I haven’t seen my husband in ten years, am I still married?
I am here for the first time and I really would do with some advice...
But I need to give you an insight to me and my life...
Here goes... I am 31, and I had an arranged marriage at 16. I lived in India for 3 yrs, until he decided to send me here for a vacation. Four months later he sent me divorce papers.
I knew he would do that as he was also dating his cousin. I never spoke to him about it as I clearly knew why.
Then when I was 22 my parents decided I should re marry, so I did again with their choice. Which lasted 3 months. Before this marriage I clearly asked him if he has a British visa and is he settled here? He and his family said yes. This was a lie and also my family lied.
I wanted to finish my studies and marry the following year but his family and my family insisted to marry straight away. I did. Then only to realise he hadn't had a British visa and once we apply for a visa he will call his girlfriend from back home. It was month of Ramadhan when I got to know this. We had arguments. He then left saying he's going to do Eid with his family and will come get me later. He never came and I never heard from him either. I tried contacting him many times only to hear from his family they also don't know where he is. I miscarried this time and I heard later he was spreading rumours we never had physical relations.
My question to you is, am I still married to him as I have had no connection with him for 10 years and I do not know his whereabouts? I want to move on but I have a guilt that I am still married to him but unable to get a divorce as I do not know where he or his family are at now. Please please help me and I need your guidance.
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