How do I make my husband desire me?
Salaam alaikum all, I am in desperate need of advice. I have been married for three and a half years. Alhamdulillah blessed with two amazing boys.
My issue is with my husband's lack of interest in me. We have not had physical relations in about four months - in the last year we have been together twice maybe. My husband works long hours and we don't really spend much time together anymore.
At the beginning of our marriage I used to dress up so much for him and do a lot to make him happy. But even then he would hardly come to me - my desires were very strong and needs were not being fulfilled! I made dua for it to become easier for me and my desires subsided!
I used to talk to him and explained that for me I associated love and closeness as part of physical intimacy. I became very self conscious about the way I looked. Because no matter what I did my husband didn't find me attractive enough to come to me.
Now it's go to a point where I am so worried a out our marriage and my husband. How can a man go without sexual relations with his wife for so long without having his natural urges and desires fulfilled? How do I Make him want me? I feel very vulnerable so find it hard to make such an effort when he mostly doesn't notice? Is this normal or should I just accept it?
This part is some of the issues in my relationship. Please advise me!!!
- Umm Mariam
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