My husband had cyber sex with 5 other women and I don’t know what to do?
Assalam o Alaikum,
I am in desperate need of some help and advice. My husband I have been together for just over a year, before marriage I was a Christian and he was a Muslim. We fell in love and about 7 months into our relationship my heart was convinced by the teachings of Islam and I became a Muslim Alhamdullilah. We have been married for 5 months now and I love my husband to bits. He treats me good and I never had any trust issues until now when I found out that he had sex with 5 other girls. He is 18 and I am 17. I randomly asked him for his MSN pas and saw 384 contacts; all of them girls.
I began to question him and he told me that he had sex chat with 5 women, later on I found out that he had cam sex with 2 of them. I am disgusted and I feel like crap. He actually masturbated whilst this other woman as pleasuring herself at the same time. He did this before he met me and told me that he stopped the cam sex a month before we got married. I am shocked and I almost don’t believe it. I think that the reason why I feel so indifferent about it when he is around.
I have miscarried a month ago and I am still trying to get over that and I really don’t know what to do. He has apologised and said sorry several times, in-fact he cried more than me. When I threatened to divorce him then he went crazy and cried like a baby. Just because he was doing all this before; doesn’t mean that I am not hurting. I don’t want to divorce him as I love him and I know he loves me too but I just don’t see any reason why he would do that to me. Ya Allah! When I was Christian, I had a lot of male attention and I brushed them all off for my husband; only for him to be cheating on me online! I wear Hijab and abaya and I am dreading summer now because of the skimpy clothes women wear in London in the summerL
It may not have been in real life but he was telling one of the girl what he would do her and the same to him, also they were the same to girls he had cam sex with for ages so, may be they even bonded. If he could physically cheat he would have. I don’t know what to do, what to feel or say. I feel so depressed and haven’t got anyone to talk toL. I doubt he totally stopped doing it just before we got married. I just need advice on how to cope with this situation; how to move on and how to stop him from doing this or similar again?
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