How to make children offer salaah and remaining unmarried in Islam?
As salam aliekum,
Please answer some questions I have.
1) How to make children offer salaah regularly?
Our's is a big family. I have my nieces and nephews around me all the time. Older grandchildren of my parents have already crossed their teens now. A few of them MashaAllah are blessed with inborn good qualities but, many are not. Most of them don't obey their elders and don't offer namaz inspite of regular reminder by all the elders. A few older ones are fond of music and younger ones are mad of cartoon channels. As a child or even as a teenager I remember I never offered namaz regularly but Alhamdulillah Allah helped me realise the importance of offering namaz regularly, and that, it is fardh on every muslim. We elders at our home want the children of our family to outdo us in deen, imaan and good deeds and stand good and clean in front of Allah in the aaqirah. We have learnt from our mistakes and don't want them to make those mistakes but the children don't understand this.
It is so saddening that they have time for school, TV, music, sports and have not even little time for namaz or to open and recite the Qur'an. They misbehave. The younger ones can still be controlled as they are sent to madarsas or a molvi coming home to teach them recite Qur'an but the older ones are rebels. A few days back I saw my niece, who is now 20, downloading songs from the internet. It was time for asr and the time was already passing. I asked her to offer namaz and I myself went to offer. When I returned I still found her with the laptop. This time I asked her if she is clean and yes she was. I tried to close the flap of the laptop but she irritantly told "you go and offer if you want to, why are you troubling me?" I was hurt. It was for her good that I was telling. I know all things of entertainment must be removed from the house but what else can we do to make them obey us? Bashing them is also going in vain.
Please suggest how should the parents and elders deal with them?
2) Can I choose to remain unmarried?
After everything that has happened in my life, and after reading so so so many posts about husbands' infidelity or betrayal, I am thinking of remaining unmarried. Although I always had a strong urge of getting married, bearing children and starting my family life, now I've started disliking the idea of getting married. Please advice.
As salam aliekum.
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