to carry on dating and assuming we will get married.

I’ve performed istikhara on a number of occasions to find out whether or not him and me will get married. But all I seem to have got is a dream in which he was in, we met up and my younger sister was also present, (she has never met him) I’m not sure what this dream means, it’s not often that I see him appear in my dreams, please help? Does the dream have to be of me and him getting married?

And also if I need to perform istikhara again can someone else do it on my behalf? Do I go along with the sign from previously? (When his sister mentioned that she is certain that him and me will get married when the right moment comes.)

~Soniyah

Allah is 'Al-Mujeeb' - The one who responds

Aslam waalikum....

Dear All,

I love a girl and I want to marry her. I want to have my Rab's agreement for this relationship, so I have a required dua for this so that I recite that dua,  and my RAB agrees with my dua & he write that girl in HAK.

Please help me and make dua for me. I know that I do not know all of you and I have no right to say anything, but as a friend I request all of you. If you could, make Fariyad(Request) one time only. You say" Ya Mere RAB Isko iska pyar se nikah kabul kr le, AAMIN," to my mighty Lord. Please, one time please.

Thanx n regrds,
Mustakim

Aoa.

I am a university student studying in the first year of bachelors. When I was doing my o-levels (quite young though) there was a girl in my school. I fell for her unaware of the restrictions in Islam at that time. It took me a lot of time to get in touch with her (almost a year). After all the efforts I somehow contacted her and her reaction was quite furious one. However, it started with friendship for a few months and then I told her I love her and I want to marry her.

She was reluctant initially but then she agreed. The thing I appreciate the most is that we never dated, nor touched or talked in private. When my parents got to know about it my dad couldn't bear it and he told me to leave her. I said okay I will but I didn't. After one year he caught me again being in contact with her, and I assured him that I won't do it again and he also said that if you want to do anything, do it in a reasonable way and at the right time. I was content that he had accepted us.

From that day on we stopped talking through calls or text messages. but we were in contact through friends and we did talk after a month or so and then after a day we used to do as we were supposed to do. Few months back my father saw her pictures in my cellphone (I know my mistake) and he couldn't resist it and he scolded me to death. Whatever he said portrayed that he is not accepting us at all. He says that she is not a good girl and an innocent one, and the one who deserves me. They haven't even talked to her seen her, how can they talk about her character.

On the other side she told her mother and this was disturbing for her a lot. She said that she will wait for me to complete my studies and come for a proposal. Now, we have got out of this "relationship" thing and decided that not to be in contact through any means until the right time comes. But during this waiting period, I want to know what should I do, that after completing my masters (after 3 years) I want my parents to happily ask me who I want to marry. As they know who I want as my partner they should consider my choice whole heartedly. Moreover her respect in front of my parents is devalued. And Allah is the one who gives and takes honour from someone. What should I pray for her honour and mine as well?

Also that they accept her with full heart and love her like their own daughter as being the only son they will have one and only daughter in law. Waiting for your reply

Wasiq

I am a 21 year old girl who wants to get married to someone I've been with for nearly 3 years.

The problem is I'm Pakistani and he is Bengali, and because of this my parents aren't accepting. His side have agreed and want to get the ball rolling a.s.a.p. My mum is partially o.k with it as long as my dad agrees she don't mind. I dont know what to do.

Does anyone know any duas that I can read which will help my parents to accept this proposal or has any other advice.
Thank you

~Meher21

Assalamu alaikum

I am a 28yr old girl, single. In my student life I didn’t get into any relationship with any guy (even though I had people who were interested in me) because I know it is forbidden. Friends all around me got into such forbidden relations & are now married. My family is looking for my groom & Alhamdulillah I have received many marriage proposals. However I have turned down some on account of the guy working in riba based bank/firms.

Have I done the right thing? Or should I not worry about his source of income? I feel I should since riba is haraam & I should not get involved with such a life partner knowingly.

Recently I received a proposal where the guy said he was a practicing Muslim, I was impressed by that and also by his education so I thought I might have found the right person. After speaking with him for a while he asked me whether I would consider not wearing the hijab for a while after marriage, since according to him as a couple I would look old with hijab with him. I was shocked & said no, this is not something that I can do. I am hurt and now I look back & think about the previous proposals that I have refused, the guys had no problem about my hijab but I turned them down because of their riba based jobs, did I do the right thing?

I know I have made a mistake once when I turned down one proposal because I thought I did not find the guy attractive. Now I realize that was a big mistake on my part. I pray to Allah to forgive me for that error in judgment.

People of my age are all married/or getting married & even though I do not have any family pressure I know my parents are worried about me.

So what should I do? I know I have to be patient & I regularly pray to Allah to give me a husband who is a believer, a practising Muslim who earns in a halal way.  Do pray for me & tell me whether I am doing the right thing focusing on the income issue.

Thank you

~uhjfv

Hi there I am a 32 year old man who is still single and not even found the right partner to settle down with. Now all through my life I have been faithful to my parents and even to my grandmother as well but when the time comes to them to talk about marriage I just get let down by all of them. "Look at your cousin he has found a girl or look at your sister we have found the right man for her". It's always been like this ever since me being the first-born and still I get jealous of them, it looks like a happy life and a happy marriage while poor me has to wait and wait for the right person to come along.

All my life I have been jealous of my friends finding their perfect partners, even jealous of the happy life they have or the holiday destinations they have travelled to. This is why I just get upset by the whole thing and my parents are finding the right person for me as most of the girls I have seen or visited just said no, why is that no one loves me for who I am. I don't smoke, don't drink any alcohol substances or even going around having affairs with girls, oh well it looks to me I will be living in my grandmother's house on my own until she departs from this very world. I just can't think eat and sleep straight it's cause of all these things that are going through my mind why can't I be normal and happy like everybody else, but no it's still the same thing day in and day out why has he not found a girl yet why does he not want to get married, and in the end even my mum is saying it's Allah's will if it happens it happens but I am also worried that if I do find someone then I will end up being 40 or 45 years old then its all downhill for me at this point.

I told all of my problems to a trusted friend and even he was upset by what I was going through, a good-looking lad like yourself and nobody loves you. Then it came to him and he said that Allah is testing you cause he loves you. Now please tell me if this is the truth cause from the looks of it I have been tested from the day I was born to the age I am now. Please help me as I can't stand this it's making me sick and unwell even my parents are worried that I do too much and I don't get any spare time to enjoy my life as well why is it that I have to be tested to the limit havn't I suffered enough. Can't just Allah except me for who I am or does he have something special in store for me in the near future.

~rk008

Assalamu Alaikum.

I am 21 years old boy. I am short in height. My height is 5 feet 1 inch. For this I got into many harassment. I pray to Allah for this. So there you see, I love a girl. I think she is a good girl. I am shorter than her. She is 5 feet 4 and I am 5 feet 1. But I want her so badly because I think she is perfect for me. I am going to perform istikhara.

As I am short it is tough for these things to happen. In this situation I pray to Allah. What should I do? The girl doesn't know me properly. She doesn't know that I love her. Please help me out.

One more thing, is their any cure for this kind of diseases regarding height? I heard that their are few duas that works for hard diseases.

"O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of God is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And God has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)." 49:13.

Salaam
Hi i am currently going through the a problem and i came across this forum i have known this guy for 6 yrs my family hav met him and know his from a good family and is a good guy and that he will keep me happy but are not allowing me to marry him due to caste difference. I come from a family where my sister married out of caste and so did my brother but now that it is my turn the only reason they are saying it is becuz they have heard from other people that they are a low caste and yet on several occasions the boys family have spoke and proven to my family that they are not.

I am very much hurt and upset as my whole family are against me jus becuz of his caste and keep saying to me if u want to marry him you have to leave home. I have tried to speak to my family on several occasions and explained that he is a good guy and i know he will keep me happy and that caste shouldnt matter as caste does not come from islam.

I love my mum so much and i wish she would understand but i also love this guy and know will keep me happy and refuse to let go jus becuz of his caste. I feel so trapped and pray Allah swt softens my family's heart. I'm confused trapped and suffocated.

~N Sister