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Why shouldn’t a Muslim girl marry a Hindu man converted to Islam?

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Muslim men can marry girls who used to be Hindu and converted to Islam, and I never heard a single case of any trouble with this.

But if a Muslim girl wants to marry a man who converted to Islam after being Hindu, her family creates the maximum problem.

Why is that?

- prashanty07


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  1. ASSALAMALAIKUM
    THEY CREATE PROBLEMS BECASUE MANY MANY GIRLS OR BOYS WHO COME TO ISLAM FROM HINDUISM START TROUBLE AFTER MARRIAGE AND 1 OR 2 YEARS BECAUSE OF THE FAMILIES INSTIGATING THEM THEY STILL THERE IS TIME TURN BACK TO YOUR FORE FATHERS RELIGION-
    SATAN IS AFTER THEM ALL THE TIME
    AND IF CHRISTIANS REVERT THEY COME WITH THEIR BACKGROUND OF THEIR FOREFATHERS HAVING BELIEF IN THE LIFE OF THE HERE AFTER AND THEIR PARENTS INSTEAD TRY TO LEARN THE TRUTH FROM THEIR CHILDREN AND CO-OPERATE-OR KEEP QUITE-

    INDIANS ARE OPPOSITE AND THEY SPOIL A GOOD COUPLE AND SEE THE FUN BECAUSE THEY ARE WORSHIPPERS OF DEMONS AND THEIR PATRON IS SATAN 24X7 HAVING HIS INFLUENCE IN THEIR LIVES AND THEY SHOW THE SAME TILL THE COUPLE BREAKS-
    “It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a kafir (non-Muslim), whether he is Jewish, Christian or an atheist because the man has authority over his wife, and it is not permissible for a kafir to have authority over a Muslim woman. There are decisive texts from the Qur’an which refer to the prohibition of such marriage. For example, Allah Almighty says, “And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al Mushrikun (atheists) till they believe (in Allah Alone)” (Al-Baqarah: 221)
    And “And never will Allah grant to the disbelievers a way (to triumph) over the believers” (An-Nisaa’: 141)
    And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Islam should prevail and should not be prevailed over.”
    HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND THE HINDUS MIND SET AND A CHRISTIANS FAMILY MIND SET THATS THE FIFFERENCE-
    REGARDS

  2. salam sister...
    its not true that a muslim girl can not marry someone who was a hindu and later on converted to islam. ofcourse,she can.But here, her family can not digest that once you were hindu .so explain to them polietly and refering to islam and it would be better if your parents come for the proposal.by the way r they muslim or hindu.if they r hindu then i think this is one thing repelling her family.and were u in a relationship with her.if u were then repent to Allah for your grave sin and ask for strong Imaan.
    in islam u can not love someone(except for hubby or wife) such a way that u feel like he/she is your spouse and u can not live without him/her.this is strictly forbidden .if u like someone and think taht marrying him will be better,u guess,then ask yiur wish in dua.but we need to make sure that our desire for him/ her is within limit otherwise its of no use making dua...
    may Allah help u,,Ameeèn.

  3. Thanks for putting forward the query ,well in most of the cases those hindu men who reverted to islam doesnt solemnly reverts and later on make that muslim girl also like him or atleast make there children as hindu.

    Majority of the cases of inter religious marriages they dont covert for there own sole.. rather just to get married..

  4. You have to think about it sister fair enough the guy has converted but how can you trust the fact he don't go back or go against it after.

    your family isn't trying to create the problem to break you down but to protect you from all this especially sins that could happen due to the fact if you go and marry this guy , they are only trying to help you at the end of the day.

    When being a married couple men have more in control of being in charge of the women ,what if the guy that he converted changes his mind and forces you to follow what he says.you need to see consequences like this that could happen if you do marry this guy because not all outcomes can turn out good as we accepted.

    the reason why it would be ok for men to marry converts out there is because women are more likely to listen to men easily than men listening to women.

    After marriage im sure you will move to his family he may be a convert but would his whole family convert when a person marries the guy she marries his family aswell , what if they don't treat u right or accept u for who u are.

    Love is not as easy as it looks we cant just marry the person for the sake of our heart but for the sake of our future lives as well.

    The words I want to marry them are easy to say but not easily done , its for your future and the rules Allah swt has set out there for us if for our own safety.

    just pray that Allah swt guides you to the right path and have faith in yourself and believe the fact that what Allah does or has written for us its for our own benefits so be grateful as much as you can and the light will shine on the right path for you.

    May Allah give you strength in your decisions follow your mind not your heart and you will soon realise whats right and whats wrong .

    • Kay786,
      You wrote: "You have to think about it sister fair enough the guy has converted but how can you trust the fact he don't go back or go against it after."

      Well, you can say the same thing about all the females who convert to Islam, too. Who's to say that they won't go back to Christianity or Atheism? In fact, there're multiple examples of women converts who drift away from Islam as soon as their relationship or marriage to their Muslim man isn't a fairytale anymore. So it's not just a concern in regards to male converts. It's just...in a lot of Muslim societies or cultures it is often unacceptable for a Muslim woman to marry a convert, while Muslim men all the time marry women that aren't even halal for them (Atheist women, Agnostic women, Hindu women etc.), and no one says anything to it. I hate this kind of mentality.

      • Adina this topic is related to men shes not asking about women I didnt say convert women wouldn't be the same as some men going back , im just trying to relate it to her story for now.

        I know that convert women do go back once they feel like there relationship isn't worth it anymore , I don't like the fact that some converts out there convert for people but not for Allah just wish they would understand that people come and go but Allah will always remain as one and they should be careful with the decisions to make.

        I just wanted to point out some risk that could happen if she does thin of marrying this guy like what if he does go back and make her join him shel fall into great danger of loosing her imam or deen.

        when choosing your life partner you should pick wisely someone who keeps you stronger on your deen and imam and lead you to the path of jannat not the complete opposite.

        • I agree with Kay786 just one think I like to add that the children follow their father religion more then mother. So it's kinda important that man stick to islam strongly....

          • I disagree with @Nadia. The mother is more close and responsible for shaping the mindsets of her kids as she cares for them since their birth. So it actually contrary of what you said. The kids, in most cases follow their mothers, especially with regards to religion

          • Fair enough!!! Let me ask you something what if husband is Muslim and wife Christian which religion will kids follow? And when baby born then why the baby last name is with the father why not mother? After married in Islam women kept their fathers name why? Even if you want to get married your wali has to be your father, why? Why not mother? Allah balanced the responsibility to father and mother.

            As far I know in Islam man's are condider Qiwaamah (the role of being in charge or head of the household/family) Ofcourse mother also has to be a strong character because most of the time children stays with the mother rather then father but that's something Allah made that to obay.Some of the reasons why men are given the role of qiwaamah include1. Men are more intelligent and have a better ability to distinguish right from wrong. Al-Qurtubi said: "Men have the advantage of being more wise and more capable of management; for this reason they were given the right of qiwaamah." 2. Men’s religion is more complete, because women menstruate and bleed after childbirth, and do not pray or fast at such times - unlike men. 3. Spending money in charity and on one’s family is a duty on men, but not on women.

      • I agree with Diya. Just because a child TECHNICALLY inherits his father's religion doesn't mean that the child will turn out Muslim. If the father is out working all day, and it's the Christian mother who's with the child 90% of the time, of course the child will have a more Christian influence than a Muslim one.

        It's never made sense to e why it's the father who has to be Muslim, when it's obviously the mother who's with the child the most and therefor has the most influence on the kid.

        • Salaams,

          My guess would be that it's because according to Christianity, the wife has to submit to the husband's authority. So if a Muslim husband told his Christian wife to teach their children Islam and not Christianity, she would not be following her own faith if she didn't comply.

          I realize that's the "right" way, and not the way things often play out. After all, if a Christian woman were following Christianity, she wouldn't even marry a Muslim to begin with because it would go against being "equally yoked".

          -Amy
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • "You have to think about it sister fair enough the guy has converted but how can you trust the fact he don't go back or go against it after."

      Why would ALLAH allow it then?????

      • Its not upto Allah if the convert person goes back or not its upto the person himself on how strong his deen and imam is , worlds not as easy as it seems out there shaitans always after the ones who follow the good path and sometimes its not as easy keeping up with the good things you have done in life because either where not strong enough or we get defeated by the shaitan.

        Its not upto Allah to decide if he stays as a muslim or not its upto him at the end of the day hes in this test himself , allahs testing him throughout his life.

        Anything is possible out there I know many reverts out there who go back , no one is perfect .

        • I know you don't mean it in the negative sense, but the following words seem to overstep Allah's Authority: it is not upon Allah to decide

          You can probably rephrase it to: whatever he does is his choice and not something Allah forced him to do.

          Abu Abdul Bari
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • sorry I didn't mean to make it look negative because I didn't know how to put it out to the fact that its mostly based on his decisions what path he takes but yes what you said I meant it like that.

            Allah gave us all a free will to decide whats right and whats wrong for us, some may see the good stuff as bad and the bad stuff as good in the end its upto them what path to take.

            in shaa allah Allah will guide us all to the right path ameen.

  5. Salam sister,

    As far as I know islamically you are allowed to marry a revert to Islam coming from any religion or no religion. As long as he has sincerely reverted to Islam because he believes in Allah, not just to marry you! So your parents should not create a problem if he is sincere and posses good character.

    If this man cannot marry a Muslim sister then who should he marry? A Jewish or Cristain women? If he cares about his seen and future then he will want to marry a Muslim women so she may help him strengthen his mean and bring up children in the Islamic way. It is hard enough for revert men and women finding Muslim marriage partners without parents condemning marriage to their daughter and son.

    I agree with others that problems may occur later as if the person decides he does not want to be Muslim anymore or is not sure of his faith. But this is with all marriages for men or women. A revert women may later decide Islam is not for her. We do not know what will happen in future. I think there are worse repercussions for a MAN marrying a revert women, if the women later decides she doesn't want to be Muslim as if they have kids then in European countries the mother has more rights on the kids and thus the children will spend more time with the mother and follow her religion. I have heard of many incidents where the brothers are crying after divorcing their Jewish or cristian wife, or reverts who later left Islam, because their kids have followed the mothers religion and not Islam! So they have aided their kids in becoming non Muslim by not choosing a Muslim wife!

    For a women it is much easier as with any marriage if the husband is not treating you right you can divorce and if the husband is going against Islam you can divorce. If you have kids by that stage they will stay with you and Insha Allah becoming Muslims, so you have nothing to worry about!

    Just explain these facts to your parents and get your relatives involved and the imam in persuading your parents. It is really hard to find a good Muslim husband, even if they are religous some treat their wives really badly. So if you have found someone that is Muslim and a good person too, who you feel will love you and care for you treat you like a queen and bring you happiness then you should run and marry him!

    Take care and good luck xxx

  6. salam bro/sis i was wondering how long does it take for your post to pend?

  7. thanks and how come if theres only one post but mines right?

  8. To those who talk about people leaving the deen after reverting:

    Whether men or women, if they are sincere in their Islam, they will not easily turn away, but if they see betrayal on part of a Muslim, chances are high.

    Being Muslims, WE have a responsibility towards the new Muslims, which we have either forgotten or have ignored.

    It is called تأليف القلوب. I can not correctly translate it, but it is close to meaning: winning over the hearts. We must encourage them and show them that they are "preferred" over the people who have already been Muslims. Yes, that is true. This is to make them feel better and more inclined towards the deen.

    The proof for this is the act of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam When the Muslims had been successful at the Conquest of Makkah, Allah's Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam distributed the war booty among the Sahabah in Makkah, such that some men got even upto 100 camels each. The Sahabah among the Ansar of Madeenah were not given this. They did feel bad, but the best of all leaders handled this situation with his wisdom and taught us something to win over the reverts' hearts. The hadith is as follows:

    Narrated Anas bin Mâlik ﺭَﺿِﻲَ اﻟﻠﻪُ ﻋَﻨْﻪُ : When Allâh bestowed His Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ with the properties of Hawâzin tribe as Fai (booty), he started distributing to some Quraishi men even up to one hundred camels each, whereupon some Ansâri men said about Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ``May Allâh forgive His Messenger! He is giving to (men of) Quraish and leaves us, in spite of the fact that our swords are still dropping blood (of the infidels).'' When Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ was informed of what they had said, he called the Ansâr and gathered them in a leather tent and did not call anybody else along with them. When they gathered, Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ came to them and said, ``What is the statement which I have been informed, and that which you have said?'' The learned ones among them replied, ``O Allâh's Messenger! The wise ones amongst us did not say anything, but the youngsters amongst us said, `May Allâh forgive His Messenger; he gives the Quraish and leaves the Ansâr , in spite of the fact that our swords are still dropping blood (of the infidels).' ’’ Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ replied, ``I give to such people as are still close to the period of infidelity (i.e., they have recently embraced Islâm and faith is still weak in their hearts). Won't you be pleased to see people go with wealth, while you return with Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ to your houses? By Allâh, what you will return with is better than what they are returning with.'' The Ansâr replied, ``Yes, O Allâh's Messenger, we are satisfied''. Then the Prophet ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said to them. ``You will find after me, others being preferred to you. Then be patient till you meet Allâh and meet His Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ at Al-Haud ( Al-Kauthar ).’’ (Anas added:) But we did not remain patient. (Sahih al Bukhari, 3147)

    I hope you know now, why people turn away; whether men or women.

    Abu Abdul Bari
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. person should not enter in Islam just for a girl he is not a Muslim
    a person should enter in Islam just for himself or for happiness of Allah or to save himself from the fires of hell
    love with girl is secondary thing
    for boy i advice keep on the way which Islam describes regardless of any other thing Allah will listen you and give you that girl

  10. Asalamwalaikum everyone

    Someone is asking why shouldn't a muslim girl marry a hindu man who has converted into islam. If the muslim girl believes that nothing will come in the way and the hindu man who has converted into islam has strong and good intentions about islam as well as accepting the religion and marrying the person he loves then nothing should be wrong with it. Although, I agree with Kay786 because, no matter which person who comes from different backgrounds converts into islam should be fully commited, there are some people who tend to think its ok to switch back to their previously religion and to be changing religion's isnt a fun thing to do neither is it a joke. There is no point of any arguments to happen on here arguing and arguing about who is right or wrong. Some of us may not have strong knowledge about all of this and nobody else has compared to Allah. We are here to guide our brothers and sisters onto the right path by giving the right help and knowledge, by arguing to prove whos right and wrong where will that get you all? Shaitan can interfere with someone who has recently converted into Islam as well as interfering with someone who was already Muslim by birth! Think about it we are all here to support each other and pass on good knowledge not to discuss about who is right or wrong, shouldn't be putting each other down!

    • Asalamu alaikum @Ash786x

      Nice comment may Allah bless you.And may Allah guide us all to the light.Ameen

      • Walaikumasalam SAJA

        Jazakh'Allah Khair and may Allah bless you too and guide us all also make our deen much more strong In Shaa Allah Ameen

      • Mashallah sister ash786 what you said is right where only here to help the sister not to pick out wrongs or writes here at the end of the day we all have different opinions its not facts we say here because people have different interpretation than others , all I said was what I thought could happen I didn't say it definitely will where here to guide the sister not argue with each other like sister ash786 said no ones perfect here no one should make people feel that there always right and better than others because at the end of the day we should treat each other fairly and equally when one feels too share an opinion with other we should just listen to where they come from not assume straight away that there wrong everyone has a right to share what they suggest .

        neither are right or wrong here because in life they are many outcomes to one solution no just one its not like a maths answer, the only thing that's right and wrong out there is the path Allah swt has setted there out for us , in the end its your decisions what you choose to follow only Allah knows whos in the right and whos in the wrong.

        Don't put anyone down to make yourself feel above at the end of the day where all humans who are all learning here .

        Well-done sister ash786 for your beautiful comment dear you helped me open my eyes, thank you so much may Allah always keep you happy and help guide all our muslim ummah to the right path ameen.

        • I know Kay786 you just wanted to pass on the knowledge which you thought was right and not wrong intentionally and yes your right no one and nobody in this world is perfect and people should let go of arguing about who is right and wrong

          Jazkh'Allah Khair sister Kay786, may Allah always keep you happy aswell In Shaa Allah Ameen

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