I want to marry my cousin
I am a 23 years old Engineer. I chose the girl to marry when I was 16. I was young at that age but my decision was more than strong. She didn't want to talk to me until two years later due to my insistence. She is my cousin. I always mattered to make a halal relation and I talked to my family. I have a deep relation since that time and I am trying to convince my parents with time to time. The reason is "family issues" for what I hear can not be married but in general there aren't any major issue except that they just don't want me to get married there. Some times I do lose my mind and what I think thats the reason why they think its not for me. Please assist for any kind reply. I appreciate and say thanks from the deep of my heart. Thank you
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Brother,
You need to sit down with your parents and ask them what is their justification in not allowing you to marry your cousin. What are the "family issues" that be make it impossible for you to make her your wife?
Salam
Assalaamualaikam
What's your current relationship with the girl you want to marry? Are the two of you dating, or are you observing appropriate limits? And, does she actually want to marry you?
You mention that sometimes you "lose your mind" - and that might be why your parents are opposed... What do you mean by that? If you mean that you become angry or even violent, then it would be important to seek help to control that prior to entering into a marriage. Angry people often become angry spouses.
I'd advise that you ask your parents to clarify what particular issues mean they do not want you to marry this girl - and ask them to be specific. Parents tend to want what they believe is best for their children, so find out why they don't think this is a good idea. If their reasons are valid, then respect that. If their reasons don't seem valid, then you could try to discuss the matter with them, or get her wali involved, or an imam.
Midnightmoon
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