I want to soften his father’s heart for me
Asalam o alikum.
I want to marry a guy. He is good human and well cultured person. He is the only son of his parents and belongs to a conservative family and he is afraid of his father. He is not willing to talk to his father about me. I don't want that "if he is not willing then why don't you quit" etc. I want to get dua or wazeefa to soften his and his father's heart for me.
Kindly help me and pray for me.
Regards.
abihaah
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Don't meet him alone. He can talk to his mother about you. He can ask some friend or relative to talk about you with his parents. He has a conservative family but he is talking to you and may be meeting you also.
Asalamoalaikum Sister,
As much as you may not want to hear this I have to tell you that you’re signing yourself up for a lot of heart ache if you don’t change your train of thought. This guy you desire cannot speak to his father about you then really what are you doing with him? You should not be picking up this guy’s slack because he’s afraid to speak to his parents.
You should make duaa to Allah swt to guide you towards what is best for yourself and not engage in so called “wazifas”. Allah swt does not work this way and nor is He a means to an end.
-Helping Sister
Assalaamualaikam
Have you read the articles on this website about dua and wazifa? You might find some helpful information there, inshaAllah.
It's not clear from your post whether you are in a pre-marital relationship with this boy. If you are, then it's important to think about whether you wish to continue this - boyfriend-girlfriend relationships are not permitted in Islam, so such a relationship would not be acceptable - I would advise that you stick to Islamic guidance and insist on this boy doing the same. It would also be important for you to repent for any transgressions which have occurred.
When we look for a husband, we need to think about his character - is this a man of integrity who you can see as the head of your family, guiding your children and standing up for your rights and wellbeing? Honestly, if a guy can't even tell his family that he has an interest in marrying you, then how is he going to cope with the responsibilities of being a husband? I don't know the home circumstances of this guy, so there may be reasons why he is hesitant (eg. if he is still dependent on his parents, if his father is in poor health and frail), but these are things you need to consider when thinking about whether you want to marry him.
Assuming he is of an age where marriage is legal, he doesn't need the permission of his father to marry. He can make his own decision in this area. But, the marriage still needs to be public, so his family would know about it.
My advice would be to make dua asking Allah to grant you a pious and good husband, and tell this guy that you wish to be in a halal relationship with him, that you are not prepared to be in a haraam or secret relationship, and that if he wants to be your husband, he needs to approach your family with a proposal. And repent for any sins that have been committed.
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