Dua for my 2 year old boy
Assalam-o-alaikum,
I have a 2 yr old son, I started working/studying when he was 6 mnths of age. He was left at home with a maid, and my mother in law. I wasn't able to give him the proper attentionI think, that he hasnt started speaking as yet. He says a few words, but never repeats them. I also think that he doesnt have the wisdom of a two yr old, he is too innocent, but very hyper.
I wish you could tell me some dua that will help him start speaking/ or that will aid in his brain development.
Thank you.
~Angeline_fire
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As salamu alaykum, sister,
This is just my personal opinion, I think your son doesn´t have any kind of problems what I think it is that he doesn´t need to speak to be understood, some children develop a signal and sound language that everybody understands and they don´t have the need of working hard to speak.
Be with him and teach him the right way to communicate, when he wants something ask him to tell you what he wants and little by little he will have to make the effort to say words and after that some little sentences.
Girls go faster than boys in the learning process, almost all the girls I know they were speaking not clearly but fluently at two years old but almost all the boys took at least to the three years to do the same than the girls, specially if they don´t socialize with other children, in your case, seems to me that being with the maid and the grandmother hasn´t been enough stimulation for him to learn words and sentences but he may recognize all of them, that is a sign that he is going right.
Have you taken him to the doctor and he is developing normally? Does he have any problem to hear? If he has been checked and he is developing normally and all his senses are right, don´t worry, give him the time he needs to develop naturally, don´t be in a hurry, do your homework with him, talking normally and asking him for attention when need it and be careful with his diet, a child with two years should have the minimun of the minimun intake of sugar and salt, this can cause hiperactivity if it is out of control. Ask his doctor about the healthiest diet for your son.
Don´t feel guilty about not being able to be with him when being little, that it is already past, you cannot do anything about that, just let it be, and make the best of all the time that you can spend together from now on.
Wasalam
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
aslamualiqum sister .,ua son ddoesnt have any problem.,itz normal.,i have seen children 2 years of age who speak very little .,but i wana ask u is ua study /work more important dan ua son .,??2day children need more care of their parents .,dey need love of their parents .,leaving wid maid or ua mother in law is gud but not as best as wen u wil be wid ua kid.,give ua kid sm time if possible.,
AA;
Inshallah there is nothing wrong wiht your son. May Allah bless him, shower him with mercy, make him smartest, and grow to be a great practicing Muslim.
With that said. there is nothing wrong to also go to a doctor and explain your concerns and let them check him out.
May ALLAH guide us, grant us patience, and shower us with his mercy.
If I am correct, it is from ALLAH. If I err it is from me, and I pray ALLAH forgives me. Allah knows best.
AA
Salaams,
In due respect of all the advice previously given, no one of us can tell you if there is something wrong with your son or not. Only a professional pediatrician or pediatric psychiatrist can give that opinion.
While it's true there may be nothing wrong with your son, and he is developing at a rate which is normal for him and he will wind up ok in the end; there is also the fact that children who are not verbal by the time they are about two years old may have complications due to hearing disorders, autism, or other cognitive delays. The only way to know for sure, as I said, is to have your son professionally evaluated.
If it does wind up that your son has special needs, then it's better this is detected sooner so that proper interventions can start. I know some parents like to wait longer and longer hoping the problem resolves on its own; but they are taking a risk that they are losing valuable time that can be used helping the child progress to where he needs to be. In addition, in many western countries, not seeking out treatment and interventions when you have a concern such as this one can be viewed as medical neglect and cause the state to intervene in various ways...some of which include removing the child from your home. I sincerely don't wish those types of things upon anyone, so I always recommend parents in these types of situations to err on the side of caution and seek out the help of licensed medical doctors.
-Amy
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Salaams Sister
Alhamdullilah,you were lucky enough to spend the first 6 months with your child. Unfortunately I had very little time to spend with my son after his birth. His speech was also delayed and took quite a while for him to start crawling and walking. Each child develops at his own pace. To encourage your child to speak, read to him daily.This would help to increase his vocalb. Ask him lots of questions. Give him time to answer. Show him picture books. Spend at least an hour a day and inshaALLAH you would see some change in him. You mentioned that he is hyper. He could be suffering from ADHD. It's a behavioral disorder where children have a problem paying attention. As the others have mentioned, you should have him assesed by a doctor to outline the problem.
Salam Rumaysa
Just need to ask that how much time your child took to crawl or walk.. Thanks
Asalaam alaikum,
If you live in the Untied States, it's very important to get him evaluated now, as there are free State and Federal programs that he may be eligible for, but will not be after he turn 5 years old. Since these are some of his most important developmental years, this is all the more pertinent.
As-Salaamu Alykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
Dear Sister I pray that ALLAH(swt) protects your son from all harm. However from what you have written about your son, I am afraid he should be evaluated by a doctor at the earliest possible. Please google search for 'Autism' and check for yourself if he shows any of its signs.
May Allah protect all our kids. Aameen
Salam o alaikum,
I have 3 sons, 8, 4 and 1 year old. The 8 year old did not speak anything that made sense till he was around 4, the 4 year old still speaks his own language but at the age 2 of none of them said anything legible except mama and baba and certain items of food that they liked. At the same time my sister has 2 girls and they both started talking (a bit too much to be honest!) around that age. I consulted with my mother who told me that I myself did not say much until i was 4-5 years old.
Having said that I do believe that since you are the mother and closest to your child, you would be able to understand the situation better hence there is no harm in seeking medical opinions. If nothing, it will give you peace of mind as your peace of mind is very important for the good upbringing of your son.
May Allah swt make him a solid, brave and kind muslim. Ameen
regards,