Love, stress, tension, family issues…
Salam!!Hope you are fine..
Please help me I am in a lot of trouble. I was in a relationship with my cousin. We both wanted to get married but couldn't because of the age factor. We were both happy and didn't do anything haram.
Somehow my parents got to know this and asked me to stop talking to her. I said ok but didn't stop talking to her. Then they again caught me and said stop talking or we will tell her parents. I promised my father and stopped talking to her and also told her about the situation. She said ok we won't talk but will never forget each other. It was hard for me to stop talking but as I promised I didn't and she gave her phone to her mother and started to concentrate on her studies.
Few months or weeks later when we met she was acting strange and I asked her whether everything was fine or not. She said everything is fine but it's hard to not talk to you. I said soon everything is gonna be fine INSHAALLAH. So whenever we met again she became weirder and acted like a stranger. I was shocked on her behaviour and thought that she is not the same she is ignoring me and isn't talking to me.
On her b'day I asked her that what is going on here I just cannot tolerate this!! She said "we will talk about it". I said fine. The very next day I again asked her. Firstly she didn't reply and when she replied I could barely stand... she said " I don't want a relationship with you". I said bye to her and started crying like a child.
Now I am stuck. I love her like no one can or even think of!! Whenever I sleep she is in my dream almost every time I think of her she is always on my mind. I am praying to ALLAH(SWT) may she come back to me.. and I even think now that there might be a problem something must be wrong!! Please help me I feel like hell Please answer me as soon as possible!!
Hasmeeru
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Assalam alaikum,
I don't know how old you are or she is, but if you were truly ready for marriage, you would stop talking to her and simply tell your parents that you want to marry and make that happen. There isn't another way to word this--I mean, there does not exist some magical way for you to get what you want. It is simple as getting married. If you are too young, then perhaps you are also too young to marry.
She did the right thing to give the phone to her mother.
If you can tell us how old you are, perhaps we can give some suggestions.
As far as love is concerned, I would say that most of us have no clue what love is--especially if you haven't been married and gone through some sort of difficult time with that person. Also, you find out a lot about love when you love someone, fall out of love with that person and then fall back into love with the same person. Depending on one's feelings is standing on shaky ground--love isn't that feeling that you feel--love involves sacrifice, commitment, doing the right thing when it is easier to do the wrong and the list goes on. So, please do not feel sad--wipe your tears, decide what you want and do it--Inn shaa Allah, if you put your trust in Allah swt and believe in His plan for you, all will be well.