Is my nikah valid or invalid?
Asalamaliakum brothers and sisters ...I need help and a lot of advice about my marriage as I'm very confused and don't know what to do.
I'm 26 years old. I have met this guy at my work a while ago who seemed very intelligent and a hard working human being. He started liking me. At first I wasn't into him but thought why not give him a chance and we started going out for dinner. One thing led to another and we ended up committing a sin - a very big sin which I'm very upset about. Prior to this I had ended a four month relationship about a week before I met this new guy and I told him about it. He was okay with it because I completely cut all ties with him. A short while after I found out that I was pregnant and didnt really knew who the father was since I had been intimate with both men, so basically didn't know who to turn to...
I decided to stick to the new guy and since we had had sex, I told him "I'm carrying your baby". I honestly think it's his. At first he said he didn't want to keep it and told me to have an abortion but my heart couldn't let me do it .. I knew I had already committed big sins and to murder a innocent child...? I just couldn't.
We agreed to go ahead and have a nikah while I was 3 weeks pregnant.. So my question is is my nikah valid, as I'm still with him?....I dont know what to do please help me and give me advice as I don't have anyone to talk to as I feel ashamed of all this......My baby boy is 1 year old and a very healthy baby. I'm happy that I kept him no matter what I went through....please let me know if it's halaal that I'm with this guy..
Nima
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May Allah guide us and protect us from the evils of this world. Ameen.
Sister, who was your Wali for you Nikah? (Was your father/wali present?) You have to explain a little more about how this Nikah happened.
Assalamucaleykum....Saba yes my father, uncle from moms side and my entire family was here when my nikah was happening....it happened as it as anormal nikah should take place but my family didn't knw I was preg at the time of the nikah and still unaware of and I don't plan on telling them...reality is there is no point of telling now because they may disowned me , never want talk to me and I don't wat that to happened to me....thanks for the concern...
Dear Sister,
For your marriage to have been valid, you and your spouse should have repented sincerely to Allah after you committed adultery (zina) and then waited until the pregnancy has ended to get married. But since you married while you were pregnant, then it is not a valid marriage because the marriage did not fulfill one of the necessary conditions for marriage which is readiness of the womb. Therefore, in your case you have to renew your marriage contract for your marriage to become valid, and don't worry because it's not a difficult thing to do.
May Allah lead you to the straight path and forgive you.
Allah knows best
- Shaikha
Assalamu'alaikum sister Shaikha,
Can you please provide reference to the condition of "readiness of the womb"? Jazakillahu Khair.
Abu Abdul Bari
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readiness of the womb???????????????????? whats that?
Readiness womb has nothing to do with her nikha. That is medical term but yes without wali her nikha is invalid.
Assalamualaikum Nima,
You said you have a baby boy. Were you married before? Or is he a result of Zina like this baby you are carrying. I am sorry if it sounds rude, but it matters a lot.
Sister, you have committed Zina more than once and you do sound regretful, but it is of no use if you do not do tawbah. Tawbah means that you do not only regret, but you must stop repeating it. If you were in a Muslim nation where the Sharee'ah was applied, you and the man involved would have been lashed 100 times, each time you did Zina.
It is sad that the western society has begun affecting the entire world, (even those places which were saved until some years ago) with its evil and the corruption has increased rapidly. This is what is deemed to happen if the laws of Allah are ignored and literally rejected.
Allah Created boundaries for us to be within them and not look at them and cross them.
Sister, you asked if you could marry him, but that is a secondary question. This is why I have said what I have said above. Fear Allah and Repent, lest He should catch hold of you on the Last Day.
I know you regret, but that is not enough. You must do sincere tawbah. Never repeat the sin in your life. Returning to Zina must look like jumping into fire, will you do it?
Allah Said: And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them he says,"Now I repent," nor of those who die while they are disbelievers. For them WE have prepared a painful torment.
[Surah an-Nisa', Ayah 18]
Sister, you can not just ascribe a baby to anyone. This reminded me of the times of Jahiliyyah (before the Prophethood of our Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), when a woman would invite multiple men to sleep with her on different nights. When she became pregnant and delivered a baby, she would call all the men and point at anyone she wills. He would have no say and would take the baby with him.
The World is soon to end, because a sign of the Qiyaamah is that Zina will become widespread.
The medical science has developed and ways are available now to find out who the father is. Perhaps you must make use of that and inform the father of this child accordingly.
Yes, you are allowed to marry the father of this baby, but even he must do tawbah and should resolve never to commit Zina with any other woman after this day.
For the fact that you have already married this new man, if your Wali approved of this marriage and was there in the Nikah, it was valid, provided other conditions were also fulfilled. Otherwise, it is invalid.
If your nikah was valid, and tests suggest that this man is not the father of your baby, then he can not name this baby with his name. A child is ascribed only to the original father accoding to the Islamic Sharee'ah.
I am sorry if you found me harsh, but I thought truth was needed to be spoken instead of sugar coating the words.
Abu Abdul Bari
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Assalam alaikum Brother,
If DNA testing was not possible--what would happen in such a case posted by this lady? Or what if her previous bf/current br don't want to be tested (one or both--although if it is just these two, one person's dna test would suffice)?
Wa Alaikum as Salam sister,
If DNA testing did not exist, Allah Knows what would have been the solution. I don't know.
Now that it exists, the question is irrelevant. If the other man refuses to be tested, perhaps this man's DNA test would be enough to find out. If it matches the baby's, it is his baby, if it doesn't, it is the other man's. Wallahu A'lam.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Both men may refuse to be tested though.
Some women may not have access to DNA testing.
If after doing the DNA testing, what if the child is not her husband's and he decides to divorce her or mistreat the child in future? In this case, will the result not be worse?
I am asking this because I wonder if this sister needs to:
1. Ensure her Nikah is valid (and if not, make it Valid)
2. Continuously make Tawbah for her haram relationships and committing zina.
I am not sure which is more important - keeping this family together at the expense of not doing the DNA testing or potentially jeopardizing the marriage of this couple in order to know the father (who may not even want to know)?
If the child does not belong to him and it still gets his name, that will be going against Allah's Command of calling children by their fathers. This is more impartant per me. When they have committed such a huge sin, consequenses will have to be born, right?
Even if she asks him to do the tests, he will ask if she doubts if the baby is his and her zina with the other man will be known, if she has not shared this with him. If both men deny, then perhaps she can call the baby by her name. She must seek a fatwa from a Mufti, if possible.
Allah Knows Best, but relationships after Zina are bound to have problems.
Abu Abdul Bari
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Thank you for the information, JazakAllah Brother.
10% of the married men will believe that the children,their wives have given birth too belong to them(husbands) but the reality is completely opposite.
1 in 10 married men will unknowingly support and raise a child of another men.
That is a fact by the way. Looks like every married men should do a DNA test in order to confirm whether the baby really belongs to them.
salam sister saba,
I don't think getting a mere DNA sample should be a problem for her coz she can even get it by picking a few strands of hair from his hair brush. Even the saliva has it but that certainly does not mean that she won't face any hurdles in the process since it involves a lot of formalities.
aaaa: women who are having those illegitimate children are with men that aren't their husbands--so it isn't like the females did it on their own--both the man and woman were equally wrong.
Sister apple green,
Yes, it wouldn't be a problem--I was wondering more as a general question as to what a woman would do in that predicament (and didn't have physical access to a dna sample or even to the testing)
in which muslim nations such islamic sharee'ah apply that each zani is punished with 100 lashes and then considered inocent...
is there any state of this sort?
salaam
If the baby is not the husbands then it will still belong to the husband and not the real father.
Doesn't islam say the baby belongs to the bed meaning the mother?
If the father refuses to give the baby his name, it will be called by the mother's name, this is what I know. If you have reference for what you said, please provide it so that I can update my knowledge.
Abu Abdul Bari
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I think you guys misunderstood the sister. I believe the 1 yr old boy she is referring to in her post is the result of the sexual relations she had with both guys and she ended up telling the second one she slept with which was her current boyfriend he was the dad of her unborn child, and they married while she was pregnant. I know if a husband divorces his wife while she is pregnant, the divorce doesn't become affective until she gives birth but I am not sure about nikah taking place during pregnancy. Search islamqa.com I believe there is a question that has been answered similar to the one you have. As Abdul Bari mentioned please do tawbah, insha Allah I will post my favorite tawbah dua in a little bit. Also if you want to get your peace of mind back, consider doing a DNA test done and I am sure your current husband won't mind it since he knew that you were in a relationship prior to your relationship with him. May Allah Azza wa jala give you the strength to restrain from such things in the future and to repent from the bottom of your heart. Ameen.
"A short while after I found out that I was pregnant and didnt really knew who the father was since I had been intimate with both men"
and yes 1 yr has passed since all this has happened
i'm not sure what you meant by misunderstanding?
I think she is referring to the first part of my comment. I assumed that this baby boy was different from the baby she is carrying now.
Either way, rest of my comment remains the same.
Abu Abdul Bari
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I find the old-fashioned language to be a barrier to easy reading and understanding.
Wael
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Hi sister , Assalaam ,
If you have commited zina or whatever, its a Sin after all , either big or minor sin is till a sin, nothing is difficult in this world to move in the right path pure and clean in allah's way. Allah always loves us for whatever we are if we repent sincerly to him 100% and never commits such act again and ask a lot of tawba, gives charity etc.
The key for success and to change your life is try the maximum you can to be more closer to allah , repent as much as u can and ask tawbah as many as u can, and do use any facilities such as DNA test which is not a crime but its just a test that allah has created this means by human being.. and there is no fear to do so. Take it easy and go ahead, once its done, first u will have peace of mind, second stop worry about if nika is valid or not. if you will ask people abt the validity, some will say its valid as well as some will say its not valid. in this case, once you know to whom u will live for, then renew you nika once again as its not a sin to renew, then u will have peace of mind and i wish you a happy life. One important thing u have to know, whether the kid has made by zina or not, the kid still an innocent and stil the kid is same like any other kid which they have to treat same like every kid. insha allah i will hear you are now happy.
There is no better way to stay happy by stay close to allah 🙂
Assalaam, This is my easiest way and advise for you and dont let islam complicate your life with so much details, proof, n bla bla bla... the most important thing for u to know is enough, so go for it and repent.
Uzair Khan
Nima there is no way to find out if your marriage is valid or not unless you are cLear who the biological father is. .Dna testing is the only way though which you can find that out.
My concern at the moment is not just the posibity of the annullment of your marriage or your likely divorce however this damage is a severe one but what I fear the most is the series of events that will unfold after the dna result and its effects on your child's mind and future if it shows what we apprehend.
Are you the only one who has these concerns or your husband is also equally concerned about the validity of your marriage. I assume that he is unaware that you even have a doubt like this regarding your son. Does he even know that you were in a sexual relationship with your ex. if you haunt told him.that then the chances are that he didn't doubt you on that since it was a short 4 month fling.
Your view of the problem is quite myopic. its not just the validity of your marriage that should concern you but the very doubt that this child could be your ex's and should be your major cause of concern.
My advise to you would have been completely different if I were to advise you b4 your marriage. Sister by no means I wish to scare you further but I had read a Hadith on the different kinds of punishments some women will face in hell. The punishment of the woman who commits adultery/ fornication was different from the one who lets her husband believe that he is the father of her child who was actually conceived from another man . So This is a fraud without a doubt. hiding this is a sin indeed and it is punishable but revealing it won't be easy for you either.. I hope you understand the gravity of the sin which you are committing now by hiding this possible truth and also the sin of fornication which you have committed in the past.
Now my advise to you will not be a simple one since your case is more complicated than most complicated cases we get to you read over here. I can at the most show you your only two options which come as a package with both their advantages and inseparable disadvantaged. you can pick the slot that
suits you the best. Or should I say the one that hurts you the least.
1. you either go for catharsis. Get the DNA done. let the report come. if the DNAs match your problem ends at that but if it doesn't you will have to see what support you have coz else you are going for a free fall. Inform your family and close friends first. you will need lots of support since If your husband is not an understanding man he will create a lot of fuss which will taint you socially. besides that I don't know where you live and how you will u cope if you were to find yourself on the receiving end if he took you to the court since that happens in India. You will also have to prepare your legal support and of course the financial one. ( I hope you are working and earning well). See if you can physically move your child to a safer environment with trusted people before you sit down with your husband with the Dna result. Don't be on your own. let your wise family members or friend tactfully handle this for you especially if your husband is a violent type. see if the two of you can get a solution amicably . whether to go on.with the marriage and the child or divorce. if the two of you still want to be together then meet a scholar and discuss the status of your marriage and the Islamic solution.
Advantage: you will be able to move on from here. No weights on your conscience. no fear of being punished for hiding the truth. just repentence. Allah will immensely reward you for the risks and the jihad you will take in order to win His pleasure again.
Disadvantage: Your husband will feel terribly cheated. His reaction could be the worst from causing physical damage to you and the child to social damage to financial trouble which either all or at least some of these will inevitable engulf you. Your child will suffer from severe emotional and mental issues because of the ugly events that will obviously unfold. he will be rejected as an illicit child socially. he will blame you for his misfortunes when he grows up. even if your husband accepts the child and continues to be in marriage with you, things will not be the same. you will have to prepare yourself to see many changes that will follow in your relationship with him and his relationship with your son. Your son will anyways not be able to use his name anymore and will have to be told about
his status in future.
2. Don't go for the DNA test. if you don't know about the problem the problem doesn't exist. I know you must be thinking that I'm asking you to hide it under the carpet, but not exactly. its a doubt not a certainty. let yourself believe that your doubts are just created in your head and the child belongs to the man you are married to and thus.the marriage is valid. if you were 3 weeks pregnant when you married him then the chances are that this child is your husband's and not your ex lover's. if that logic relaxes your nerves then believe it and don't even think about getting the DNA done. the process is not as simple as getting a urine test done. it requires a lot of formalities and if your husband found out that you are in a doubt like this then you will see the repercussions even before the results arrive.
advantages: your life won't change. your husband won't be hurt. your child will have a normal life. No one
will judge you. you will be at peace socially as well.
disadvantages: if you are sure that this kid is you ex bf's and you are just looking for a confirmation then you are sinning by deceiving your husband. Your offence is a major one and surely punishable. your health will suffer due to the constant weight on your conscience and the constant struggle with it as well.
God knows what I would have done if I were to stand where you do, but I'm not brave enough to take the
former option either. I would have probably settled with the latter and spent my life in repenting to Allah and making extra efforts to do noble deeds in order to compensate for my sins which I'm committing.
pray to Him to guide you better and whatever you choose at the end remember one thing...if your sins make you repent and turn to Him you will surely find Him Oft forgiving and most merciful.
Bismillahi Rahmaanir Raheem.
Sister Apple green,
Assalamualaikum Wahramtullahi Wabrakaatuhu.
May Allah bless you for all your precious advice you have contributed to the brothers and sister in times of need. When ever I see one of your comments I read it most of the time as I enjoy reading through your wise answers to the problem which covers all aspects of both dunya and Aakirah.
But sister unfortunately I have to disagree with your answer on this one.
My point, since the sister is in doubt about the biological father of her child, should she not opt for pleasing Allah even if she has to do Juhd ? .... I mean it is a major commandment for the Son to be named after the biological father in Islam , so if the sister has doubts whether she should go the for the DNA test and reveal the real father of her child if she finds otherwise, better to get the advise on the Mufti about this Issue and the second thing is the worst that can happen to us in this life compared to what awaits us in the Aakirah ... Subhana Allah what if Allah never forgives her for hiding the real father of her child ? What if Allah reveals it to her husband in this dunya itself, Allah will bring out the truth even if the we dislike it.
The commandments of Allah and his messenger are for our own good and as Muslims we should never try to challenge them.
I apologize for the original poster in advance, for what I am about to say might hurt you, but WALLAHI that is not my intention. I just want to prove a point.
When Allah and his messenger prohibited us from free mixing, most of us, even practicing people brush it off aside as if it were not a big deal and gave our own "logical" reasons to validate our deeds but look what that has led us to .. take the example of this sister, would she be in this predicament if she has taken the small step which was easier, not to take part in gatherings or work in an environment where free mixing is the norm, she did not take that into consideration, then what was the next command stay away from mixing with the non-mahram, which is a bit hard when you are already working in a free mixing environment, then the next step dinner,dating, and the next thing you know ..... you are pregnant.
If you notice sister that it is easy to repel shaytaan at the earlier stages when the waswaas is not that powerful and it becomes hard once he takes the driving seat. It is like a cancer, the earlier you treat the, the less you have to suffer, the same goes now for this predicament (about the father of her child) She should obey the command of Allah and His messenger and seek sincere steps to turn towards Allah who has granted us with blessings that none of us can enumerate.
Allah would always show a way to a person a way out, but the condition is that they should rely on Allah. Have patience on the outcomes of our acts and always firmly believe that MY ALLAH WOULD NEVER LET ME FOR DEAL WITH MYSELF HE IS ALWAYS THERE TO TAKE CARE OF ME, but the test would be that Shaytaan would take personal offence to a person who does such a thing and will try to work the fear of losing property,loved ones etc ... as a reason to disobey Allah which would only make our situation worse.
And Allah knows best and any good that may have come out of my comment is from My Perfect Creator and any shortcoming is from me and the evil snob shaytaan
wa alaikum as salam my brother helpless slave,
I'm so happy to get you feedback for my response her. jazak Allah khair for you encouraging words.
You will not believe if I told you what I was thinking of when I was reading this post.
Do you remember that you wrote a Hadith of a woman who came to Rasool Allah s.a.w with the confession of her sin of adultery and begged him to stone her to death coz she was so guilty? I was actually thinking about that Hadith. though I don't remember it so well but I wished I could ask you to narrate it again this morning and Lo! what a coincidence. I have you right here.
At first when I read this post I thought it would be best if I left this alone. then although I could not imagine myself in a spot like that.: I tried it for a strange reason. Not like it was an obligation, I didn't even have a clear advice but I had to do it like I got pushed.
One thing I noticed about this post was although there was some urgency in her tone but her concern was not what shocked me after reading it. her major concern was if her marriage was valid. she expressed the reason why she feared for the validity of it but the possibility of her child being her ex's was not her main concern. my apologies to the poster but I didn't even sense any guilt. I'm sorry Nima I'm not judging you its just that I failed to sense it.
The one thing about that Hadith you narrated had one very important point. Allah had elevated the adultress to such a high level when she was being stoned that even one drop of her blood could purge the sins of several others. so its the sense of guilt that will not only bring forgiveness but also get him close to Allah but sadly this sister didn't show it. I began to wonder what if she never sensed the gravity of her sins and her only concerns were for worldly reasons?
No I haven't really advised her anything if you see. the two options that you see are not from me. they are the only ones she has. if she picked the former one she will be stoned in
various ways, I mentioned in the disadvantages but for that she must truly hate her sins to that extent and the desire to achieve catharsis should be that as of that adultress who chose
to be stoned. the adultress in that Hadith could at least leave her child in safe hands b4 she handed herself over. this sister will go down with the child. if she manifested that level of repentance Subhanallah. her jihad will take her to the highest level of jannah.
But no sin is greater than the mercy of almighty. if her fears overtook her desire to struggle
on that level, yet I firmly believe her tears of repentance will be enough to save her from hell fire.the people of jannah are not those who never sined but those who repented profusely. I hope she repents till her last breath for this probability.
Allah knows best brother that my intention for showing her her 2nd option was only to protect her innocent child who's illicit status will make him a victim of her jealous husband's wrath.
My fear for his life was so great that I could not expect her to take the former option anyway.
May Allah forgive me if I have, in my ignorance misguided some1 towards the door of hell. I hope she chooses what Allah wants from her.
if only she can understand what she has done if only she would repent.
Bismillahi Rahmaanir Raheem.
Sister Apple green,
Assalamualaikum Wahramtullahi Wabrakaatuhu.
Subhana 'Allah I thank the Almighty Allah to remind you of me because of a Hadeeth, Alhamdulillah. I really enjoy your answers, I have known you from your post about how you had a rough childhood/teenage. Subhana ' Allah and how Allah has transformed your life from that to this, AMAZING.
If someone says that my life is like this because I had a bad childhood/teenage, then I would point them towards you and say "Here is a sister, who has been there, done that and came out of that with the help of Allah. "
Here is the Hadeeth that you were looking for,
Sister I feel your urge to protect the baby, but I don't think this sister will be lashed or stoned to death with her baby as most probably she is living in a culture/society where free mixing and zina is the norm.I apologize to the original poster if you think that I am being judgemental, I am not , the norm seems to be that we tend to be, what we associate ourselves with, in your case zina was not hard for your to commit because nobody in the society would find it weird or admonish you for having pre-marital relations with a non-mahram.
Sister Allah would forgive the sinner as long as he repents, but imagine doing a Major sin right through out our life and then dying upon that sin and then meeting Allah, do you think Allah would forgive that person who persists on that sin.
Assalam'Alaikum brother,
First of all I must admit that I'm quite pleasantly surprised that anyone could find my posts 'enjoyable'. with little Islamic knowledge and careless punctuation and embarrassing typos, my posts must only look colloquial to articulate writers like yourself. Yet If anyone still finds it an interesting read then its only coz Allah s.w.t chooses to bless some losers like me. Alhamdolillah.
Some wise guy had written somewhere that we all sin. the only difference is that we sin differently. I haven't exactly turned out differently from other abuse victims though I may not have fallen into the common traps as most messed up teenagers do... but I'm sure dealing with my own demons. My suppressed anger often interferes with my sense of judgement. I have absolutely no sabr with bullies and lash out without weighing the situation much. all this in return makes me look aggressive. I can't love my own parents although I care for them and these problems are just the tip of an iceberg making me or my condition far far away form AMAZING. the only good thing that my miserable past has gifted me is with melancholia which makes me weep in salah...and I think that's a blessing in disguise.
Although Duniya and its sufferings are inseparable, I hope no childhood should ever suffer at the hands of his caretakers some might grow into better humans but damages In such cases are always irreparable.
About the post: yes I know she won't be literally stoned. when I said she will be stoned in various ways I said it figuratively. I meant, likely to be socially taunted, mistreated, isolated, misunderstood by sleazy men who will think she is easy and so on. Basically A life long ordeal.
And also the possibliity of her and her child being physically tortured of fatally attacked cannot be eliminated. May Allah bless her with the wealth of eman and protect them.
Jazak Allah khair for the best Hadith ever. I had tried to look it up several times but always failed. plz give me the links of some good websites where I can read such wonderful Hadiths.
Few sisters and brothers like you have encouraged me here. I thank Allah for each one of you for inspiring me and encouraging me, making this experience for me wonderfully therapeutic.
Alhamdolillah.
Take care.
Sister Apple green,
Alhamdulillah, I can see your wish to be modest and humble in front of Allah Azzawajal and seek his good pleasure, but I will have to say something I can't help it.
"... I'm quite pleasantly surprised that anyone could find my posts 'enjoyable'. with little Islamic knowledge and careless punctuation and embarrassing typos, my posts must only look colloquial to articulate writers like yourself ... "
Seriously? Me articulate ? Your writing 'colloquial with embarrassing typos and careless punctuation' ?
I don't know about you sis but I'm sure that there are few people who could string a more coherent and comprehensive ways to express themselves, clearly.
Alhamdulillah that Allah has blessed you with a Mastery of the languages, and you are putting it to good use.
No one is perfect and everyone is has to face their own demons, but sister Allah will not put a soul through a trial without showing it a way and without giving it the ability to bear it. It may be the case that if Allah had put us through such a trail, we might have been broken, yet Allah tests all of us and he tested each of us with a different set of tests, only the best go through the hardest trials and Wallahi Allah will reward them with such a wonderful reward in the hereafter, all the others would wish Allah had put them through the same trial.
Here is a Hadeeth about the Reliance in Allah
Sister I may not be able to totally understood what it means to be abused as a child, but we all must keep one thing in our mind, our final destination is towards Allah and he is our Master, so never should we take our eyes of the prize and let the temporary, transient, full of misery life delude us from the Ever lasting, real and full of bliss life in Jannah where you GET to SEE ALLAH Azzawajal , Get it ? See Allah with our very own eyes, Wallahi I can't imagine that scene but I know every cell in my body(that is, if I will have cells in my body in jannah Insha'Allah 😛 ) will try to sneak up and absorb that meeting .. Allahu Akbar
Surah Al-Ala[86].
Sister Apple green,
I think you asked for some websites where you can get Hadeeth and some good Islamic reads.I read the Riyaadus Saaliheen, recommend if you could a get a copy of this book,it has a treasure trove, how ever I will put up an online version of it too.
Oh thank you so much my brother. Jazak Allah Khair. I hope this book is in English coz I can't read Urdu, though I'm working towards that but if Riyaadus Saliheen has an English version I'll be thrilled. I will also check all these websites coz since my Islamic knowledge is weak I can't tell which ones are really genuine.
Yes brother I'm aware of the temporary nature of this life though I always knew it but the awareness came to me after some incidents. shaitan comes to us according to our weakness. If someone is easily tempted by wealth it shows him ample ways to earn it in the harm way and makes his choice more difficult. if someone gets impressed by glamour easily he will make zina very easy for him. If someone is lovesick he will have a non mehram crying and begging him to allow him to just love him or just talk to him once in a while and so on. So you see although we know about akhirah and we know Allah loves us the most, the desire to be loved by his creations takes over our senses and makes us sad. I have been dealing with something on those lines. the abuse that I mentioned happened with me coz one of my parents suffered from serious anger issues and since I have such a memorythat saves every trivia, the images of torture have become more painful than the wounds I received. After reading some posts of abuse victims here, I thank Allah for my case wasn't so bad. hence I call this experience therapeutic. its healing me.
Pray for my wounds to heal soon so I can fulfil my obligations as a daughter as I should and my heart fills with love and compassion for them and that I forgive them completely.
I'm sure you will put your talent to good use. you could write or translate a book on hadeeth for the youth. On topics that address their issues from Islamic perspective and such.
Alhamdolillah for this little family of ours. May we all continue to support each other towards our
ultimate goal. May Allah bless you with pinnacle of success in this world that would immensely
benefit you in your akhirah. I will always remember you in my prayers my brother.
Take care.
Assalamualikum.
Riyad as Saliheen in English can be accessed here: http://abdurrahman.org/seerah/riyad/
Abu Abdul Bari
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Oh my God you are amazing! that was quick. I'm so thrilled. 🙂
Thank you brother abu abdul bari!!!
Jazak Allah Khair
Wa Iyyaki 🙂
ASALAM O ALAKUM,
I am away from my wife for more than 10 years... my wife doesn't speak with me even on phone for the last two years... I hv 2 children ... After my marriage i got another marriage and have 4 kids. my first wife knows that i got married again. after my 2nd. marriage some critical mishaps done like murder of my mother and my first wife involved in it so my father decided to leave her and my wife go to her parents home. my 2nd wife still lives with me. now my question is that my Nikah is still valid with my 1st wife or not even my wife did not speak with me for the last two years. before this we talk each other many times and few times we done our sex relations. now she wants to came back to my life for our kids which are lives with her. kindly instruct me that is our nikkah is still valid or not.
regards.
jazeb, I'm shocked by some of the things you have written here... your first wife was involved in murdering your mother? What on earth does that mean? In any case, it's not true that you have been apart for 10 years, is it? As you said, you used to speak and have sexual relations. Your marriage is still valid if you have not pronounced talaq.
Wael
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Your marriage in invalid as you married on false pretenses.
If you do not know who the father of your unborn is and told your partner it belongs to him then it is haram.
You must tell your husband what you know and face the consequences and pray to Allah that he guides you and your family through this difficult time.
But you MUST tell your partner that you do not think he is the father. It is haram to allow this to continue.
You must be strong and tell the truth or you will be living a lie and your marriage will be a lie which means not valid.
May Allah guide us all to the right path.
Bubu, what's your proof that lying about the parentage of the child invalidates the marriage? Do you have evidence, or is it your opinion?
Wael
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assalamoalikum. i want to know if a boy say a girl that i accept u as my wife and girl accepts it to with out any witnesses and wlis ,will it amount to nekah? and for the girl to enter into nekah with anotherma she has to ake divorce from the first or not
Sherry, no, that is not a valid nikah. Marriage in Islam has certain conditions that must be fulfilled.
Wael
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'd like to know if a nikah is valid after these 3 issues:
1. the man lies about his name to the girl before the nikah and at the time of doing it. She believes his real name to be A while it is actually Z.
2. right after the marriage, the girl stays back at her parents house and the man leaves for another country and she never hears from him and they have no physical or verbal contact for more than 3 yrs i.e. right after the performance of the nikah.
3.the man lies about the fact that he is married and poses himself as single in the nikah papers.
4. She does not even know the address to his house so she can send him a court notice
Is the nikah valid even after these issues and the girl cant remarry? pls let me know.
thanku!
Dear Brother Abu,
Keshia, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah. Thanks.
Wael
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Awe brothers and sisters can you tell us the validity or invalidity of nika after prignancy.? With the requirements. Jazak Allah
AOA
I have been through all the discussion above. Nothing else to say despite, I have few questions . What to do if the above mentioned lady wanted to marry the first boy friend and he rejected to do so .
Don’t’ any of you think that she is deceived or used and the guy must have been brought to justice and he must marry the girl and accept his baby?
What if no one sits in the nikah from both sides and they get marry in presence of a molana?
Why is it not enough to get marry in isolation? Why father of the female must have to be there as a witness?
Does it not matter that the both accepted their sin apologised for that with proper tobah and getting into nikah just to overcome their mistake and not to do that sin again ever?
If a woman is not married and she falls pregnant due to adultery, it will be permissible to marry her. However, it will not be permissible to have intercourse with her until she delivers the child. But if the woman marries the same person who had committed adultery with her, it will be permissible for the person to have intercourse with her.
It is so shameful that our community people are engaging in such acts . Very sad and unfortunate .
assalam alakum sur i wnt to knw i made secret nikkah with married man and im divorced women is this nikkah is valid??
There is no secret nikah in Islam. It is invalid.
Wael
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I had my nikah in unclean state that is without ghusl is it accepted in islam i am worried
sex with sister in law (wife sister) break nikah. Please guide.
Ahmad, it does not break the nikah, but it is obviously a major and deadly sin, and a shameful betrayal of one's marriage vows.
Wael
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