Family refusing love marriage
Forced Marriage and Islam
assalamu alaikum.
I loved a girl .We started our love 7 years before when we where in school. love each other so much... now the problem is she told her parents about our relationship. They are not even hearing her words... They told like love marriage is out of islam and we won't stand for haraam.... one proposal she stud wrong to d guy and it went wrong.. so her father was in so anger and they are not even looking her opinion. her father told if you won't agree for this proposal. ..they won't even ask her permission for the next proposal. ..and they won't even enquire how the guy is... They will tell her only at the time of her marriage time...
They are forcing her by blackmailing...she is a good hearted girl...so she decided to stop our relation just for her parents. ..but she love me so much...I know she won't be able to be with a new guy...but she told she won't hurt anyone with her life...and she told me like...she need me as her spouse in heaven. ..so she will do only good things....so my question is. is it possible in islam to do dua for a guy to get him in heaven ...when she is a wife of other guy ..and my next question is.is her father doing a right thing...he is just blackmailing and forcing her to marry?
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Salaam,
Force marriege is not allowed in islam at all. Islamicly She has 100% right to say yes or no to any praposal. Its her life and it should be her dicesion not her perents or anyone alse. If she is not happy by heart for any praposal but say yes only for the sake of her perents she will only ruined her life her becoming husband and possibly her kids life. She shuold never gave in for her perents unless she is will to forget u and work on her marriege.
Wht that girl's father doing is totaly wrong and not allowed in islam. If anything went wrong or his doughter suffer in a marriege which he force her he will be resposible and answer allah in hereafter. He is commting a big sin forceing her in to a marriege she dosnt want. If she wants to marry you and theres no islamic reasons to rejact you then there is nothing wrong in expressing her wish or feelings to her perents. They should respact her choice and marry her off instead if making such a big drama!!! I dont understand why some perents become animies of thier children when it come to marriege and marriege choices.. Wht will they get by marrying their children forceing them.
Assalam alaikum brother,
You should first ask yourself that whether you are a good muslim to get a place in Jannah? I am a student of islamic knowledge and I wont be mindful emotions and feelings when dictating whatever little I know. Prophet (s.a) asked companions to kill a women who had 1 year old kid for committing zina, thats purification. Jannah is only for pure, she did zina and need undergo such punishment to purify her. Ultimately she died on that day as a friend of Allah. However, your are not at all bothered about disobeying Allah for 7 years of your life!!! 70-80% of your life time brother! (excluding age upto 15). Yet you are only bothered about loosing her. How can you talk about Jannah afetr being involved in haram relationship for 7 years. Brother, considering you as my own brother, I would advise you to forget her. Forget her for the sake of Allah. I handled many such heartbroken people. Mental depression is for maximum 2 years and it could be severe for next 4-5 months. Cant you afford to undergo pain for 2 years for disobeying Allah for 7 years?? Apply some logics also brother.
We are not here to have beautiful girls on our lap. Allah said he created us to worship him. People forgotten this command and objective of allah. Crazy we not just forget that but disobey and ask him for getting her on Jannah. Never under estimate Jannah brother. Its far beyond the reach of your imagination. You might like really like some local food of your native but when you get into a royal restaurant, Can you ask for that local food just bcs you like that? No. mentality changed when your status changes. If this could happen in duniya, Can you believe Jannah?? Thats why I said dont under estimate. Spouses in Jannah will keep transforming themselves according your mindset that you will never even feel unsatified. You will be stunned for 70 thousand years just by looking at her!! Let me deviate. Stop the relation and make thowba. This is the holy month of Rajab. Allah said that Rajab is my month and it is the month of purification and thowba, Cry out to Allah and assure a place in Jannah.
And dont be judgemental of her father. Think as a father your angel, wont you wish to give a good life to your daughter?? Since you know whatever happens at teen age nothing but an attraction towards beauty and would you give up her to such love?? Respect the sentiments of a father. You should know life brother. Life is not just getting married a beautiful girl at 20 and enjoy throughout. Talk to those experienced. May Allah grant us understanding.
Pray Allah to fulfil my desire to die in Madeena and buried in Jannathul Baqee.