I Committed Zinaa, Should I Marry the Guy?
November 29, 2006
This question is answered by Wael Abdelgawad, the AskBilqis.com and Zawaj.com Editor and Administrator.
QUESTION:
Dear Bilqis,
Aslamu elikum warehmatullah
Dear Bilqis, I have a problem, plz give me quick response. I was making a sin of Zinaa. I’m very ashamed of it. I was trapped by the guy. But now i want to marry him, because I don’t want to destroy the life of another guy. Plz tell me what can i do? I regularly do Dua to Allah to plz forgive me for this sin.
- D. from Pakistan
WAEL ANSWERS:
Dear Sister D., As-Salamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah,
It seems that you have repented and made tawbah for your actions. That is very good, alhamdulillah. It’s commendable that you are now following the correct path and trying to act as a Muslim.
You said that you were “trapped by the guy.” I don’t know what you mean by this. If you meant that he physically forced you, then this is not Zinaa, it is rape. This would be a crime that he committed against you. This is not a sin by you, because you were the victim of a crime. In this case I would urge you to report this to the authorities so they can take action against him.
Or maybe your saying you were “trapped” by him means that he pressured you emotionally in some way, and you gave in.
In either case, this man is absolutely not a good man and you should not marry him.
Don’t worry right now about marrying someone else. Just focus on living your life, being a good Muslim, and healing from this incident. Eventually, when you are ready, you will find someone good Insha’Allah, and you do not have to mention your past at that time, as it is between you and Allah.
If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, feel free to post your comments below.
Glory to You Allah, we praise You, we bear witness that there is no God except You, we ask Your forgivess and we repent to You.
Best regards,
- Wael Hesham Abdelgawad, Administrator
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#1. December 11th, 2006, at 9:40 AM.
I know you know That zinaa a is a big sin in the sight of Allah (SWT) but whatever the case may be Allah (SWT) said to his servant who has wrong himself/herself do not deapair with the mercy of Allah because He forgive all sins. We all make mistakes but should not be repeating the same mistakes. Sister in Deen I sincerely advise you to be fasting regularly and begging Allah for forgiveness. I want to remind you that whosover Allah guided is cannot be mislead but whosoever Allah mislead none can guide. Pray to Allah so that he can give you guidance.
I will personally ask Allah to shower His mercy upon you and all of us.
Stay Bless.