Assalamualaikum. I am new here and in need of advice. I converted 3years ago but just now I'm getting close to Allah. Alhamdulillah. I am still married but I don't think it will last much longer. I have been married for 10 yrs, I have a 3 yr old daughter and a 2 yr old. My husband cheated on me 2 yrs into the marriage and i forgave him although it has always been in the back of my mind.
He told me 2 months ago that he had been unfaithful again. And blaimed it on me not being a good Muslim. I have since started to attend the mesjid and am trying to learn and practice as much as i can, however I found some pics on he's e-mail (he doest know I know his password) of a woman and one of his private part I'm not sure what to do.
I no longer love him (when I married him I loved him very very much) but I have been trying to work things out because of our daughters. We havent even been intimate for over 10 mnths now (not unusually throughout the marriage we could go 3-5 months without being intimate plus it's been over 2yrs since we share the same bed he blames it on his back but yet he sleeps in the couch) I asked him to seek counselling together through the mesjid but he did not want to.
I am going to away for a few days and I will be following his whereabouts to see what he does. I feel guilty for doing this but I also feel I can no longer stay in this situation. He works as a sales person and he is very good with his words. I feel he knows me so well that any situation he knows how to get out of and likes to turn it to somehow for it to be my fault and somehow it ends up making sense to me and I end up believing him, I really need help.
Can you give me some advise. I thought since im going to a different city i could talk to a different mesjid. Please help, inshallah maybe through here I can get some advice.
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