UNANSWERED: Getting married to someone from a different culture
Please someone send me their comments or suggestions. may Allah bless you, amen
salam laykum. by the grace of all mighty one Allah. i have always desired to marry a muslimah that practices religion and brings it in to her daily life. this also includes, the practice of wearing a hejab since her childhood. and someone who wants to wear the nikab after the marriage, not because I want her to, but because she wants to do it because its the lessons of our religion and in quran and hadeeth.
i belong to somewhat open-minded and a family where Islam is not given any importance over the family values, or the cultural values. whereas I always bring the Islam before the cultural values, and that we are all Muslims before we are anything else. so you can see the difference right here between myself and the rest of my family.
inshalah i want to raise a very conservative and religious family who practices religion as a life and thats part of every day life. now all that being said, none of the above really applies to the famliy I am raised in because they had a different brought up in their times. and if i tell my parents, that something is not allowed in the islam or how to do something by using the islam as a reference would be considered to be a mean thing I would do or say to my parents. they think now I know too much about the islam and im trying to teach them.
only allah knows me and my clean intentions. like i said before i had always desired to marry a muslimah that practices every pillar of islam, my parents looked around a lot to find a girl who would be like that within our own culture, but failed because we were unable to find a girl within our circle who possess all the qualities i am looking for in my wife to be inshalah. i want to be able to raise kids islamic way, and not western.
so i strated looking on the internet, the islamic marriage websites where i can possibly find my wife who will have all the qualities that a good muslim would want in his wife.elhamdolalah. i think i met a sister on line who is from a different country and speaks different language, but mashallah very very religious and she has the fear of allah and makes sure to bring islam and hadeeth in every step of her life. allah o akbar. good thing is that she is also interested in getting married to me insalah because she finds the qualities she is looking for in her husband. and I thank millions of times to introduce me to a moslim sister like her. all my life i search for someone like that and I think mashallah she has all those qualities, mashalah she practices the hijab and prays all the time and reads quran not because her parents want her to, but because she understand the religion and allah has guided her to do so. also she desires to wear the nekab after our nikah inshalah. these are all her own words and her own intentions and allah knows only that i have all my life praying to allah to bless me with a moslimah wife like her.
problem...my parents do not agree to my approach at all. they tell me that she's from a different culture and a different language.. elhamdolelah i speak her language and she understands me and I can understand her very well. we both speak arabic, although my arabic is not very great but i can hold conversations and i can understand others and others can understand me. elhamdolallah.
my parents tell me that she's not from our culture so you can never marry her. and they also tell me that she's just wearing a hejab because its in her culture and not because she understands the islam. wallahi that hurts me to hear that my parents are acutally saying things like that about a moslimah sister who has devoted all of her life for allah and his prophet mohamd peace be upon him. so basically theere is a lot of push back from my parents.
her parents accept me and her entire family accpets me elhamdoellah. if there is a problem its my parents who are trying to distract me from practicing my religion and to obey my relilgious ambitions. i want to marry a moslimah like her so i can become a good person and follow islam more strictly and raise our kids in a way our prophet would raise the entire ummah. i want my kids to be the followers of islam and the ummah ameen. because on the day of judgement i must answer to allah whta I did for my life and for my kids...! i must practice my islam and improve it day by day. and I can accomplish this with having a partner whose views are the same as mine and who practices the religlion because its islam is her life! may allah guide me ameen.
but i would like to know what shall I do ? i have explained my parents milllions of times the reasons why I want to marry a moslimah like that. and its only because of the Islam and allah to him happy. I want to have a better future, the life after the death. and I beleive i can accomplish that by having someone like this sisters I am telling you about. please tell me if marrying this moslimah would bring happiness into our family? because when my parents see her, my parents and brothers and sisters would also start to follow islam and practice deen and start wearing the hejab which is a gift from allah. these are my intentions sir. plz tell me if i should go ahead with proposing the sister in islam for marriage through her parents. even though my parents right now wont accept it, and think she is nothing but just a cover behind the hijab. may allah open up their minds and guide them ameen. can i go ahead with the proposal to the sister in islam through her parents..?
may allah bless you with all the blessings in this world and in hereafter ameen.
salam alikum
may allah bless you with all the blessings in this world and in hereafter ameen.
salam alikum
jamal
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