If husband has doubts about his wife; what should he do?
Assalam O Alaikum,
If a person has doubts about his wife, what should he do to put an end to these doubts by means of certainity and finding out the truth, and getting rid of anxiety and worry that are caused by that?
My second question is;
I saw a very beautiful girl in my dream today. She was wearing burkha (veil), What I saw was that; I am like sitting somewhere and she came with a man. I don't know who the man was but he disappeared later on. I am looking that girl and she is looking toward me; When I smiled, she smiled back. I was in love with her. I start thinking to marry her; I even saw her father actually, her father resembles one of my uncle lol but his daughter is not that beautiful. I was so happy in my dream. When I woke up, I was so disappointed. Why, I saw this kind of dream? Actually, I am already married and got 1 daughter.
Take Care,
Fahad Mehar.
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Its just a dream don't worry
I dream a lot of gals , but difference is ur married n I'm not (kool isn't it)
Dream is a dream , neva worry unless ur dream is worth making reality like taking my entire family to haj with my hard earned money
insha allah
Salaam Fahad.
I found this exact same question on another site, which was answered. SubhanAllah is strange but it is a good answer so I have pasted the answer here so we can all benefit InshaAllah.
"If a person has doubts about his wife, what should he do to put an end to these doubts by means of certainty and finding out the truth, and getting rid of anxiety and worry that are caused by that?"
Praise be to Allaah.
The believer should think well of others, assume the best and keep away from doubt and suspicion that have no basis, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not” [al-Hujuraat 49:12].
This Qur’aanic etiquette is one of the means of peace of mind, happiness and comfort, because suspicion prompts one to search and try to find out, and it may lead to spying, and that is usually accompanied by worry, anxiety and distress.
But if there are things that call for doubt and suspicion, the husband has to try to remedy the matter and set things straight, and to block the ways that may lead to fitnah and evil. If the wife -- for example -- gets in touch with people or corresponds with them or is away from the house without any convincing reason and the like, then he may prevent her from doing that. If he is worried about her staying on her own in the house, he can bring her to live near his family or righteous neighbours.
We have previously discussed the ruling on setting up recording devices to keep an eye on family conversations. See the answer to question number 13318.
And Allah knows best.
taken from: http://islamqa.com/en/ref/145815
This is a really strange question, but talking about doubts and spying, I found out some things about my ex which slightly shocked me and it showed how much he had lied to me. He doesnt know that I know about them. But I am so angry at him that I am finding it hard to resist the urge to tell his family and friends of what he is really like, because he has made me look like a complete fool in front of them and himself like an angel. He has treated me very poorly but is acting as though its nothing and that I am to blame for everything. I dont feel as hurt as I do angry, I want revenge in some way, so do you think it will be such a bad idea to expose him and let the world know what a horrible human being he is?
Also with regards to the brothers questions, what is causing those doubts? Is there somethingyour wife has done or said that raises suspicion? If that is the case then talk to her, and try to clarify any misunderstandings and get rid of those doubts inshallah.
Asked: trust your wife... This suspicion you need to let go of.
Secondly, a dream is only a dream. I had those dreams before too... 3 different times with 3 different stranger males. Obviously I can't marry 3 guys.
At last poster...do not reveal your ex husbands sins.