My husband is dominating, possessive, and mentally tortures me
I am 26 years old and married. I married my boyfriend two and a half years ago in court without my guardians' consent. Then after much struggle our nikaah was arranged only for my sake, being the only daughter. None was invited except family members.
Parents were very, very upset. None approved of my nikaah, and after the nikaah we fled to a different country. Initially we were happy but just 2 weeks after, my husband started arguing with me regarding an "agreement".
The "agreement" was made by my father for my safety in case we seek divorce. The pact was made with my husband's consent and even my father assured him that the pact is of no use if we both will remain happily married. My father made that pact after finding out that my husband had lied to all of us regarding his qualifications (the truth is he is not even 10th pass, and I have a master's) and his family status. Even I was lied to, but I forgave him as I did marry him thru the court 2 years before our nikaah.
Even before the nikaah, I caught a number of his accounts on the internet thru which he chats with other girls, sees nude pics...and lots of other things, but I tried to leave all those behind and start our conjugal life as I gave myself to him before nikaah. He never took me to his home, let his parents speak to me over the phone, and they have never seen me.
Now, 2 months after our nikaah, I had to return to my home as my dear younger brother died. I came alone, and neither my husband nor any of his family members visited me (the journey is 8-9 hours by bus from my place to my in-laws).
I AM HURT, he knows how much I love my dear brother. Now even I'm scared to go back to him thinking of my future, and my parents also do not want me to go back. I have asked him to come back to our own country (his also), even my parents will assist us financially, but he forbids. He has asked me to come back alone or else he will divorce me.
For my reputation's sake I asked him to come to take me, but he threatened me that he will never visit my home, as he hates my parents. I cant bear it.
What should I do?
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