Comments on: Fallen in love with my big brother’s wife http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/ Islamic marriage advice and family advice Sun, 12 Feb 2012 02:54:54 +0000 hourly 1 By: WAQARCRUZ http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-38497 WAQARCRUZ Sat, 01 Oct 2011 21:06:30 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-38497 i go to Dubai for searching a job and i got one. but she was not attending my calls not talking to me. i became so tense i decided to suicide but then my cousin tells me go back to ur country and ask her to marry u. but when i came back my family got away. they came back after a week. but she doesn't came back. i ask them but they dont tel me. what i do. i told them pls i want to talk to her but they dont listen me. i finaly found her and then ended in a fight. her parents got her away with them because they r going for Hajj and they don't want any disturbance. i just want her. I want to marry her. can it be possible. all family members and relatives are saying no. but i can't forget her i just want her. i want her to be with me in Dubai also. some say ask my brother if she is rady to divorce her or some say ask her that if he divorce her she marries u or not. i just want her. my future is on stalk. i don't know where i am. i just want her just her i love her much. how i do marry her please tell me. i go to Dubai for searching a job and i got one. but she was not attending my calls not talking to me. i became so tense i decided to suicide but then my cousin tells me go back to ur country and ask her to marry u. but when i came back my family got away. they came back after a week. but she doesn't came back. i ask them but they dont tel me. what i do. i told them pls i want to talk to her but they dont listen me. i finaly found her and then ended in a fight. her parents got her away with them because they r going for Hajj and they don't want any disturbance. i just want her. I want to marry her. can it be possible. all family members and relatives are saying no. but i can't forget her i just want her. i want her to be with me in Dubai also. some say ask my brother if she is rady to divorce her or some say ask her that if he divorce her she marries u or not. i just want her. my future is on stalk. i don't know where i am. i just want her just her i love her much. how i do marry her please tell me.

]]> By: Slave of Allah http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-30836 Slave of Allah Mon, 20 Jun 2011 22:53:11 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-30836 Assalamualaikum wr wb Brother what on earth?!!!!!! you know the shaytan (may Allah's curse be on him) is having a nice laugh making you go insane over your sister in law?! brother wake up!!! if you truly turn to Allah, He will help you... <strong> Therefore remember Me (by praying, glorifying, etc.). I will remember you, and be grateful to Me (for My countless Favours on you) and never be ungrateful to Me. O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones</strong> surah baqarah verses 152 and 153 <strong>Surely, Shaytan is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy. He only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire.) (35:6)</strong>, and: <strong> (Will you then take him (Iblis) and his offspring as protectors and helpers rather than Me while they are enemies to you What an evil is the exchange for the Zalimin (polytheists, and wrongdoers, etc).</strong>) (18:50) <em><strong>Shaitan commands you only what is evil and Fahsha (sinful), and that you should say against Allah what you know not. </strong></em>(2:169) Bro, i want you to do these two things: 1. Go to the masjid...pray to Allah....tell him how weak you are and that you have committed so many sins...humble yourself in front of the King of kings! if your attitude is im such a nice person and why am i being put through all these then dont expect Allah's Help...really....coz the hardest of tests were given to the Prophets because they were the best of mankind... thru tests Allah elevates the position of His slaves and removes their sins... I highly recommend you to go through Yusuf's (peace on him) story... http://noblequran.com/translation/index.html 2. Second thing what I want you to do is to go away to somewhere you have privacy and reflect about your death, have you seen the graves? one day all of us are going to die...and we will wish for nothing except success of the akhira, to be protected from the hell fire...may Allah protect us all from the graveyard punishment and fire of hell... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJ3LHTY8JS0 and by the way you NEED to, YOU MUST repent not only for behaving in such an indecent manner but you also have to seek repentence for attempting suicide...if you died then you might have entered the hell fire!!!! not a joke bro! really think about it....dont be so foolish and destroy your life, other people's lives and the life of akhira!! And Allah Knows Best. Assalamualaikum wr wb

Brother what on earth?!!!!!! you know the shaytan (may Allah's curse be on him) is having a nice laugh making you go insane over your sister in law?!
brother wake up!!!
if you truly turn to Allah, He will help you...

Therefore remember Me (by praying, glorifying, etc.). I will remember you, and be grateful to Me (for My countless Favours on you) and never be ungrateful to Me.
O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones surah baqarah verses 152 and 153

Surely, Shaytan is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy. He only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire.) (35:6), and:

(Will you then take him (Iblis) and his offspring as protectors and helpers rather than Me while they are enemies to you What an evil is the exchange for the Zalimin (polytheists, and wrongdoers, etc).) (18:50)

Shaitan commands you only what is evil and Fahsha (sinful), and that you should say against Allah what you know not. (2:169)

Bro, i want you to do these two things:

1. Go to the masjid...pray to Allah....tell him how weak you are and that you have committed so many sins...humble yourself in front of the King of kings! if your attitude is im such a nice person and why am i being put through all these then dont expect Allah's Help...really....coz the hardest of tests were given to the Prophets because they were the best of mankind... thru tests Allah elevates the position of His slaves and removes their sins...
I highly recommend you to go through Yusuf's (peace on him) story... http://noblequran.com/translation/index.html

2. Second thing what I want you to do is to go away to somewhere you have privacy and reflect about your death, have you seen the graves? one day all of us are going to die...and we will wish for nothing except success of the akhira, to be protected from the hell fire...may Allah protect us all from the graveyard punishment and fire of hell...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJ3LHTY8JS0

and by the way you NEED to, YOU MUST repent not only for behaving in such an indecent manner but you also have to seek repentence for attempting suicide...if you died then you might have entered the hell fire!!!! not a joke bro! really think about it....dont be so foolish and destroy your life, other people's lives and the life of akhira!!

And Allah Knows Best.

]]> By: waqarcruz http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-30816 waqarcruz Mon, 20 Jun 2011 20:12:26 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-30816 my family my relatives knows that all, and my brother took her away with him for 6 months to a rented house, in those 6 months i throw the things of the house, destroy the things, destory the watch the tv remotes, tables , chairs etc, cry every single day and night. i told my family that i want to marry her but no one is agree with thta they said u r going mad. i do this because i want her to be my wife i lust for her, i gone mad, many times i wanted to attempt suicide but then i stopped, the punishment in a jail is easy but the punishment i got is really a curse from Allah. hardly hardly i got away a month ago from now i got away from that situation. i am ok now but i still love her and want to talk to her. but not lust for her. 4 days ago she and my brother came back to our house. i tried to talk to her and finally my familyb members allowed her to talk to me. i blame her i got angry on her. why she hurt me these 6 months, i said her u know that i can't live without u then why u go away from me u know i cant live without u. then she tells me understands me, tell me that this was good for both of us and our families. then i told her to be my sister. she accepts and she was very happy but last day i grab her again, i do nothing but grab her. she then got upset the whole day she said u will never change. u broke my trust again and again. today i want to talk to her but she ignores me again and again. i want a girl to marry but i have a job which is not beneficial after marriage. i tried hard but the country's conditions are worst. i am in trouble, i m in middle of every thing. nothing is going good. i pray 5 times a day and also started reading Holy Quran but from 2 days because of her i am in no shape to pray, i remain unclean. this things starts again. what i can do, on one way i can't live without her i want her in this house, i hardly passes those 6months when she got away. but on other way if she stay here, i lost my control and also unable to pray. whats the solution God Please help me. help me. i never hurt anyone, everyone makes an example of me and may family in good sense when this thing wont happened. we never hurt anyone, why this curse caught us. when this ends, me and my family are exhausted. my family my relatives knows that all, and my brother took her away with him for 6 months to a rented house, in those 6 months i throw the things of the house, destroy the things, destory the watch the tv remotes, tables , chairs etc, cry every single day and night. i told my family that i want to marry her but no one is agree with thta they said u r going mad. i do this because i want her to be my wife i lust for her, i gone mad, many times i wanted to attempt suicide but then i stopped, the punishment in a jail is easy but the punishment i got is really a curse from Allah. hardly hardly i got away a month ago from now i got away from that situation. i am ok now but i still love her and want to talk to her. but not lust for her. 4 days ago she and my brother came back to our house. i tried to talk to her and finally my familyb members allowed her to talk to me. i blame her i got angry on her. why she hurt me these 6 months, i said her u know that i can't live without u then why u go away from me u know i cant live without u. then she tells me understands me, tell me that this was good for both of us and our families. then i told her to be my sister. she accepts and she was very happy but last day i grab her again, i do nothing but grab her. she then got upset the whole day she said u will never change. u broke my trust again and again. today i want to talk to her but she ignores me again and again. i want a girl to marry but i have a job which is not beneficial after marriage. i tried hard but the country's conditions are worst. i am in trouble, i m in middle of every thing. nothing is going good. i pray 5 times a day and also started reading Holy Quran but from 2 days because of her i am in no shape to pray, i remain unclean. this things starts again. what i can do, on one way i can't live without her i want her in this house, i hardly passes those 6months when she got away. but on other way if she stay here, i lost my control and also unable to pray. whats the solution God Please help me. help me. i never hurt anyone, everyone makes an example of me and may family in good sense when this thing wont happened. we never hurt anyone, why this curse caught us. when this ends, me and my family are exhausted.

]]> By: muslima http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-27389 muslima Fri, 06 May 2011 17:39:21 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-27389 you say you love her what is love? love isnt something that drives you crazy, no thats lust love is somethingAllah created for two people where there is understanding, trust, a beautiful feeling in your heart where you feel thankful to Allah for giving you such a wonderful person. do you feel that? no you feel a tightness in your heart, anxious, uneasy, cant sleep, cant eat, you feel like your going mad. if you want your heart to be free from that pain you need to realise she's a drug to you. giving things up is hard. i know. so you need to do it step by step. take very small step at a time. your situation sounds like it'll take a while to heal. i know its hard when people say 'you need to stop doing this completly' its hard but it is possible. so do it slowly. im sure it wont be eay to suddenly forget her. do something that like forcing yourself not to call her or see. do this at LEAST once, once a week. keep doing that untill you are regularly doing it weekly. then slowly narrow it down down from twice a week, 3 times.. etc. inshallah then you will become in a habit of not contacting her and inshaalh this should lead you to start getting over her. remember this might take a while but dont give up. it'll push you to fight further if you knew you were making SOME progress the sooner you realise you dont love but lust for the girl the better pray to Allah to find you a wife that will help protect you from sin. inshallah if you get married you will fall in love with her the halal way the feeling you will feel in a halal relationship will be 100 times more beautiful then the one you are feeling now as Allah will have blessed that relationship i make dua Allah guides you and i really hope my advice helps you you say you love her
what is love?
love isnt something that drives you crazy, no thats lust
love is somethingAllah created for two people where there is understanding, trust, a beautiful feeling in your heart where you feel thankful to Allah for giving you such a wonderful person. do you feel that? no you feel a tightness in your heart, anxious, uneasy, cant sleep, cant eat, you feel like your going mad. if you want your heart to be free from that pain you need to realise she's a drug to you. giving things up is hard. i know. so you need to do it step by step.

take very small step at a time. your situation sounds like it'll take a while to heal. i know its hard when people say 'you need to stop doing this completly' its hard but it is possible. so do it slowly. im sure it wont be eay to suddenly forget her. do something that like forcing yourself not to call her or see. do this at LEAST once, once a week. keep doing that untill you are regularly doing it weekly.
then slowly narrow it down down from twice a week, 3 times.. etc. inshallah then you will become in a habit of not contacting her and inshaalh this should lead you to start getting over her. remember this might take a while but dont give up. it'll push you to fight further if you knew you were making SOME progress

the sooner you realise you dont love but lust for the girl the better
pray to Allah to find you a wife that will help protect you from sin.
inshallah if you get married you will fall in love with her the halal way
the feeling you will feel in a halal relationship will be 100 times
more beautiful then the one you are feeling now as Allah will have blessed that
relationship

i make dua Allah guides you and i really hope my advice helps you

]]> By: SRMuslimah http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-21684 SRMuslimah Fri, 07 Jan 2011 15:45:23 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-21684 Brother you need to move out - this obsession is really unhelpful -we will InshaAllah make dua for you. But why dont u make dua? Do u pray 5 x a day? If not start - Fear Allah- I can't get over how casually you can talk about how much you love your bros wife and how you've made a move on her - its scary that you seem to have lost ALL sense of self control and you NEED to do something about it. Shes you BROTHERS WIFE! You need to accept shes not yours - she doesnt want you anyway and its wrong. DONT LET THIS DESTROY YOU and DONT conteplate suicide. Suicide is a grave sin - it is effectively a ticket to the Fire. Any pain you are going through now will be nothing compared to the fire. MOVE TOWARDS ALLAH - OK REPENT - ALLAH IS THE MOST MERCIFUL. Ask Allah to give you the strength to fight your nafs, ask Him to forgive you. Read Qur;an - read night prayers - do whatever you can to get close to Allah. Ask Him to instill fear for His punishment into your heart. MOVE AWAY FROM HER- Yes it will be hard at first but you have to do it. I really hope your brother does take his wife away. Delete her number and her email and any other way you have of contacting her. Yes you will find this extremely hard but you can no longer live with her - its damaging you more and more. Its like an addiction - you will have withdrawal symptoms - but once u get past that stage InshaAllah you will no longer covet her - your feelings will fade. SEE A COUNSELLOR - As sister leyla suggested - This does not sound mentally healthy so sort this out before you end up in trouble. See your GP/See a counsellor. <strong></strong>IF YOU WANT A NORMAL LIFE, YOU MUST TAKE THESE STEPS AS SUGGESTED<strong></strong> Please wake up dear brother and stop dreaming - im sorry to sound harsh but your living in fantasy land. She doesn't love you or need you she was merely playing with you and you fell for her tricks. EVEN if she did - its still not at all appropriate for you to be this way towards her!! Shes trying to get you to hate her - what does this tell you brother - she wants you out of her life - accept it and move on. Ok try to be positive - you CAN move on - turn to Allah swt in repentance and ask for His help - move out and stay away for a long time (if you meet family i suggest you avoid visiting the family home - try to meet them elsewhere and make sure shes not there) and see a counsellor. I pray that Allah swt saves you from this obsession, forgives and guides you. Brother you need to move out - this obsession is really unhelpful -we will InshaAllah make dua for you. But why dont u make dua? Do u pray 5 x a day? If not start - Fear Allah- I can't get over how casually you can talk about how much you love your bros wife and how you've made a move on her - its scary that you seem to have lost ALL sense of self control and you NEED to do something about it. Shes you BROTHERS WIFE! You need to accept shes not yours - she doesnt want you anyway and its wrong. DONT LET THIS DESTROY YOU and DONT conteplate suicide. Suicide is a grave sin - it is effectively a ticket to the Fire. Any pain you are going through now will be nothing compared to the fire.

MOVE TOWARDS ALLAH - OK REPENT - ALLAH IS THE MOST MERCIFUL. Ask Allah to give you the strength to fight your nafs, ask Him to forgive you. Read Qur;an - read night prayers - do whatever you can to get close to Allah. Ask Him to instill fear for His punishment into your heart.

MOVE AWAY FROM HER- Yes it will be hard at first but you have to do it. I really hope your brother does take his wife away. Delete her number and her email and any other way you have of contacting her. Yes you will find this extremely hard but you can no longer live with her - its damaging you more and more. Its like an addiction - you will have withdrawal symptoms - but once u get past that stage InshaAllah you will no longer covet her - your feelings will fade.

SEE A COUNSELLOR - As sister leyla suggested - This does not sound mentally healthy so sort this out before you end up in trouble. See your GP/See a counsellor.

IF YOU WANT A NORMAL LIFE, YOU MUST TAKE THESE STEPS AS SUGGESTED

Please wake up dear brother and stop dreaming - im sorry to sound harsh but your living in fantasy land. She doesn't love you or need you she was merely playing with you and you fell for her tricks. EVEN if she did - its still not at all appropriate for you to be this way towards her!! Shes trying to get you to hate her - what does this tell you brother - she wants you out of her life - accept it and move on.
Ok try to be positive - you CAN move on - turn to Allah swt in repentance and ask for His help - move out and stay away for a long time (if you meet family i suggest you avoid visiting the family home - try to meet them elsewhere and make sure shes not there) and see a counsellor.

I pray that Allah swt saves you from this obsession, forgives and guides you.

]]> By: waqarcruz http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-18991 waqarcruz Sat, 16 Oct 2010 19:59:18 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-18991 I haven't told you that she holds the 'quran' and tell me that she is not interested in me and she won't play any game against me. she told me that she can never do this wrong thing which is zina. if i do this how i face Allah. she is right at her own point of views. and i know i am wrong but this is the fact that when you fall in love there is no thing you can do to make you normal. I have done everything to stay away from her. we both fight together involving my family members which was so intense specially for me because everyone blames me not her cuz if they blames her she will leave the house, they don't want to hurt her. 2 times i attempt suicide, eat the sleeping tablets but both time my family members took me to the hospital. My parents and sisters cares for me but what they can do, the thing i want is not possible. i realize that no body can hep me even my own brother if he loves me he will leave her for me but no. and now she told me that she won't love me stay away from me. 1st she said she cares for me and i know she have some love left for me after she got married to my big brother. she told me that i am her best friend very close to her. and now she tells me that i am the biggest tension in her life. she says i mean nothing to her she hates me she don't want to see me she is very happy when i leaved the house, imagine how it hurts when i heard this. but i know she just said that because she want me to hate her so that i can forget her. After the fight i leave the house 3 to 4 times. so that i can forget and hate her but i never prosper because her thoughts grabs me i finally finally failed to hate her and stay away from her. she is beautiful no doubt. and i think she is the only one beautiful and with good nature but no its not right there are so many beautiful girls. what i can do to make myself hate her, her every move attracts me towards her. i finally make up my mind that i just talk to her cuz i can't stay away from her. but then what her moves attracts me, every move every thing she talk. my mind failed finally and began thinking wrong about her. i told her i don't want to lose you. please always stay with me. but i don't know how i will marry the other girl if i still thinks about her. i pray always that she never hurt me again and please Allah realize her that how much i love her. so that she can't hurt me more. and i pray from Allah that he is the only one who can hep me to get rid of this problem. This is true that if you love someone and living with her how difficult it is to stay away from her and won't touch her. Pray for me, i have lost i want to become normal, a normal person like i was a year and a half ago. I haven't told you that she holds the 'quran' and tell me that she is not interested in me and she won't play any game against me. she told me that she can never do this wrong thing which is zina. if i do this how i face Allah. she is right at her own point of views. and i know i am wrong but this is the fact that when you fall in love there is no thing you can do to make you normal.
I have done everything to stay away from her. we both fight together involving my family members which was so intense specially for me because everyone blames me not her cuz if they blames her she will leave the house, they don't want to hurt her. 2 times i attempt suicide, eat the sleeping tablets but both time my family members took me to the hospital. My parents and sisters cares for me but what they can do, the thing i want is not possible. i realize that no body can hep me even my own brother if he loves me he will leave her for me but no. and now she told me that she won't love me stay away from me. 1st she said she cares for me and i know she have some love left for me after she got married to my big brother. she told me that i am her best friend very close to her. and now she tells me that i am the biggest tension in her life. she says i mean nothing to her she hates me she don't want to see me she is very happy when i leaved the house, imagine how it hurts when i heard this. but i know she just said that because she want me to hate her so that i can forget her.
After the fight i leave the house 3 to 4 times. so that i can forget and hate her but i never prosper because her thoughts grabs me i finally finally failed to hate her and stay away from her. she is beautiful no doubt. and i think she is the only one beautiful and with good nature but no its not right there are so many beautiful girls. what i can do to make myself hate her, her every move attracts me towards her. i finally make up my mind that i just talk to her cuz i can't stay away from her. but then what her moves attracts me, every move every thing she talk. my mind failed finally and began thinking wrong about her. i told her i don't want to lose you. please always stay with me. but i don't know how i will marry the other girl if i still thinks about her. i pray always that she never hurt me again and please Allah realize her that how much i love her. so that she can't hurt me more. and i pray from Allah that he is the only one who can hep me to get rid of this problem.
This is true that if you love someone and living with her how difficult it is to stay away from her and won't touch her.
Pray for me, i have lost i want to become normal, a normal person like i was a year and a half ago.

]]> By: killercrz http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-18987 killercrz Sat, 16 Oct 2010 16:53:31 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-18987 i agree with laali that the girl attracts him. she used him i think. she used him to realize her husband that how important she is, how beautiful she is that everyone become attracted to her. you have stolen my nick name waqarcruz. i am giving you the advice to ignore her and tell her that you hate her and try to hate her. because she is a gamer as i understand from your saying. hate her or leave the house and make your future. its so so much difficult when you love someone and she lives with you but you can't touch her. but you have to do this. or leave the house. i agree with laali that the girl attracts him. she used him i think. she used him to realize her husband that how important she is, how beautiful she is that everyone become attracted to her.

you have stolen my nick name waqarcruz.
i am giving you the advice to ignore her and tell her that you hate her and try to hate her. because she is a gamer as i understand from your saying.
hate her or leave the house and make your future.
its so so much difficult when you love someone and she lives with you but you can't touch her. but you have to do this. or leave the house.

]]> By: Sister A http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-17500 Sister A Thu, 26 Aug 2010 21:53:55 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-17500 And I Just Realised This Was Posted More Than A Month Ago,And He's Probably Somewhere On The Road Of Recovery Now, So I Kinda Just Wasted My 'Words Of Wisdom' Aww Well Atleast It Kept Me Occupied :D x And I Just Realised This Was Posted More Than A Month Ago,And He's Probably Somewhere On The Road Of Recovery Now, So I Kinda Just Wasted My 'Words Of Wisdom' Aww Well Atleast It Kept Me Occupied :D

x

]]> By: Sister A http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-17499 Sister A Thu, 26 Aug 2010 21:51:32 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-17499 Walaykum Assalam, Thankyou For Such A Perfect Reply, I Hope He See's Sense After Reading This, I Agree I Dont Understand Why His Family And His Sister In Law's Family Are Taking This Lightly, Buh Can I Just Say One Thing..* ? I May Be Wrong, So Am Sorry If I Am, I Think His Sister In Law Is In Love (Or Was) In Love With Her Husband, Buh As 'waqarcruz' Stated He Doesnt Give Her The Time, So Maybe After A While She Started To Give In To Her Brother-In-Laws Advances, As She Got The Attention From There..* ? And That Built ' waqarcruz' Hope, And That's Why He's So Attached To Her Now, Am Not Justifying Anyone Here, Am Just Saying From What I Understand They Are Both To Blame, Because If He Talks To Her Every Night, She Obviously Answers Thats How They 'Talk' , If She Didn't Want Anything To Do With Him, She Would Never Answer His Call's, Or Speak To Him, Or Even Live In The Same House For That Matter, So She Is Partially To Blame For Building His Hopes Up, If She Stopped All Communication And Told Him She Wanted Nothing To Do With Him, Rather Than Telling Him She Loved Him Before She Married His Brother Then Maybe 'waqarcruz ' Would Understand The Fact, She's Not Interested, And Could Try And Move On, However With Her In The Same House, It Can Be Difficult For Him, So I Agree With Disco He Should Leave The House, Make Space Where He Could Think More Straight, With A Clear Head, Maybe Then He Would Realise His Mistake, And Obviously Pray To Allah (Swt) For His Forgiveness And To Guide Him The Right Way, And Make Him Pleased With His Destiny, x Walaykum Assalam,

Thankyou For Such A Perfect Reply, I Hope He See's Sense After Reading This,

I Agree I Dont Understand Why His Family And His Sister In Law's Family Are Taking This Lightly,

Buh Can I Just Say One Thing..* ?
I May Be Wrong, So Am Sorry If I Am, I Think His Sister In Law Is In Love (Or Was) In Love With Her Husband, Buh As 'waqarcruz' Stated He Doesnt Give Her The Time, So Maybe After A While She Started To Give In To Her Brother-In-Laws Advances, As She Got The Attention From There..* ?
And That Built ' waqarcruz' Hope, And That's Why He's So Attached To Her Now,
Am Not Justifying Anyone Here, Am Just Saying From What I Understand They Are Both To Blame,
Because If He Talks To Her Every Night, She Obviously Answers Thats How They 'Talk' , If She Didn't Want Anything To Do With Him, She Would Never Answer His Call's, Or Speak To Him, Or Even Live In The Same House For That Matter, So She Is Partially To Blame For Building His Hopes Up,
If She Stopped All Communication And Told Him She Wanted Nothing To Do With Him, Rather Than Telling Him She Loved Him Before She Married His Brother Then Maybe 'waqarcruz ' Would Understand The Fact, She's Not Interested, And Could Try And Move On, However With Her In The Same House, It Can Be Difficult For Him, So I Agree With Disco He Should Leave The House,
Make Space Where He Could Think More Straight, With A Clear Head, Maybe Then He Would Realise His Mistake, And Obviously Pray To Allah (Swt) For His Forgiveness And To Guide Him The Right Way, And Make Him Pleased With His Destiny,

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]]> By: Sister A http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/fallen-in-love-with-my-big-brothers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-17498 Sister A Thu, 26 Aug 2010 21:27:44 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=4231#comment-17498 Umm Yes I So Agree With You ! x Umm Yes I So Agree With You !

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