I smoke hookah but my husband does not know
Salam,
I'm 20 yrs old and have been married for 2 1/2 years now. The problem I have is I smoke hookah and my husband doesn't know. I know it's bad and haram but I don't know what to do. I try to stop but when my sister comes she always does it and I get this craving of smoking. I keep saying I don't want to know what his reaction would be when he finds out I've been smoking behind his back. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.
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Salaam aleikuma sister,
Firstly smoking hookah/shisha is harmful. It has got nicotine and harmful substances that had been compared to as bad as smoking 20cigarettes at once. It's an addictive substance for many and damaging to lungs. People think it is safe because it has some water it goes through but in fact it is more harmful than cigarettes.
Secondly the fact that you have hidden it from your husband makes me think that you know he would not be pleased to find this out. And if you're smoking in his house it is even more disrespectful as he has a right to you safeguarding his private place. Also once he finds out, and he will one day unless you stop, he will know you hid this from him and feel betrayed.
I would advice you to stop now and not to invite your sister over. Keep good company and repent from this. There is no need to reveal this to your husband as long as you stop, repent and mend your ways. But if he asks I think you should be honest with him. Don't let this ruin your bond. Shouldn't his love and keeping his trust mean more to you than this haram activity. Please think carefully of how this may ruin your relationships.
Additionally if you feel you can't stop on your own visit your GP/family physician for advice.
Assalamwalekum sister
I agree with your advice.. she should stop smoking since its harmful and because she shouldn't hide it from her husband however i want to confirm if smoking is really haraam? I dont smoke but people in my family do and was always told its not haraam like drinking is.... is that true? Was i informed wrong?
Dear aabshar,
Here is a comprehensive answer from Islam QA:
- Etiquette, Morals and Heart-Softeners » Character and Morals » Bad behaviour.
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110: Ruling on smoking
Is smoking cigarettes Haraam?
Praise be to Allah and peace and blessings be on His Prophet SAWS.
Smoking is one of the things which has caused a lot of problems and harm these days and it has spread like wild fire. Before we discuss this topic in detail, we should know that Allaah the Almighty has divided things in the world into two types, good or permissible (al-tayyibaat, al-halaal) and evil or prohibited (al-khabaa'ith, al-haraam), and there is no third type. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning) in surat al-A'raaf (7:157):
"And He makes good things halaal for them and bad things haraam."
Considering this fact, smoking can either be permissible and good or prohibited and evil.
Thus, we present some of its characteristics and let the person asking the question see himself in which type lies smoking.
There is no disagreement among the physicians and sane people that smoking is harmful for health. It is one of the major causes of lung cancer and other diseases. It is also one of the major causes of death. Since, it is known that the Islamic law prohibits everything that is harmful for a human being. Allah said (interpretation of meaning):
"Do not kill yourself. Allah is Merciful unto you." (Surat al-Nisaa' 4:29)
In addition, His Prophet SAWS (peace be upon him) said:
"There is no harm or causing of harm (in Islaam)." (Arabic "laa darar wa laa diraar")
He SAWS (peace be upon him) also said:
"A person will not be able to move on the Day of Judgment until he is asked about ... his body as to what he engaged it in."
Smoking also goes against the saying of the Prophet SAWS:
"Your body has a right on you."
There is no disagreement among the physicians and sane people that smoking is harmful for the health of others who inhale the polluted breath of the smoker. Medical research has proven the harmful effects of smoking mothers on their children. The offensive smell caused by smoking is a source of pain to the worshippers of Allah among humans and angels. The angels are offended and suffer from the same things that the human beings suffer from. Allah said (interpretation of the meaning):
"Those who cause harm to believing men and women without any reason do a great sin." (Surat al-Ahzaab, 33:58)
The money that is spent on cigarettes is used on buying a harmful thing and is therefore an extravagance. Allah said (interpretation of the meaning):
"… and do not be extravagant wasters. Those who are extravagant are kinsmen of Satan." (Surat al-Israa' 17:26-27)
Extravagance (in Islam) means spending on something haraam.
Spending money on cigarettes is a waste of resources as well. The Prophet SAWS (peace be upon him) said:
"A person will not be able to move on the Day of Judgment until he is asked about ..... what he owned as to how he spent it."
Considering all that has been presented, it can be clearly seen that smoking is an evil among many others. It is not permissible to indulge in it, or buy and sell it, or even to offer it to others. It is incumbent on a person who is addicted to it that he must make all efforts and get whatever necessary treatment to stop it. If the unbelievers have understood the harm caused by smoking and made laws regarding it, the Muslims should be even more eager to stop it and treat those who are addicted to it.
We ask Allah the Almighty to cure everyone indulging in this evil and help him in giving it up. Allah is the Best Guide to the Right Path.
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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
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Thank you so much sister. I had no clue... i will keep this in mind InshaAllah when i have children...