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dua to find a good wife?

dua hands and alharam 274x300 %photoasalam aleykum. please tell me the best duaa to find a good wife.

- Abubaker


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  1. "Our Lord! Grant us a spouse and offspring who will be the joy (and the comfort ) of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteous (Leader of God-concious people). " (Qur'an 25:74)

    Aameen

    • PS: I forgot to mention that along side our heart felt duas must go our 'effort' - thats the difficult part; well I speak for myself anyway.

      So seek the halaal means the Allah(swt) has given and make dua in conjunction with this inshaAllah.

  2. salam i would like to answer abubakr question,,,,,brother u try to pray TAHUJUD along with other five time prayer and do dua on prayerss,,,,,INSHALLAH ALLAH will definetly help you bcoz dua is muslimzz greatest strength,,,,,,and plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz pray for me also plz plz plz,,,,JAZZAKAHHALKHAIR.

    • Thank u sis ASMA.......i 'll apply ur idea....but i want the exact BEST DUA.
      Selaaam!!!

      • Asalaamualaikum dear Brother...

        Is there a 'best dua'?? :O) MaashaAllah there are so many beautiful duas, read through the Quran and you will see numerous times where Allah is showing is how to seek His help.

        Sister Asma is right in what she is saying - we can know the best dua but we need to say it in the right way and at the right time. Of course we can talk to Allah(swt) through making dua at any time of the day or night, but Allah has told us about the recommended times for making dua.

        Some of these recommended times are during:
        - Sujood
        - After Fard Salah
        - In the last third of the night - which is before Fajr
        - After making ablution/wudu
        - While travelling
        - When unwell
        - When it is raining
        - On Jummah, there is an hour which is very special for making dua; we don't know the exact timing, but its good for us to seek the hour

        You recognise that you need to make dua to Allah(swt) because you want something that only He(swt) can give you through His Mercy. So you are in Need of Allah's Mercy. What do we humans do when we want something from someone? We listen to them, we try to or aim to do what they want us to do. So it is the same in this case too. Find out what Allah(swt) recommends us to do to gain His pleasure and do them.

        After making sure you are observing the compulsory pillars, ie: believing in the Oneness of Allah(swt), praying 5 daily salaah, fasting in Ramadaan, paying Zakah, making an effort to do Hajj

        - Observe voluntary fasts
        - Pray Tahujjud Salaah
        - Do acts of charity
        - Give Sadaqah
        - Do lots of Dhikr
        - Smile - its a form of charity, and also uplifting and may attract a nice sister to you, lol!! :O)
        - Visit an ill person
        - Feed a poor person

        There are lots of things you can do to come closer to Allah, the list is endless Alhumdulillah and the great thing is that alot of things are absolutely free; yet we receive so much reward from doing them - with the right intention.

        And of course, all this goes hand in hand with making an effort!!!

        May you take the right steps to helping yourself and May Allah(swt) help you too!!! :O)

        SisterZ

      • Assalamu Alaikum...

        How are you bhaiyya?
        Alhamdulillah!!!

        The exact dua for the good and beautiful wife is given below,

        Allahumma zawjni hasinan jameelan saaliheen.

    • Assalamu alaikum sister Asma,

      I wanted to get married. As Islam says , we have to find the one with good islamic characters.
      proposals for good muslimah are coming, but i am stucked because there is a girl who i beleive she is not honest at all based on her behavior. I feel painful for seeing her with those behaviors. My intention to marry her is to try with the Blessing of Allah to save her from hellfire(May Allah leads all of us to the right path and grant us His Paradise) and to her a good muslim wife....nothing else.Allah knows my intention...
      Is it permissible to leave sister who fear Allah and marry opposite side with the intention of trying to help?

      Jazaka Allah Khair

      • Bawazir, it's permissible but it's a bad idea. Your impulse to "save" this woman will only lead to a troubled marriage. It would be better to marry someone who is mentally and emotionally healthy, and honest. If you need further advice please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • Dear brother Wael,

          Thank you for your advice I understand....as mom Allah yarhamha used to say, the paths which lead you to jannah are more than the air we breath...i need to have stable life.. then to be able to help.

          Jazaakum Allah Khair

  3. Asalaam Alykum,

    Like Sister Z said, besides making dua, try to do a lot of good deeds and keep asking for forgiveness. Remember, in Surah Nuh, Nuh tells his people to ask for forgiveness, telling them "He will send down upon you the cloud, pouring down abundance of rain: (11) And help you with wealth and sons, and make for you gardens, and make for you rivers.'

    (Of course, it only follows that Allah will grant you a wife before He bestows on you sons or children.)

    One thing, though, I wouldn't encourage you to smile at someone from the opposite gender. Remember, we are meant to lower our gaze. Having said that, I do encourage you to smile at other men.

    Finally, don't forget to to actively do your part. If you have a good, practicing sister, don't hesitate to ask her to help you find someone. Join halaqas at the masijd- you might meet a brother who is looking for someone for his sister.

    May Allah help you find someone who will make you happy both in this world and the next.

  4. The best du'a in seeking marriage (man or woman) is the Salat-ul Istikhara

    Anytime a Muslim is making a decision, he or she should seek Allah's guidance and wisdom. Allah alone knows what is best for us, and there may be good in what we perceive as bad, and bad in what we perceive as good.

    If you are ambivalent or unsure about a decision you have to make, there is a specific prayer for guidance (Salat-l-Istikhara) that you can do to ask for Allah's help in making your decision. Should you marry this certain person? Should you attend this graduate school? Should you take this job offer or that one? Allah knows what is best for you, and if you are not sure about a choice that you have, seek His guidance.

    The Prophet Muhammad said, "If one of you is concerned about some practical undertaking, or about making plans for a journey, he should perform two cycles (rak'atain) of voluntary prayer." Then he/she should say the following du'a:

    Arabic:
    Click here to view the Arabic text.
    Translation:
    Oh Allah! I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power; I have none. And You know; I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things.

    Oh Allah! If in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And ordain for me the good wherever it may be, and make me content with it.
    Transliteration:
    Allahumma inni astakheeroka bi ilmik. Wa'astaq-diroka biqodratik. Wa'as'aloka min fadlikal-azeem. Fa'innaka taqdiru wala aqdir. Wata lamo wala-a lam. Wa'anta-allamul ghuyoob.

    Allahumma in kunta ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) khayul-lee fi deenee wama ashi wa ajila amri wa'ajilah, faqdorho lee, wayassirho lee, thomma-barik lee fih. Wa'in konta ta lamo anna (hathal-amra*) sharrul-lee fi deenee. Wama ashi. Wa ajila amri. Wa'ajilaho. Fasrifho annee. Wasrifnee anh. Waqdur leyal-khayr haytho kan. Thomma ardini bih.

    * When making the du'a, the actual matter or decision should be mentioned instead of the words "hathal-amra" ("this matter").

    * After doing salat-l-istikhara, you may feel more inclined toward a decision one way or the other.

    have complete trust in Him, be patient Insha Allah you will see wonders.
    Pray for me and the website Iextracted the texts.

  5. salaam how r u my brothers and sisters plz........................................ i want some thing from u i can u help me for this plz .................................................................................................................................................................................................i want u duas for my happy life and u r to get my love plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz rember in u r dua .

    DO U NOW SOME THING ABOUT ISLAM IF YES PLZ READ THIS HAZRATH MOOSA (S.L.A) IS DERIT DISCONTION WITH ALLAHA

    ALLAHA HAVE SAY TO MOOSA ?AAI MOOSA MUIJA TU OS ZUBAN SAY DUA KAR GIS ZUBAN SAY TU NA GUNA NAHI KIYA .MOOSA (S.L.A.) NA FRMAYA AAI ALLAH WO ZUBAN KA SAY LOOVO ? ALLAH NA FAMAYA TU DUSARO SAY KAI KE TIRA LIYA DUA KARA KUKI TU NA OO NA KI ZUBA SAY GUNA NAHI KIYA HAI!

    PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ DUA FOR ME

  6. are there any dua's or nything i can do to make my marriage work? i read namaz, do many dua's, daily, but its been almost 4 months since my husband left, and won't return. i need to do something, if anyone knows of any duas etc for my situation, please reply. thankyou.

  7. Assalamalikum i wish and pray with ALLLAH for married muslim brothers and sisters may Allah fill ur life with comfort, joy, happenss,faith on eachother,respect on eachother,trust on eachother,courage for each other and bless u all with peous childrens and this life makes ur that life which never ends and for Muslim brothers and sisters whio are not married May Allah bless u with this Nayma and make good arrangement of marraige and makes and gives u all happyness which never ends. read this dua always . RABANA HABLANA AZWAJINA KHURRATUN AYUN-RABANA JAA ALNA MUTAKHEENA IMAAMA. I DONT KNOW WHY I FEEL VERY DSITURB AND SAAAD WHEN I HEAR ABOUT WIFE AND HUSBEND ARE SUPRATE. ALLAH MAY UNITED THEM ALL WHO ARE SUPRATE AMEEN ALLAH HUMMA AMEEN

  8. AND PLEASE PRAY FOR ME FOR GOOD WIFE AND HAPPY LIFE AND PEOUS CHILDRENS IAM SINGLE GETTING MARRAIGE SOON INSHALLAH

  9. Assalamu alykum
    im going to copy the dua that sisterz pasted..JAZAKALLAHU khairan

  10. Being Muslim and having the faith. I will say Allah is great and He is the one who can help us in every field of our lives and at any cruel corner where we cannot decide anything. Everyone has his or her own faith. Dua has a power and it is the truth of life.

    We say real prayers when we are stuck somewhere in our lives. Having a particular Dua needs a solid and strong faith in Allah and then sterling efforts to keep that woman with for all life and being the best husband and the best father and making the children the best in society.

    I solute you because you asked for this Dua because you now need a real wife. I hope If you meet any woman now you will respect her the way Muhammad (peace be upon him did). Meeting a woman is not only giving birth to children but one that that we don't understand is " THE WAY WE WANT SOMETHING FROM OUR WIFE, WE DON'T GIVE HER BACK" I mean RESPECT.

    If you really want a good woman in your life you have to learn first HOW TO BECOME GOOD HUSBAND in life.

    Allah Subhans Tala has every solution of every problem just have this faith and recite this Dua and I will also beg from Allah to give you what you need in your life.

    May Allah give you every power that you need to respect this woman.

    للّٰهُمَّ اِنِّيْ اُرِيْدُ اَنْ اَتَزَوَّجَ فَقَدِّرْ لِيْ مِنَ النِّسَآءِ اَعْفِهُنَّ فَرْجًا وَ احْفَظِهُنَّ لِيْ فِيْ نَفْسِهَا وَ اَوْسِعْهُنَّ لِيْ رِزْقًا وَاَعْظَمِهُنَّ لِيْ بَرَكَةً فِيْ نَفْسِهَا وَ مَا لِيْ فَقَدِّرْ لِيْ مِنْهَا وَلَدًا طَيِّبًا تَجْعَلُهٗ خَلَفًا صَالِحًا فِيْ
    حَيَاتِيْ وَ بَعْدَمَوْتِي
    “O’ Allah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death.”

    Allahumma Innee Urreedu An Atazawwaja Faqaddir Lee Minan Nisaa-I A’fihunna Farjajan wa Ah’fadh’ihunna Lee Fee Nafsihaa Wa Awsa-i-Hunna Lee Rizwan Wa A-dhamahunna Lee Barakatan Fee Nafsihaa Wa Maaleee Faqaddir Lee Minhaa Waladan Tayyiban Tajaluhoo Khalafan Saalihan Fee Hayaatee Wa Ba`da Mawt

  11. Salam alaekum,
    I must commend all your effort for making this website available for muslim. May Allah reward your abundantly. Ma salam

  12. Asalam alykum,

    Please, my muslim brethren I want you to pray for me, im in my early 30s a graduate from one of the best university in Nigeria and working as an Estate Surveyour in a reputable Estate firm. But I have challenges in choosing who to marry.

    Please, pray for me to get a good muslim lady to marry asap.

    Thank you, your prayer is very important to my life...

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