UNANSWERED: I dont know what to do about my posessive mother in law
Aslam-e-Aliekum…
ive been married 3yrs..and have no kids .. both me and my husband got ourselves checked we r both fine AllhamduLilah.. dr’s r going on with their normal standard prcedures iui and then later on they will try IVF(test tube)……
my problem just doesnt start there..i am married to my cousin and live with my inlaws…my mother in law is very posessive about my husband…she doesnt let him go out to work or even with me…in 3 yrs years we have never gone out to a restaurant to eat alone….or just to roam around like normal married couples do….going out of station is something which i cant even ask as in the city we have nevr had the liberty to do so…i tried that as he is masha Allah five time prayer..he might want to go for Hajj as i thought tht maybe going there and praying might help us with having a baby…but even tht he wouldnt do….he goes everywhere with his parents but not me…yes b/f marriage everyone knew that his mother is posessive but no one knew tht she wouldnt let him go out with his own wife and he hardly complains about it himself im the only one who gets bugged by this…i go alone everywhere…shopping…my parents …dr’s….or even if its his work i go alone….
I want to know the rights of a mother in law and wife…if im not mistaken there is a surat or ayat in which it is mentioned about the rights of a mother in law…
I dont know my life in that house is so empty…i love children…there is nothing wrong medically…plz tell me what to do…im scared…at first they were not paying for my medical…the IUI(artificial insamination) and now they offered to pay for test tube too…they are the type who love money their own daughter is sitting at home for the past few yrs just b/c they wont give some money to her husband…i think if test tube fails they’ll divorce me..telling everyone,”we tried …even paid for the dr’s but it didnt work”
Im so depressed i love him…even though we dont have a normal married couple life…my life in the house is like it doesnt matter if i exist…the sister in law is evry dominating even the servants are rude to me…i still want to stay with him…its not my fault that we r unable to have kids..its Allahs will what can i do? why should suffer b/c of that…im very posessive about him and cant imagine him with another woman it breaks my heart…when i think tht if he leaves me and marries another…and she bears his child…it kills me….plz tell me what to do im think ill have nervous breakdown
(plz tell me any wazifas…duas..any prayer for a child…and for peace of mind..and for my husband to feel affection twds me)
19 feb 2007
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