My father don’t agree to my marriage to the guy I like because he is African.
Assalam O Alaikum,
I have a dilemma that I really need some help with.I was previously engaged to a man of the same background as me. we were together for 3 years and family had agreed to us getting married but, things started to break down between us; personal issues as well as family issues on his side ...
We broke up a while back and I have started to grow close to a man who is African. I never thought I would be with an African man before, as being Asian myself its not often the norm. I have on many occassions had this arguement with my dad asking; if I was to marry a black man how he'd feel? I know he wouldn't be happy but, this used to really anger me as my point was that in Islam; it doesn't say anything about race or skin colour; providing he is also Muslim that should be the only thing that matters. But many Asian families are inherently racist and Muslim or not they see it is a wrong or bad thing to be with a black person, which I know mine would.
The question I am asking is; would it be wrong to marry a black man even if he is Muslim; if my family would be against it? I dont agree with my dad; I feel he's judgemental and shallow and he even admits to me in his own words that its all about how people see outside not whats inside. I am complete opposite of that!!! When I first met this man I had no intention of a relationship whatsoever and neither did he but its just that as friends we have started to grow closer and I have realised how much of a nice person he is and how well we get along.
What is better for me; to be with someone who is from the same background but have no connection, or with someone from a different race but seems more compatible??
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