Feeling helpless about the future…
He's trying to control me.
Assalamualaikum all my friends ..
I want to say my long story short.. and need the advice of u all. please help me friends ..
I am a girl of 18 living with my father and step mum. I was really misled by shaitan and involved in a relationship with the nephew of my step mum. Anyway my father and all my uncles made me understand that I was really wrong and I left him. I wanted to marry according my fathers choice, but one of my classmates convinced me in such a way that I again fell in love with him. (I know it's not called love! !)
I did not pray five times and did not use veils too. He told me to do these and I happily started. I made him know about my past relationship and told him that I was sorry, I also made tawba. I was happy that he made me religious. but with my exclamation, I slowly realized that he was trying to make me away from my intimate relatives.
He now cries in such a way saying that I cannot do all these. I can't have friends, I can't smile with my relatives etc etc.. again I realize that he is also a non mahram to me as I have not married him yet. but I really want to stop these. What can I do? he has also said sorry, and said that he wont interfere anymore ..
joya
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Assalam alaikum,
You should immediately cut ties with this boy as he is not your husband and as you already recognize, he is a non-Mahram to you.
You should be aware that shaitaan works at our level of thinking. He can manipulate you in the way that you have mentioned--you started praying and observing hijaab due to this non-Mahram boy--how tricky shaitaan can be. Remember, shaitaan used to be a great worshipper of Allah swt and even made du'a to Allah swt after he disobeyed Him--shaitaan, in fact, knows of Allah's existence, but his disobedience is the worst of the kind because he disobeys Allah swt after knowing the truth.
Don't think twice about this, stop talking to this boy. Get married only with the involvement of your family--no more bfs.
May Allah ease your difficulties, Ameen.
Sister,
Like sister Saba has already stated...this man is not your mahram and as such has no place to tell you what you can and cannot do. Stop seeing him and letting him have any control over your life. Simply tell him that you wish to have no further contact with him and that by doing so, you not only commit a sin but you are displeasing Allah. God willing, he will leave you alone.
Something else sister I want you to ponder here is this. A man who needs to control you, tell you who and who not to talk to, keep you from your friends and family is not a man you ever want to marry. Ever.
Salam
I have a question...I was a hindu...
As-salamu alaykum sister muskan. I commend you for coming to Islam, Alhamdulillah. At least something good came out of your relationship difficulties. Please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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