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How can one play with her husband?

young Muslim coupleWhat is the limit one can play with her husband?

- safiya


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  1. Umm Safiya, I dont understand the Question =S

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  2. Salamu Aleikum,

    I'm not sure, but your question has somehow a sexual connotation.

    I hope that I'm not wrong, but playing with a husband.... sounds somewhat

    erotic. If I'm right and it is a question concerning intimacy, I can tell you my favourite

    comment of the Mowlana in our mosque: The perfect wife is the one who has the

    most of haya in public, but the fewest of haya when she's alone with her husband.

    Dye your hair, wear jewellery, surprise him with the latest fashion. Although the dancing

    of women in front of others is not recommended, it's highly recommended for the husband.

    There aren't any limits to foreplay or beautification, oral sex is allowed, mutual consent taken for granted.

    Forbidden: anal sex, during menstruation and post-natal bleeding( or so).

    May Allah bless your marriage

    Have fun

  3. When I said dancing of women in front of others, I meant other females in ladies-only meetings or

    gathering. Just to clarify, to avoid misconceptions.

    Wasalam

  4. Sister Jannah!
    I am not sure about oral sex between husband and wife (quoting your answer to sister "safiya" when you said "oral sex is allowed"). I mean could you provide some reference to it. "Sorry! I find it disgusting" but that's me. I hope to hear from you in particular and other brothers and sisters in general according to their knowledge and understanding of Islam. Jazak umullah khair.

    • Mks1982, most of the scholars have agreed that oral sex between husband and wife is halal, because nothing has been mentioned from Quran or Sunnah to prohibit it. There are a lot of articles about sexual subjects in Islam here, you can check it out:

      Sex in Islam

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Salams,

    before I got married, I had read a lot of books about Islam, sex, foreplay etc what's permissible, what's not.

    The University of Al Azhar issued a fatwa in which it is allowed and the scholars say it falls under the

    category of foreplay. I shouldn't have explained it in detail, although Rassul Allah said there is no shameful

    ness in questions of religion:) I can' t give you a reference, as I have read so many websites about this

    issue, I don't have any in mind. In German there is a book called: The world of love in Islam, but I doubt it's

    available in English.

    http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/fatwa_sex_001.html

    That's the last site I read about this issue, the link above. Sheikh al Qaradawi is a conservative scholar,

    but says there's nothing in Islam that forbids it, it's actually allowed with mutual consent. The definition of

    modesty or individual preferences is of course a private decision, everybody can make this decision himself.

    There's one prophetic hadith, in which Rassul Allah stated:

    All games are futile apart from three: Archery, training one's

    horse and playing with one's wife. Another one: Don' t enter your wives in intercourse without giving them

    a foreplay.

    The definition of sexual morality in marriage is not always a religious issue. It has a lot do with social norms,

    pre-Islamic tradition and the relation of culture towards religion.

    May Allah bless you

  6. http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/fatwa_sex_001.html

    That's a very helpful site about the issue Islam and oral sex. Even Sheikh Qaradawi allows it,

    although he is a conservative scholar. There are 2 prophetic hadiths that should be mentioned:

    All games are futile apart from 3: archery, training one's horse and playing with one's wife.

    Another one: Don't enter your wives in intercourse without giving them their right, too.

    Jazakummulah kheiran

    • is the third one authentic? coz this is the first time i read abt colour in islam look im not black but im confused and had a strange bad feeling when i read that last hadith if it is authentic Allah forgive me and make me see the light.

  7. Masha Allah Sister "Jannah" and Brother "Wael". Thanks for this quick reply. I never heard of it from anyone in my country (PK) but when I came here in UK, I found it a common practice. I really appreciate this because I always try to propagate Islam by my actions only so some of my colleagues do question me about things. So, I think being a Muslim I should in fact everyone should know about their religion. May Allah bless you all brother and sisters for this great work. (Amin)

  8. it was a short post but extremely helpful thanx for asking

  9. Can a person play with her wife in bed naked?I'm 15 years old and want to know.Please help and don't argue about my age.

  10. Assalam o alikum

    Please tell me ,if nakedly lying is allowed as the 15 year old asked ,then analing is very difficult to avoid,

    secondly,what if wife is naked too,is it allowed for her,thirdly what if they see n enjoy each other ?

    Please answer.

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