Hiding health issues affect marriage in Islam?
Salam alayikkum.
I was in a relationship with a Muslim guy and his marriage is fixed with other girl . Even though I started following Islam his parents didn't accept me because I am not a born Muslim. Now they are going to marry him to a girl without telling about his health. He is an insulin dependent diabetic. My boy friend is telling my marriage is happening by hiding big fact .. So the girl may ask for divorce. But I am not able to accept that.. Can someone please tell me this will be a reason for marriage to end ?
mythili
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No one can tell you that what can cause a girl to get divorce. There are lots of girls who stay in married even facing domestic violence and some leave their husband for no reason.
You should follow Islam for Allah and for yourself. Don't do it for a man. Learn and study Islam in depth than you will find true happiness that's obviously doesn't lie in man. There is a lot more.
Ws. Islam does not allow boyfriend-girlfriend relations. I agree you must look into Islam as a complete way of life separate from this situation. It is a true religion wherein you believe in Allah The Almighty and the rules laid down by Him. Hence, you must accept it with full understanding rather than as a means to become a part of a man’s life who I am regretful to say is deficient in following Islam himself.
Insulin dependent diabetes is a chronic disease however, it is not a life threatening or contagious disease, so his marriage can very well last. It is naive to think it will not happen because he is diabetic as he too is committing to it. Leave this man alone. Your instinct is right in not accepting his excuse.
May Allah guide us all.
i apologize for being so straight foward here you are hypocrite neither a Muslim nor a Christian. try to become a pure christian or muslim and not for your worldly desires and men and marriage. dont try to think bad about others if he will not get married to her he will get married to someone else
I think you should stop thinking about whether his marriage will end because of his health condition.
He is not going to marry you. So how he conducts his affairs from this point onward is none of your concern.
Please try to move forward and build a life for yourself, one that does not involve this man.
Salaam Sister,
After reading your question I think your boyfriend was just using you. He has clearly moved on in life and is giving you false hope that he will marry you in order not to hurt your feelings. But he doesn't realize you will be hurt more in the future. He is giving you false hope by telling you that her wife will divorce him. He can't be so sure about it. And most probably he'll have a family with her and move on in life.
It's better for you to move on in life and forget about that guy. He can't even stand up to his parents about you. You are a muslim now and he can marry you but he has chosen not to marry you and listen to his parents. Do you think you can marry and live with a guy whose parents have so much control over him. His culture won't accept you as his wife and you won't be comfortable being his wife in that culture.
What that guy did is very wrong. It's hard to think that such muslims even exist who treat others like this. The cultural background he is from has some wrong thinking. They shouldn't differentiate you based on whether you were born muslim or not.
Make lots of dua. Learn more about Islam and keep practicing more about Islam. Inshallah Allah will bless you with a better husband than what that guy would have been.
May Allah guide you in the right path.
May Allah ease your problems.
SERIOUSLY .DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU BECOMING A MUSLIM IS THE GREATEST GIFT....YOUR PAST SINS ARE CLEAN AND FORGIVEN..IT IS HARAM TO HAVE BOYFRIEND. .THE CURSE IS UPON THOSE WHO DISOBEY THE COMMANDMENTS OF ALLAH THROUGH THE TEACHINGS OF THE HOLY PROPHET MUHAMMAD S.A.W. ..JUST LOOK AT THE MUSLIMS IN THE WORLD TODAY...MAJORITY ARE LOST..THEY HAVE NOR UNDERSTOOD THERE PURPOSE IN LIFE OR THERE RESPONSIBILITY.
THEY ARE FOLLOWING WHAT THE WORLD WANTS THEM TO BE ...LIKE ANIMALS! LEARN YOUR ISLAM ..YOU ARE A SUNNI MUSLIM FOLLOW ONE OF THE GREAT IMAMS..EG IMAM ABU HANIFA....THIS WILL GIVE YOU BALANCE IN LIFE...ALLAH FOUND YOU ISLAM BECAUSE YOU SAW SOMETHING IN IT..NOW YOU MUST MOVE ON..THIS GUY IS PLAYING GAMES..HIS WHOLE LIFE IS A GAME
.HE IS NOT A REAL MAN AND FUTURE IS UNSTABLE...THAT IS UNLESS HE SEES THE LIGHT SO REMIND HIM...THAT THIS LIFE IS SHORT AND WILL DIE AND BE RESURRECTED ONE DAY AND CALLED TO ACCOUNT. ..SO MY ADVICE IS BE WISE AND STAY WITH PIOUS PEOPLE FOR THEY ARE BLESSED IN EVERYWAY...GO TO A LOCAL SUNNI MOSQUE MEET THE SISTERS AND LEARN QURAN THAT IS YOUR PROTECTION AND MASTER SALAH .I AM ALSO A REVERT MARRIED TO A LADY SCHOLOR..SUNNI MUSLIM...ONE MORE THING BUILD ON YOUR EDUCATION SO YOU CAN BE INDEPENDENT. .NOW DAYS THE WORLD IS GETTING EXPENSIVE....
Don't type in all caps, please.
Wael
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Salam,
It's not necessarily true that she will and you should tell him that if he wants to marry you he shouldn't marry that girl and hope for a divorce. He should marry you now if that's what he wants. Don't ruin that girl's life if that's not what he wants and if he's going to marry her then drop this relationship.