What is the Islamic solution to my situation? Is khula/divorce the right choice?
Assalamoalaikum,
I have been married for 8 years and I have 2 children. The relationship between me and my husband has gone through a lot of bad times. The current situation is that for the past 8 months we have been sleeping in different bedrooms. During this time things between us have gone from bad to worse and now for the past 4 months there have been no physical relations between us. He too did not initiate anything as he was also in anger and was not interested in doing so. We had not been communicating on normal mode either. I have spoken to him some time ago that its all over from my side and that I do not wish to live with him anymore due all these prevailing conditions, as there is no point living together when we just cant stand each others' existence in the same house. He said that things would get better but failed to do so. I would like to know in such a situuation what does the religion tell us to do, though I have gone through the surah baqra verse 224-237, but still I would like you to guide in complete detail as to what should be done in this regard.
Looking forward to see your response soon.
Jazakallah khair,
Kanwal Shah.
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Salaams,
you did not give a lot of detail about what is making the marriage so intolerable, so it would be impossible to give a completely detailed response. Generally speaking, you should do everything you can to try to make your marriage work. If you can't seem to work out how to do that between the two of you, then you should have a trusted relative or have your families involved to help you sort out what's going on to make it right. In some cases, you might need to go to marriage counseling. I believe divorce should only be looked at when all other options have been exhausted and shown not to help the situation.
As far as physical relations, those should only be withheld if someone is being completely sinful or sabotaging their deen. If you two are just having difficulty with bickering or anger, you should still fulfill one another's rights (whether you are sharing a room or sleeping in different rooms). If you two are both ok and agreeable to not being with one another, Alhamdullilah. But if not, whoever wants to be with the other should be permitted to.
If you want to add more details about what's going on to get more specific advice, feel free.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Good Morning Sir.
I am a christian married couple. Having married for 14 years. Now my husband has converted to Muslim in order to get married with a Pakistani girl. Can they get married without I giving him divorce. I am on his resident visa. How can I get help on the same. Is their marriage legal as per UAE Law.
Please advice I just want to save my marriage.
Thanks & Regards,
Mrs. Allen.
Dear Mrs Allen,
I am sorry that you are having difficulties in your marriage. Is your husband converting to Islam because he believes that 'there is only one God worthy of worship', or is he converting to take advantage of the perks of polygamy? Allah knows best.
With regards to the validity of the marriages, it would be best for you to research UAE family/marriage law. As far as Islamic Law is concerned, a Muslim man can marry a woman of the Book (Christian or Jewish woman).
SisterZ
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as salamu alaikum
dear sir/ madam,
Due to some asrological issues and social family committment, my wife asking for divorce.
I strongly refused but my wife dont want me.
how to solve the issues in islamic ways
please help me.
Astrological issues? We Muslims do not believe in astrology. It is a form of shirk. Only Allah knows the future. Our guidance comes from the Quran and Sunnah, not meaningless astrological charts.
With that said, if your wife insists on divorce I don't know what you can do. You have not given sufficient details to advise you. If you like you can register and submit your question as a separate post and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Assalam uAlikum
Bia, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah. Or search our archives for similar questions to yours.
Wael
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Good day...
shaira, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah. Or search our archives for similar questions to yours.
Wael
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I did already but it is still pending, I post it already for how many days now and still waiting for an answer ;(
shaira, we have about 90 posts in the queue. So it's going to be a while. Sorry.
Wael
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okay. thank you