Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Leaving love for parents?

Janaina C. Falkiewicz_Hand_YkFjQ2Q

hi i am zirwa and i am really upset these days.. my boyfriend has forced to marry me but i am unable.to marry him due to age and family and now i am guilty but i have read an hadith that parents as wali are needed otherwise nikah would be not considered.

I want to ask would i be punished of leaving him and breaking his heart and preffering my family over him? I asked him to wait until we get mature but he didnt agreed.. would i be punished of breaking his heart due to my parents at the day of judgement?

zirwa


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  1. Zirwa,

    You are correct...your Nikah is not valid without your wali. You are committing a grave sin by being with this boy as it goes against the teachings of Islam. If this boy does not want to wait for you until you are of age, and with the permission of your father, he is not the man for you. Stop all contact with him if you truly fear Allah.

    Salam

    • Salam, I am having love marriage issue. I told my parents I like this man and I wanna marry him but they said and when I ask why they say because we do not want with no apparent and valid reason. All they say is what will people say, he is from a different caste tho is Muslim. I tried so hard but all my mom does is curse me and blackmail me. My parents said you can marry him but we will all cut ties with you. He seems like a good man with a good character and religious enough. My auntie wants my mom to send me to Pakistan and take my passport for me. I just wanna know, after trying and trying, if I leave my parents will ALLAH SWT be pleased with me and bless me throughout my life?

  2. Boyfriend girlfriend haram...This relation will have no blessings in it because of disobedience. ..It goes against want Allah wants best for you.....You can see already the problems have begun...and it will not end there....So my advice build your Iman understand your duties go to school get a career so you can be independent. ...The feeling you feel and see is only because SHAITAN reminds you and fills your heart with desires! An idle man's brain is a devils workshop .So go attend the sunni mosques lectures learn quran and meet pious or at least practising sisters who u derstand there purpose in life. ...

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