Please help me to convince our parents for our marriage
Assalam O Alaikum,
I am 23yrs and I want to get married soon. I "A" love a person "B" from last 2 years and he also loves me a lot. The problem is that the person who I love was committed to some other Muslim girl "C" and they had long 6 years relation til 2009 though "B" was not happy because "C" was not understanding and had doubts on "B" and never gave him space.
"B" was very depressed with the relation but did not break the relation as it would be wrong if he would break a promise to whom he got committed and promised he would marry "C" and got depressed within himself. When I and "B" met I was very keen to know why is he depressed and tensed in life which I could see on his face, he shared all his problems with me and we started loving one another as we got attracted and understood one another.
He is a true Muslim who offers prayer everyday and even "C", when he opened our relation to his previous commitment she didn't understand and never accepted our relation and went out of his life smoothly because in their relation their parents were involved and they were to get married once "B" gets settled. Now the problem is I love "B" a lot and he also realized that he loves me and not "C" and it was just a soft heart feeling for her as a good human.
I spoke to my parents that I want to marry "B" they agreed but on condition that his parents should come and talk to my parents about our marriage but his parents never agreed to consider me as his life partner ever they hate me as they think I am the reason "C" and "B" had misunderstandings despite several explanation by "B".
However we planned to get married without "B" parents knowledge and he moved to Saudi Arabia to earn and get settled and talk to my father once again so that I can move to saudi on my father's visa and we get married over there. But, more problems arose and his office people playing politics and giving lot tensions and he is not able to talk to my father from last 6 months and I want to get married to him soon as I know we are committing a lot of sins by talking to one another as he is not my mahram. I am offering 5 time Salah and whatever applicable dua to get married soon. Still nothing working out and I am running out of patience. Please Advice me looking on this aspect-
1. Weather he should talk to my father and convince him to get both of us married without he getting well settled?
2. I shall leave the thought to become his wife and listen to my parents and agree to marry different person of their choice?
3. I offer my Tahajjud Namaz 10min before the Fajr Namaz is this accepted?
4. At Asr I read "Sallallahu Alaiyhi Wasallam" 500 times and in Isha I read "Aghisni Aghisni Aghisni Ya Mugheeso" 500 times with 11times Durood-E-Shareef in start and end to get married to the person who I desire. Is this correct and I do supplicate after each dua going in Sajda that I should get married to "B".
Please do reply to my question as I am not able to get help from anyone and I cannot discuss this with my parents as they seriously oppose our relation if "B" doesn't get his parents to talk to my parents for getting us married.
1 Responses »
Leave a Response