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I had a dream of shining white teeth, is it a positive sign?

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Shining white teeth, what does it mean?



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I had a dream of shining white teeth, is it a positive sign?

Assalamualaikum,

I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for one year. Our intention was to get married in the future. Talking for this one year helped us to know and understand each other. We were inseparable and never went one day without texting each other.

I went to see him in his hometown two weeks ago (it wasn't our first time meeting). He started acting strange while I was there and then when I got back, he never text me one time at all. I waited days then finally had to ask what's wrong and he basically ended things with me because he said he can't tell his parents about me until another 4years because his mum wants him to focus on his studies.

He felt like we are so close to one another that if in the future his parents don't agree, we're going to be hurt more then than we are now and he'll be holding me back. He has deleted me from any social network because he's trying to let his love for me go so it doesn't hurt and because of this we haven't spoken in over one week.

I believe Allah (SWT) allowed us to cross paths for a reason so every day I pray my five times namaz and dua from my heart that Allah (SWT) brings him back to me the right way. I done an Istikara for him the first time (before he ended things) and I had a dream that we were together and what seemed to be us after we were married. I wasn't sure if that was my positive sign from Allah so last night I done Istikara again and this time I had a dream I was brushing my teeth and I look in the mirror and I have bright shining white teeth.

I understand that seeing white is a positive sign from Allah but my question is, is that dream a sign from Allah that he is written for me in my kismat? If yes, do I try and contact him again and again to try persuade him to tell his mum and take a chance or leave it and see what happens?

Thank you for taking the time out to read this sister's question and I hope I can get an answer to help me through this difficult time. Please dua for me as I will do for you.

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How do I convince him to talk to his parents?

Salaam,

I wrote a post earlier describing my situation but I will describe it here again briefly and hope someone could please help.

I was with this guy over a long distance relationship for one year.

Both our intentions were to get married. I had even told my mum about it and she agreed.

I went to go see him in his hometown in the beginning of June but it wasn't our first time meeting. When I got back home he never texted me for a few days which was weird because we never went one day without texting each other.

When I finally texted him, he ended things with me because he can't tell his parents about me for another 3/4 years, because his mum wants him to focus on studying, and me and him are so in love and attatched to each other that if we waited another few years and his parents said no, because of the distance then it would hurt us more.

I really want him to tell his parents about me now and give it a shot like I did when I told my mum, because then at least we'd know their answer now.

I even performed Istikarah for him twice, seeking guidance from Allah if this right for me, and both times I got positive outcomes so I believe our paths crossed for a reason and this is all a test.

How can I convince him to just give it a shot and tell his parents?

We haven't spoken in one week and I really want to sort this out properly and not just end things due to his assumption.

Please someone help. Any advice is welcome. And please, dua for me that he does tell his parents and comes back to me inshallah.

Thank you

~ Saira


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  1. @saira, d only advise i ll give u is to continue prayn 2 Allah, and if he is urs he ll surely come bck.

  2. Salaams,

    It sounds to me like the young man has already considered his situation, and his parent's feelings, and made his choice to break the relationship before getting them involved. I believe you should accept his choice. Trying to convince him to give it another shot after you've probably already asked him to approach his parents, is going to make it seem like you have a hard time moving on and accepting his decision, which is NOT going to endear you to him. For the record, just because someone "crosses your path" doesn't mean they are meant for you for the rest of your lives. Any given single man or women might have their paths crossed by several people, but in the end they only settle down with one.

    It doesn't really matter what your dreams are saying, because the reality as it stands is what you're still going to be working with. You are single now, and unless he comes back into your life on his own volition (without your cajoling), your only option at this point is to move on with your own life and see what other fish are out in the sea. By the way, I recommend you read our article about istikhara listed on the main page. (here's a preview: istikhara is not about dream interpretation!) Perhaps your smile is what is going to attract your true future husband, so make sure you are practicing that sunnah as often as possible!

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • No one will really understand but we know each other so well so I know he's not just done this because he doesn't want to get his parents involved. I know the reason he has done this but I just want him to overcome that small issue and give it a try but he's worried of the outcome. I've not yet asked him to approach his parents because i've not had the opportunity to, as of yet.
      I respect what you say about my dreams, however I don't agree but this is why I posted this question so i'm thankful for your response.

      ~Saira

  3. Salam sister
    I understand the situation you are in
    I see it from yours and his parent's point of view
    But here's the thing
    Maybe you cant get married now.. it's ok
    What about engagement?
    4 years is quite a long time for being engaged, and Islam likes it if we get married soon after being engaged.. but this may be the Only way (that I see) that you can be with him in a HALAL way.. and his parent's KNOW your existence..
    Try ask him, to tell his parents about this..
    Hope it helps
    Meanwhile keep on making duaa to Allah
    If he's written for you it will happen isA
    🙂

  4. Salaam sister.

    It is definitely not a good idea to contact him again, no matter how much you are missing him! It's difficult but it all has to come from him. If I were you I wouldnt concern yourself too much about interpreting the dream. Sister Amy has explained it well MashaAllah so please read response carefully if you havent already. I also strongly recommend reading our links on istikhaarah thoroughly as well. Scroll to the top of the page to do this and click on" Istikhaarah Questions and Answers link"

    Sister the sooner you accept he wants to move on the sooner you can allow yourself to heal. Even if it's scary. Some people make the mistake of not allowing themselves to emotionally detach - they continue making dua to be with that person, for them to come around etc which gives you hope. Leave it in Allahs hands sister. Ask Allah to give you someone who is best for you, at the right time and make you pleased with your spouse and make your spouse pleased with you. Throw yourself into keeping busy and ride out the storm.

    One day InshaAllah Allah will grant you someone 1000 x better than this guy you feel for. Another point sister, it is best to avoid speaking to guys you are not married to. If you like someone in future, get to know them with parental supervision.
    So rather than

    1 Guy and girl like/considering one another
    2 spending time getting to know each other (talking/phone/meeting etc)
    3 Introducing Mr Nice guy to parents
    4 Making arrangments for marriage/Convincing parents/breaking up etc

    Do:
    1 Guy and girl like one another
    2 Introducing Mr Nice guy to parents/at least involving parents
    3 spending time getting to know each other (talking/phone/meeting etc with parental supervision, never alone)
    4 - If things go well marriage arrangments.

    Otherwise what can happen is you commit sin (even talking sweetly is sinful) and a lot of young people end up hurt when parents refuse. By the time the youth go to the parents they're head over heels in love and determined to marry this particular person. Its earth shatteringly horrible to be told no at this stage. But this can be avoided if parents are involved and informed at an early stage and can supervise. If someone is not appropriate, they can rule him out before strong feelings develop.
    All in all it;s better.

    Sara
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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  5. Why do we brush our teeth? To remove plaque and residual bits of food that can cause us decay and pain. When do we most likely brush? At the dawning of a new day. Brushing teeth is all about removal. Your dream showed you with beautiful teeth, everything removed. Take that as a sign that his removal from your life is what will benefit you the most. His presence was debris and now you are cleansed from that, embarking on a new day.

  6. Thank you sara

  7. sallam

    any contact with a nonmehram is haram! i think its a positive sign that he ended contact with you as hard as it sounds (trust me been through what your going through) its haram! secondly some guys blame there parents however he may be talkin to someone else?

    its not good having a secret relationship! i agree with lydia ! you prolly got rid of the filth!!

    take care

    Allah hafiz

  8. Also, I'd appreciate if someone could tell me how to delete posts?

    Thank you

    • We do not delete posts once they've been published. People have taken the time to answer, and the answers may be beneficial Insha'Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Hello Editor,

        I really want my post to be deleted. or if not that, then is it possible to change some words from text,like, name of country ,real name,please?? 🙁

  9. I guess may be your teeth are yellow and you always think about them and get sad. So because you always think about your yellow teeth you got this dream of shining teeth.

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