Can we marry in another country?
Second Marriage
My boyfriend had an arranged marriage 3 years ago. Now we want to get married, but he can't tell his family about it. His wife came from a rich family, and they are making problems for him. Is there a possibility for us to get married in another country? Please help.
-angel pak
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Salaams,
I'm going to assume you both live in the same country, and that country won't allow polygamy? Every country has different laws, so you would have to check with the laws of the country you wanted to marry in to see what they will allow or not. To my knowledge, most countries will not marry allow a couple to get married there if they are not citizens of that country (at least one of them).
-Amy
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Sister,
If that guy can make you a girl friend imagine what he can do with other girls when you are not there. In Islam it is allowed for a man to have four wives but provided that he can manage all with equality and in all possible ways (financially and all, etc).
Beware that there is no concept of girl friend or boy friend in Islam. Remember Allaah (Subhanuhu wa ta'allah) Sent you here in this world to follow Allaah (Subhanuhu wa ta'allah) not your own desires.
Cease all communication with that person.
Allaah Knows the Best!
ASSALAMALAIKUM
DEAR MARRIAGE COMES LATER 1ST YOU HAVE TO SEE WHAT YOU ARE DOING -
YOU ARE BREAKING A HOUSE A COUPLE AND WHAT MR MASOOD SAID IS RIGHT-
Cease all communication with that person.
ONE COMPLAINT FROM THE WIVES SIDE THAT HE DEMANDED FOR DOWRY WILL PUT HIM IN JAIL
AND YOU WILL RUN FOR COVER BECAUSE THEY ARE RICH THEY CAN TEACH YOU A LESSON ALSO FOR INTERFERING/BREAKING THEIR DAUGHTERS MARRIED LIFE-
HOPE UNDERSTAND THE SIN AND RSIK INVOLVED
REGARDS
Salaams,
I also wanted to add that I answered your question according to a legal marriage. Nikkah of course doesn't require a certain country or any of the same things a legal marriage requires.
That being said, I think it's better he divorce his first wife if he has no care for her and marry whomever he likes. If he doesn't want to divorce her, keeping a girlfriend on a side or taking a second wife against her wishes isn't going to solve problems for him. In fact, it will probably only make things worse.
-Amy
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Assalamu alaikum, I converted to be Muslim a over two and half years ago. My Christian husband will not finalise our divorce. I want to marry a Muslim man and begin my life with him. I have no solicitor as I cannot afford one and I have been acting for myself with the help of a retired lawyer.
As-salamu alaykum sister madi2. From an Islamic perspective, you are divorced, and Allah knows best. We can't advise you on legal issues, however.
Wael
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Assalamu Alaikum Brother, Can I go to his country, Egypt, and marry him through the government legally without divorce papers?
Salaams,
If his marriage is registered in Egypt, chances are they will not allow a legal marriage to you unless the law allows it under polygamy. It's most likely he will need to divorce her first if that's where he lives and that's where they are married.
But if he does live there, it seems to me he would be the best one to figure this out. Why is he putting the burden on you to find out these answers, when he can do so more easily? I suggest that if he really wants to marry you, he do all the foot work. If I were you I would tell him to make these arrangements, and if he was not willing I would consider letting him go.
-Amy
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Salaams Sister may I suggest that you actually read the link before making judgement on someone and then handing out "advice". People rely on these forums to help them make decisions about life changing situations and comments such as this really are not helpful.
It is I who is not divorced. He has never been married.
Assalam alaikum Sr. Madi2,
Having read many of Sr. Amy's comments on this site, the type of advice she "hands out", as you put it, is actually extremely helpful and enlightening even for those of us who aren't necessarily looking for advice.
I can see why there was a misunderstanding on her part--If you read the orginal post at the top of the page and then the first post that you made today, dated May 14, 2014, at 7:01 pm, her advice makes complete sense. Sr. Amy replied very promptly, and a simple "I think you misunderstood" would have sufficed so that you could have actually had your query answered.
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As for your question about going to Egypt, like Sr. Amy suggested, why doesn't the man you want to marry find out? He could most likely talk to the local Imam and get information from them. Also, you could simply call the Egyptian Embassy closest to you and speak to them directly if they would allow it OR they could direct you to someone who would know. I noticed that you originally said that you could not afford a lawyer--so make sure that you have all your information about Egypt (or any other country for that matter) before you make plans and spend money.
Salaams,
Madi2, you are right that I did not notice you were not the OP. I saw your latest reply via email, and mistakenly took it for a follow up response from the OP. I do apologize for that.
Unfortunately, these kinds of mistakes happen when someone asks their questions under someone else's post. It can be avoided when an individual logs in and submits their own questions separately.
-Amy
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Walaikum Salam Sister Amy.
Thank you for your apology. I am not sure how I submitted the first question as I have not used this facility before so Inshallah this time it will be ok.
We have indeed tried to speak to the government in Egypt and my future husband and myself have had not received any real advice. We have been sent from pillar to post, Egyptian Embassy in Britain tell us to go to the Egyptian counterpart and visa versa. This is both frustrating and costly for both of us. We would like to know if there is any advice centre in Cairo or surrounding areas who may be able to help? My future husband has spoken to his Imam and has been advised that although we can be married under Islamic Law we could not register this with the government until I can produce divorce papers and therefore our marriage would not be recognised as such therefore he cannot come home to Britain with me. I had read that if divorce was proving difficult in this circumstance because I am Muslima the Court in Egypt could grant my divorce as long as I had satisfied my iddah and as I previously said I have been legally separated for over two and half years now. I wonder if you can help answer this question.
Jazak Allāh
Madi2
Madi2: our marriage would not be recognised as such therefore he cannot come home to Britain with me.
Why can't you guys live in Egypt till you get divorce? Make sure you are not being used for a Visa and your husband is not already married.
OP: My boyfriend had an arranged marriage 3 years ago. Now we want to get married, but he can't tell his family about it
Why you want to marry him when he does not want his family or wife to know about it? By "boyfriend" you mean some one you are doing sex with, right.