Would a man marry a single mother?
I am 24 have a 15 month old boy and I am a Muslim revert.. Alhamdullilah!!
I left my previous fiancé because he used to physically and mentally abuse me and I feared for my son's life. Now that I've moved on Alhamdullilah I want to get married to a nice funny man who loves Islam and to complete half my deen Inshallah.
I've befriend a guy who loves Islam dearly, he's my bestfriend and I love him but he doesn't know. Now will it be hard for me to marry after having a child to another man whom I was engaged to??
Will any Muslim man and family except my child and I????
Please help... I I would really like to hear some good advice...Inshallah. Salams 
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Asalaam alaikum
Welcome to the ummah. It's always nice to see another new revert, Alhamdulillah.
I think you'll find good people accepting of your situation, Insha'allah. The only way to know is to ask this man you are interested in marrying. I would expect most men who you could approach will either have been divorced or widowed, and may have a child or several children. That's not to say that single man will not marry you, but you'll have a higher rate of success with people who have already been through marriage.
After determining whether this man is interested in you for marriage, if the answer is negative, I imagine it will bring you some pain and hurt. It's important to not let it get you down, though. Instead move away from continuing a relationship with him, because if anything, having male friends will prevent you from being seen as a good potential wife and of course, it's Islamically proper to not form men/women relationships. So please don't be afraid of losing this guy, because you never know what you can gain instead.
Research polygamy if you think that may suit you, as well. There are men looking for a second wife, but that's a very delicate situation. You will definitely need to talk to the first wife and I urge you to please insist on that. Some men go about it wrongly, and you do not need that trouble. Being a second wife, a third wife or a fourth wife, though less rare, is surely a huge role to comprehend. It's not obligatory on you of course, but just keep yourself informed and aware of it.
It should be a discussion to have with any Muslim man that you wish to marry anyways, whether he be single, divorced, widowed or married. Many women do not want this, so it's healthy to know the boundaries in your potential relationship before any marriage.
Establish yourself in the community through daycare volunteering, since you have a nice little baby at this age for it too, if your local Islamic center provides it. Attend Muslim women's groups for mothers, bake sales and things like that. Your child will be at the age where he/she will need that environment, too.
The benefit of this is forming a strong bond with other women who will keep you on the Right Path. Subhan'allah, Muslims can be the best of friends. And of course, the older women will get to know you and will keep an ear to the ground for you regarding a husband.
I'll keep you in my duas. I pray that Allah (swt) guides you, makes your transition easy and gives you the best of husbands. May Allah (swt) always be the first love in your life.
InshAllah you will find a man who will love you and your kids. a nice Allah fearing man will look past what has happened and focus on who you have become. I have seen it happen before, will Allahs guidance and patients you will find a person who will accpet both you and your child.
Salaam my Sister,
Of course they will. Men have much less of an issue about this that we are led to believe.
Relax, be yourself and don't worry too much about it. When the right man comes along - he will not have an issue with it.
Peace,
Leyla
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AA;
No reason why you can not get married again. Do not rush and do not think there is no one out there for you. I am worried though that you befriended a man and I would suggest you stop that. Devil will find many ways to try to get you to do something wrong and you are in a time of need now which will make it easier on him.
May ALLAH guide you, grant you patience and shower you with his mercy.
If I am correct, it is from ALLAH. If I err it is from me, and I pray ALLAH forgives me.
AA