Marriage to muslim convert and disobedience to parents
Aslam-u-Alyqum,
I need your help to understand what should I do.
I fell in love with a non-Muslim girl five years ago and carried our relationship till now. Now we decided to get married and she is ready to embrace Islam. But my parents are totally against this. I had tried to talk to them but they are very firm on there decision even if she converts.
What should I do? Shall I disobey my parents and convert her and get married or shall I betray her and listen to my parents?
I know disobeying ones parents is one of the major sins but is it right if I abandon her and do not bring her to way of Islam?
Please help me.. What should I do? I am very confused.
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Walaikumsalaam,
Disobeying parents is a major sin. Its good you recognise that. You have been in a relationship for five years. Was it a haraam one, because if so, do you know that having a haraam relationship is also a major sin?
First of all correct yourself and your own ways Brother. Are you being disobedient to Allah? Make tawbah for the haraam relationship you have been having for the past five years. Establish a good connection with Allah.
Secondly, if the revert sister has genuinely converted for Islam and is practising, only then try to take things further.
Its best to have the blessings of your parents, so I would suggest you make full efforts with them. If you trying to mend your relationship with Allah - He will be your strength. Speak to some respected family members, and an Imaam to help in convincing your parents.
Aslm alkm. Brother, go back to ur lord by engaging in more 'ammalus salih' and then be obedient to ur parents and make d girl understand dat she shld convert to islam for d sake of ALLAH ALONE and not marryin you. Engage d elders of ur family to convince ur parent dat there is no difference btw one who was born in islam and a new convert. I cld remember a debate dat we had some year back. The subject was ''who was d best btw a person born in islam nd a new convert''. Lastly make istikharah and keep prayin for d BEST.
i ask a Mufti .. but her conversion should not be for marriage .. as it is not time lasting