Catholic woman in love with Muslim man
I am a 44 year old practicing Catholic woman who lives in the US and met an Algerian man at a friend’s barbecue. We are both in high tech, have similar educational backgrounds, and are divorced with young daughters (his goes to Islamic school and mine to Catholic school). We also share similar values and morals like modesty and doing volunteer work. After we exchanged emails - we met for coffee in a public place and ended up talking for over two hours. That was 5 months ago and we talk daily via phone or email and we attend a lot of the same functions because our common friends are our age with young children. We are best friends and are at the stage where we just started talking about marriage. I am 100% committed to supporting his Islamic faith (I have attended prayers on Friday at Masjid, been to Eid celebrations, as well as hosted “get togethers” at my house with all of our Muslim friends. He has been very honest with me and said that his wish for me is to become a good Muslim woman. I respect him and want to make sure that I am not doing anything to jeapordize his religious convictions or mine. My experience with my church has always been positive and I cannot walk away from what I have known and been taught all my life. I would appreciate your perspective relevant to us getting married or do we cut off our friendship. Thank you for listening and may Allah bless you.
Written by pdxgirl on January 17th, 2008 with
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#1. September 30th, 2008, at 11:11 AM.
Well, if you love somebody, then you love him/her the way s/he is. You have done enough by being tollerant and supportive to his fate by attending ceremonies and maintaining a friendly contact with other muslims. As far as know there is no problem for a muslim to marry a christian woman, so the requirement to convert is not a must. In the same vain, if he wants you to become muslim, then you have the right to ask him the same in return-that he becomes christian. If you agree to convert, how will you educate your daughter who has been grown up in the christian spirit? Will she also be obliged to become muslimah? Do you have the right to impose this on her? And also, from my own expereince, you will have a lot of frustration and internal fight to accept a new religion.
I hope my comment to be posted. It is an honest one, written with supreme respect to the islamic fate.