My husband keeps cheating on me, how can I forgive him?
Asalaam'alaikum, I married when I was 18 and now me and my husband have been married for four years. Just before our wedding, my husband physically cheated on me, he apologized, said it was stress due to his mothers alcoholism so I forgave him. However, throughout our marriage, whenever I went on a holiday to see my parents, I found that he spoke to women online etc, but I have forgiven him every time (4 times till now).
A year ago he got a job in Medina ( Saudi Arabia) and I have been with my parents waiting for my visa ever since. 2 months ago we went on a holiday to meet up and had an amazing time. When I came back, I found out he made another account and a dating web page where hes stated single etc. If that was not bad enough I found that he had been talking to girls on the phone for hours everyday when he would hardly call me or text me under the pretense of being very busy.
I spoke to this one girl who told me they have told each other they love one another, they have had web cam sex..an emotional affair for 2 months. After I confronted my husband, he apologised, told me he didn't love her and that the only reason he said he did was to initiate a sex conversation. He did this throughout Ramadhaan. I have forgiven him for the sake of Allah but I just cannot get over it this time.
I still don't live with him as we have visa issues and he expects me to forgive and forget and to carry on. At times I'm ok with him but my anger and thoughts resurface and I don't know what to do. Islamicaly is there such a thing as depression since he has repeated this and its been a pattern every time I go away..how can I forgive him and make him realize that he cannot run away from his reponsibilities anymore?
He doesnt go home to sleep because he feels lonely, he sleeps at work, or at a friends place. I love him..I have been with him since I was 14 but it was only after I married that I started practicing.
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