I love her, but her parents plan to get her engaged to someone else
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I am in a relationship with a girl from last 8 years. We both really like each other. I am going to finish my bachelors in 5 months time INSHALLAH. The problem is that the girls parents have looked for a boy for their daughter and are planning to get her engaged without asking her permission. She does not have the will to tell to her parents that she likes me and wants to get married with me.
My mother talked with her mother about me but she refused. The situation is critical. We both like each other and want to get married and my family is fine with it but her family does not even want to look any thing more for her.
What should i do? Should I leave her which would be very difficult for me? Or should I talk to her parents myself? Or should I leave everything on ALLAH? Or is there any dua which can change our taqdeer?
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Walaikumsalaam Brother,
You are facing an issue now, so you are turning to Allah for help, which is good. But you havent mentioned how your relationship was with Allah while you were in this eight year relationship with your girlfriend?
How was your relationship with your girlfriend, was it a halaal one, or were you dating? Because if you were dating, I think really you need to re-focus your priorities. We all want Allah to help us at times of difficulties but we ignore the fact that we may have been displeasing Him by committing sins. We expect so much - yet are we really deserving?
Apologies if I have made an assumption regarding your relationship - but you gave very little information.
What are the reasons that her parents are refusing your proposal?
If you are serious about each other, I don't think you should just leave it.
Make an effort by asking your mother to make contact with the family and to ask for a reason why they are rejecting you? Do they think you lack in deen or character? Or is the reason one which is unislamic - to do with status, culture etc? Your girlfriend will also need to make an effort somewhere along the line as this is a battle that cannot be fought one sided.
Make an effort to progress matters in a haalal way and then put your trust in Allah that He will do what is best for you.
salaam alkium brother talk 2 her family see wat will they say dont give up keep on trying pry salat iistakara n may alah help u it happen 2 me as well where i broght person in my family but my family refuced him coz of his culture anyway then we got marred n now we are very happey alahmdulah if they refuse u coz of somthing islam doesnt not say then i think u hav da wrght 2 get married 2 eachother without da family will coz that iz not exctable salaam may alah help u
hmm bro,i'm also facing the same situation.I wish to marry some girl and girl has agreed but her mother refused us probably because of the difference of culture and language.I just read Surah Ta Ha is very effective.Recite this surah and have faith in Allah.HE will help us.....plus offer salat and then make dua in sajda after completing salat....Think positive and keep trying!!!